My sister is planning a bachelorette party for me. I have a small bridal party consisting of my closest friends, all of whom live far away from me. My ideal night is to be able to spend the maximum amount of time with each of them, so I asked her to limit the guest list to bridal party only. She's planning the party in City A.
The issue: I have a friend, who is invited to the wedding, but not bridal party, who happens to live in City A. This friend was invited to my shower (although she couldn't make it) and I would definitely want to include her bc 1) I genuinely love her and 2) I don't want her to feel snubbed bc I was in City A and didn't get in touch with her. BUT I'm worried that this is rude to others who were invited to the shower, but aren't being invited to this bach party. Can I invite this friend? Or will opening it up to people who aren't in the bridal party make other friends who were invited to the shower and not the bach take this as a snub bc they were only invited to the "gift giving" event and not the "fun" one?
Or am I making this into a much bigger deal than it needs to be? Yikes!