"Declines with regrets"?

offthemarket915

I am finalizing our invites, etc. and the RSVP card includes the following wording:

____  accepts with pleasure

____  declines with regrets

 

Is it just me (or the DayQuil), or does the second one sound off?  Should it be declines with regret (singular?)  Or is it assuming two people declining, in which case "regret(s)" might be preferable?

 

majesty318

It should be just regret.

offthemarket915

Thanks, thought so

 

CMGragain

I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.

princessleia22

CMGragain said:

I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.

Or you could give the option to happily accept, regretfully decline, regretfully accept, or happily decline.  That should cover all bases.

Jen4948

nicoann said:

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CMGragain said:

I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.

Or you could give the option to happily accept, regretfully decline, regretfully accept, or happily decline.  That should cover all bases.

No, don't try to co-opt someone's emotions about their RSVP.  That really crosses boundaries inappropriately.  Just use "accepts" and "declines." 

AddieCake

Yeah, I prefer just accepts/ declines or will/ will not attend.

MollyandD

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nicoann said:

CMGragain said:

I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.

Or you could give the option to happily accept, regretfully decline, regretfully accept, or happily decline.  That should cover all bases.

No, don't try to co-opt someone's emotions about their RSVP.  That really crosses boundaries inappropriately.  Just use "accepts" and "declines." 

I thought that was sarcasm.

Jen4948

Molly&Domenic said:

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Jen4948 said:

nicoann said:

CMGragain said:

I personally prefer "accepts" and "declines"  I think "with regret" is presumptive. You can use whichever you want, though.

Or you could give the option to happily accept, regretfully decline, regretfully accept, or happily decline.  That should cover all bases.

No, don't try to co-opt someone's emotions about their RSVP.  That really crosses boundaries inappropriately.  Just use "accepts" and "declines." 

I thought that was sarcasm.

No indication of it.

lyndausvi

I like just accepts or declines.  i always felt "with pleasure" or "with regrets" as presumptuous. 

There are some weddings I've declined with pleasure and accepted with regrets.

banana468

Ditto PPs that I'm not a fan of any added emotion on the response cards.

hyechica81

mine says ____ attending
                   ____ not attending

then under it it lists our menu choices

____  twin stuffed lobster tails ____prime rib
____  chicken francaise ____eggplant parmigiana

i had to proof read ours so many times and make sure i looked up spelling as the company we used theamericanwedding wanted an extra 25$ for a digital proof