So many choices!

AshleyNicole1218

I've been finding that I haven't been enjoying wedding planning as much as I think I should. Don't get me wrong...I in no way thought this would be super easy or tons of fun, but I feel like it is a special time and I should just be more happy and grateful. I have a great FI who has shared the planning process. We have great jobs that allow us to have a nice (but within our means) wedding. Yet I agonize over many of the decisions and over-analyze and over-research everything.

I'm trying to remember to relax, smile and enjoy the ride. Any advice for a crazy girl like me?

Wedqueen12

Reach out to as many people as you can. This is a stressful time and it never hurts to have someone there for you that has been there done that. Breathe! I know it sounds funny but I can't count how many times others have said that to me. It's easy to become overwhelmed, but take it step by step and know that although it may seem like everything is going wrong, the fact of the matter is everything is fine. Enjoy this time too spend lots of time making notes and jotting down any ideas you may have. I'm always posting on pininterest, don't be afraid to ask for help. I've sought much advice from this site and a lot of it has helped me tremendously. If ever in doubt feel free to message me I'm in the same shoes you are, my wedding is like literally just months away. 

phira

You should have seen me when I was researching what items to put on our registries. My partner was a little worried about me because I was obsessing over the exact brand of sheets, the exact vacuum, the exact GARLIC PRESS. It was definitely stressful.

However, a lot of planning is easier if you go with your gut and don't think about your decisions after you make them. It also helps to remind yourself, over and over again, that the vast majority of details are going to be entirely forgotten (not just by your guests--but by you as well).

So, find a dress or outfit you love, and it's in your price range? Great! Don't spend any time worrying that there was actually some other, magical wedding outfit out there that would have been 100X better.

Do your invitations accurately and perfectly reflect your personality? No one will care--buy ones you like.

Don't have time to handmake your favors and personalize them for each guest? Skip favors altogether if you're too stressed.

Etc. etc. I've really enjoyed wedding planning, but sometimes, I get wrapped up in these little details. I was stressed because my partner and I found invitations we both really love, but they don't have matching save-the-dates ... and the one save-the-date we both liked enough to want to send was still not my favorite. Now, months later, I LOVE our save-the-dates because they're ours and they're very cute. Are they perfect? Do they accurately convey our personalities and the exact style/mood of our event? Nope. More accurately, no idea, couldn't care less anyway.

jenna8984

Don't sweat the small stuff!!!

I was searching for candles for my lantern centerpieces and I was agonizing over "well these ones are cheaper but they are a half inch more narrow, will that look weird?" And then I smacked myself and said seriously, of all the things at the wedding NOBODY is going to be sitting at their table thinking the candles should be a half inch wider! It's just silly, so don't worry about those little things that may cause unnecessary stress.

mschristie123

You're right, there are an infinite amount of decisions to be made. I hear you on that. I've been pretty anxious throughout the wedding planning process, especially because I didn't know exactly what I liked or how I wanted. (Gold or silver chairs? What color napkins? Tulips in my bouqet??) And on and on and on.

What really helped me is to use my vendors and the experts that they are. I sought a lot of advice and recommendations from them which helped tremendously to manage my stress.A lot of times I would just say, "I have no idea, what do you think is best?" I trust their decisions and I trust the people that we hired, so it helped me relax knowing that I had professionals make some of the decisions for me. Good luck!

AshleyNicole1218

Thanks @mschristie123 @jenna8984 @phira @wedqueen12 ! I know most of it is common sense, but sometimes I can't shut the crazy off!

It's funny bacause I KNOW half the stuff I worry about won't be noticable to almost everyone. But I still agonize! Most of it is my Type A, in control personality. Thanks for the advice and words of wisdom. I'm going to pop open this thread when I'm having a rough day.

cruffino

I was so worried about doing everything "right". Drove myself crazy for a while. It's tough being a type A.