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7 months out - what am I going to have left to do???

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Re: 7 months out - what am I going to have left to do???

  • Our wedding is 7 months out too, and we have most everything booked/decided. I actually wish I had more to do now... when I think of all the DIY and little details that have to be done a month before or at the last minute, I feel pretty overwhelmed. I get bogged down in the little details.

    I should really do more DIY decoration stuff now, but our living space is super small and storage would be a problem. I'm not even sure where I'm going to keep my wedding dress when it comes in.
  • jules3964 said:
    Our wedding is 7 months out too, and we have most everything booked/decided. I actually wish I had more to do now... when I think of all the DIY and little details that have to be done a month before or at the last minute, I feel pretty overwhelmed. I get bogged down in the little details.

    I should really do more DIY decoration stuff now, but our living space is super small and storage would be a problem. I'm not even sure where I'm going to keep my wedding dress when it comes in.
    My dress is taking up 1/3 of my closet right now.  It's ridiculous.

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  • jules3964 said:
    Our wedding is 7 months out too, and we have most everything booked/decided. I actually wish I had more to do now... when I think of all the DIY and little details that have to be done a month before or at the last minute, I feel pretty overwhelmed. I get bogged down in the little details.

    I should really do more DIY decoration stuff now, but our living space is super small and storage would be a problem. I'm not even sure where I'm going to keep my wedding dress when it comes in.
    My dress is taking up 1/3 of my closet right now.  It's ridiculous.
    Seriously. Our tiny house was built in the 20's, which means we have super small closets. I guess brides back then all wore slim fitting wedding dresses, because there's no way even my A-line is going to fit without some serious rearranging. It will probably end up hanging behind the bedroom door or something.

    As a sidenote, FI's old roommates were a couple, and after they got married her wedding dress ended up awkwardly hanging off a bookshelf in the living room for years. Looked really classy. I guess she finally took it down and did something else with it when they got divorced.
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    Sars06 said:
    We are the same way! Our wedding is in August, and we were done planning in the first week of January. People keep asking me if I'm "so stressed," and I cannot even imagine why I would be. 

    Of course, we are doing no DIY. Also, I'm not particular. E.g. Colors? What colors? 

    It always struck me as a little AWish when brides talk about how stressed they are planning their wedding. It's kind of like...you're throwing a big party for yourself. It's not like anyone is forcing you to do it.
    i'm not a person that stresses much, and i've been very laid back with planning.  I didn't even set a date until 6 months after being engaged.  I'm 2 months out and still haven't picked out rings, booked a honeymoon, booked a limo.   That doesn't bother me at all, I'm not overly worried or concerned, it'll all come together.   BUT the stress comes from family members...maybe they aren't "forcing" you into anything,but they can be very opinionated.  
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  • jenni1221 said:
    Sars06 said:
    We are the same way! Our wedding is in August, and we were done planning in the first week of January. People keep asking me if I'm "so stressed," and I cannot even imagine why I would be. 

    Of course, we are doing no DIY. Also, I'm not particular. E.g. Colors? What colors? 

    It always struck me as a little AWish when brides talk about how stressed they are planning their wedding. It's kind of like...you're throwing a big party for yourself. It's not like anyone is forcing you to do it.
    i'm not a person that stresses much, and i've been very laid back with planning.  I didn't even set a date until 6 months after being engaged.  I'm 2 months out and still haven't picked out rings, booked a honeymoon, booked a limo.   That doesn't bother me at all, I'm not overly worried or concerned, it'll all come together.   BUT the stress comes from family members...maybe they aren't "forcing" you into anything,but they can be very opinionated.  
    I agree. We're having a small adults-only wedding, and most of my stress comes from family wanting us to invite so-and-so, wanting to add extra plus 1's, assuming kids are invited, or trying to substitute an uncle who can't attend with a cousin who wasn't invited. 
  • I agree with PP who said that a lot of people create their own stress. I got married last October. My florist called me the Thurs before my Sat wedding to say that one kind of flower she ordered didn't come in the correct shade of pink. She sounded so nervous telling me this that I had to laugh- I think she was afraid I would flip out. I told her I trust her judgement and remained stress free.

    I also think seating charts aren't as bad as a lot of people make it sound (granted I only had 125 people at my wedding, I could see being a bit overwhelmed if it was double that). I had plenty of people who OMFG can't be at the same table, but I planned a lot out ahead of time and did quick updates as RSVPs came in. 

