What do you think of this dress for the maid of honor?

calliuk

My maids are all spread out across the country, so I just told them to pick their own blush/pale pink colored dresses. My two bridesmaids both co-incidentally ended up choosing J Crew strapless short chiffon dresses (the same weekend! Was so funny they picked the exact same one). My maid of honor fell in love with this dress and she looks stunning in it:

http://www1.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/sue-wong-short-beaded-dress-with-petal-skirt?ID=971956&CategoryID=2911#fn=spp=11&ppp=96&sp=1&rid=&spc=70 items in Dresses Sue Wong&cm_kws=Dresses Sue Wong

I really like it, but my fiance, my mother and my sister in laws to be aren't too keen - they think it's too sexy, too fancy, too showy...so I'm not sure. It fits her personality so well and I'm not worried about being upstaged by it, but it looks like others are. I feel bad telling her not to wear it and I feel bad that others will judge her for wearing it. What should we do? What do you girls think of this?

Dignity100

Honestly, I think it's a little short in the picture for a formal occasion.  If it at least goes down mid-knee then I think it should be ok, but looking at the model it's quite a bit above.

sarahufl

I don't think it is appropriate. I may have to see it on, but it doesn't look very formal to me.

doeydo

If you told her to pick any pale pink dress that she wanted and then she chose this, then I don't think you can take that back and then give her further restrictions after she already found something that went along with the initial instructions she was given.

shaylagirl

The length isn't what I, personally, would find troublesome; it's the amount of cleavage.  Maybe paired with a cute wrap or shawl?

hyechica81

the dress is totaly wrong i know you said pale pink but i dont think it would work for the wedding its to short to flashy shows to much. if you went to her and said hey this dress wont work you might hurt her feelings.

but if you are doing a church wedding you could say they have a rule where the dresses have to e a little more modest you could use the j crew dresses as an example

me i am not a fan of mixed dresses unless it was from the same designer same color same  fabric

we did jasmine l3001 in chiffon long for my maids 7 of them who range in ages 14-27 and the dress looked good on my 14 year old cousin

maybe if shes ok with it you could find something more appropriate

STARMOON44

I think the dress is beautiful and perfectly appropriate. You told them to pick, she found something that suits her, Id tell everyone else that her decision is final.

chibiyui

I think it's fine. As long as it isn't breaking any dress code at your venue, it shouldn't matter what she weats.

Ven&Radio

I don't really care for the dress. I feel like the top part is too sexy for a wedding and the bottom is just ugly.  It's also pretty short (on the model anyhow, if your friend is short the length may not be an issue). 

ElcaB

Honestly, I'm not a fan of the dress for many reasons. First of all, it does seem a tad revealing for the occasion. Secondly, my personal opinion is that the dress is just ugly. Third, I'm not sure how old your MOH is but this reminds me of something I'd see at freshmen homecoming. 

I think she can do better. 

climbingsingle

I personally don't care for the dress, but I think it's fine if she wants to wear it. 

vmj23

I don't personally like it.  It doesn't look wedding appropriate to me - it's very immature looking, with that bottom.   I wouldn't consider it fancy, at all.   I can see that you are in a hard postion, because you told them to pick what they want within a color. If you are fine with it, let her wear it.

tammym1001

I think this is the problem you run into when you give your maids a color and tell them to pick whatever they want with no other guidelines. She did exactly what you asked, she picked a dress in the color you said that she liked and would be comfortable in.

MrsMarende

OP - Did she already purchase the dress or did she send you the link asking for your opinion?

If she hasn't already bought it I would say it is ok to tell her you just don't care for the style, then maybe email her back 3-4 other options in a similar price point that you would like better. 

CrazyCatLady3

doeydo said:

If you told her to pick any pale pink dress that she wanted and then she chose this, then I don't think you can take that back and then give her further restrictions after she already found something that went along with the initial instructions she was given.

She could maybe get out of it by saying she wants plain pink, and she doesn't think the gold embellishments would work with her scheme.  I mean, the maid asked her her opinion if the dress is okay, so she should manage if OP comes back and says she would prefer something else.