    My point is, you seem laid back so you will probably be fine as your wedding date approaches :)

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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    I wonder about this too!  It doesn't even seem to me to have a lot to do with whether you are a procrastinator or "type A" and wanting to arrange everything way ahead of time.. the whole business is organized so oddly!  I mean, we literally had no alternative to finding and booking all our vendors close to a year out.  Unless you are getting married in a backyard and DIY everything.. no vendors.. there's no other way.  (Assuming you want to be able to choose your vendors or ensure that someone will be available on your wedding day.)  So it's kinda gone like.. Surprise, here's an engagement ring! Oh my god, I had no idea this was coming and suddenly we have to plan an entire wedding in two months!!  Okay, whew, everything's settled, now we just... basically wait 9 months for the wedding to get here.  Weird lull.

    Yep, we had all major vendors booked by May of last year for our October 2014 wedding. You have to book your ceremony, reception, photogs, and MUAs 1.5 to 1 year out here.

    For months and months people have been asking us how the wedding planning had been going and we just tell them done!

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  • jenni1221 said:
    Sars06 said:
    We are the same way! Our wedding is in August, and we were done planning in the first week of January. People keep asking me if I'm "so stressed," and I cannot even imagine why I would be. 

    Of course, we are doing no DIY. Also, I'm not particular. E.g. Colors? What colors? 

    It always struck me as a little AWish when brides talk about how stressed they are planning their wedding. It's kind of like...you're throwing a big party for yourself. It's not like anyone is forcing you to do it.
    i'm not a person that stresses much, and i've been very laid back with planning.  I didn't even set a date until 6 months after being engaged.  I'm 2 months out and still haven't picked out rings, booked a honeymoon, booked a limo.   That doesn't bother me at all, I'm not overly worried or concerned, it'll all come together.   BUT the stress comes from family members...maybe they aren't "forcing" you into anything,but they can be very opinionated.  
    Very true. I admit I'm coming from the perspective of having families who (for the most part) have not been pains in the ass. I can definitely see how family can cause stress.
  • To follow up, we got engaged in October 2012. We booked all of our vendors by January 2013 for our March 2014 wedding. Then I sat there. I ordered my dress and BM dresses in April. And then I sat on my ass again. 

    This conversation happened 100 times during this time period:
    "So, how's wedding planning?!"
    "....What? Am I supposed to be doing something?"

    The only thing I've done in the past two months: 1) Finalize and send invitations 2) Seating chart (slightly annoying, but not stressful at all) 3) Placecards 4) Finalizing programs 5) Final vendor meetings. 

    The day before (tomorrow!) I'm getting my nails done, dropping stuff off at the venue, and picking up my ring from the jeweler, who's dipping/polishing it tomorrow morning. And then napping. I forgot. I'm gonna nap.  I just can't be stressed about planning. I'm too busy being stressed about potentially having a panic attack during the ceremony. DUH.
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  • phiraphira Bahstin member
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    jules3964 said:
    jules3964 said:
    Our wedding is 7 months out too, and we have most everything booked/decided. I actually wish I had more to do now... when I think of all the DIY and little details that have to be done a month before or at the last minute, I feel pretty overwhelmed. I get bogged down in the little details.

    I should really do more DIY decoration stuff now, but our living space is super small and storage would be a problem. I'm not even sure where I'm going to keep my wedding dress when it comes in.
    My dress is taking up 1/3 of my closet right now.  It's ridiculous.
    Seriously. Our tiny house was built in the 20's, which means we have super small closets. I guess brides back then all wore slim fitting wedding dresses, because there's no way even my A-line is going to fit without some serious rearranging. It will probably end up hanging behind the bedroom door or something.

    As a sidenote, FI's old roommates were a couple, and after they got married her wedding dress ended up awkwardly hanging off a bookshelf in the living room for years. Looked really classy. I guess she finally took it down and did something else with it when they got divorced.
    Old Boston apartment = almost no closet space. My dress is in the office closet and we can barely put anything else in there because of it.
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    phira said:
    jules3964 said:
    jules3964 said:
    Our wedding is 7 months out too, and we have most everything booked/decided. I actually wish I had more to do now... when I think of all the DIY and little details that have to be done a month before or at the last minute, I feel pretty overwhelmed. I get bogged down in the little details.

    I should really do more DIY decoration stuff now, but our living space is super small and storage would be a problem. I'm not even sure where I'm going to keep my wedding dress when it comes in.
    My dress is taking up 1/3 of my closet right now.  It's ridiculous.
    Seriously. Our tiny house was built in the 20's, which means we have super small closets. I guess brides back then all wore slim fitting wedding dresses, because there's no way even my A-line is going to fit without some serious rearranging. It will probably end up hanging behind the bedroom door or something.

    As a sidenote, FI's old roommates were a couple, and after they got married her wedding dress ended up awkwardly hanging off a bookshelf in the living room for years. Looked really classy. I guess she finally took it down and did something else with it when they got divorced.
    Old Boston apartment = almost no closet space. My dress is in the office closet and we can barely put anything else in there because of it.
    My dress isn't even that big, and I had my FMIL take it to her house.  We have no closet space as it is. I have to bring it back for my first fitting in a couple weeks anyway, so it's not a big deal. 
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  • I wasn't stressed until the week of our wedding. I had to finish up our centerpieces and make escort cards the day before our wedding, but that wasn't bad. Our photographer and ceremony musicians stressed us out a few days before our wedding. Our musicians canceled and booked another group who said they couldn't find sheet music for some of the songs we wanted for our ceremony. I ended up calling the DJ two days before our wedding to see if we could add on the ceremony and he said he'd be able to if we needed it. When I told the musicians we were considering canceling them and going with the DJ, they miraculously found the sheet music. We were extremely grateful that our DJ was willing to do add on our ceremony if needed, but that was stressful.

    Our photographer was a huge stressor as well. She threw a fit about needing 2 hours to do photos for our first look, family photos and wedding party photos so we ended up changing our plans and had to ask our family to get to the venue an hour earlier than we had previously told them two days before our wedding. On the day of our wedding, she got lost trying to get the venue and called me, freaking out. If it weren't for those two things, I would have been stress free. 




  • Havin been through 2 of my own weddings and the 4th DD getting married in June I really think it is different for everyone.

    If you are having your wedding at a place where they do everything for you, you have no set up, tear down, clean up, etc. then things should go pretty smoothly.  If you have to do those things, the days up to your wedding can be pretty busy.

    We can't afford to throw the kind of weddings we would like for our girls (and what THEY would like too) at a hotel or ballroom.  We CAN do that if we rent a venue that allows us to bring in the caterer of our choice, the bartender of our choice, the DJ of our choice, etc.  We use all professional vendors, but we have to do the work ourselves. Makes for a pretty busy couple of days!  Organization and staying on schedule is key so that we aren't doing last minute projects that were the victim of procrastinating.

     

  • I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.  The person that surprisingly gave me the most drama (though very little in comparison to other stories I've heard) is my Mom.  But other than that, it's been smooth sailing so far.  I've always been one to procrastinate, and I'm trying to change that about myself, so I've booked all of my vendors and now I feel like I spend wedding time just twiddling my thumbs.  Oh well, September will be here before we know it....
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  • I'm 2 weeks out and I am stressed about 5 things.
    1) Work related. I have a long-term experiment that will be ongoing when I am away for the wedding and one of my lab mates will have to take over, so I am stressed that there will be a problem that she won't know how to solve and she won't be able to reach me (unlikely, but possible).

    2) Transporting my dress across the country on an airplane. I've been stressing about this since we decided to get married in our home province.

    3) Forgetting something at my apartment that is needed for the wedding. The only thing that is absolutely necessary is our birth certificates because we can't get the marriage license without them. It will suck if we forget something else (rings, accessories, etc) but those won't prevent us from getting married

    4) The weather in Ontario. We are getting married by my childhood minister. She has to drive 100km the day of the wedding to be there. If there is a snow storm/sleet/other super crappy weather she won't make it. I have best case and worst case back up plans in place.

    5) FI's recent "brilliant" ideas, such as a slide show of pictures of our guests, showing our proposal video as part of the reception, allowing any one who wants to make a toast or tell a story to do so during dinner. He keeps having phone conversations with his parents that start with "so I haven't told C yet, but we're going to do {insert terrible idea} at the wedding" 

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  • InkdancerInkdancer The Shire member
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    @cmfarr If you let the airline know about your dress (and bring it as your carryon) they can often hang it in the captain's closet or give it its own seat.
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