Both sets of parents in procession if B&G walk in together?

ceruse

My fiance and I have known for years that we wanted to walk down the aisle together, rather than me being given away by my dad or anyone else. We love the idea of the two of us coming to the altar as a couple to enter this marriage.

In light of this, my question involves the processional proceeding us. (No grandparents are attending.) The groom's mother will be the first seated, and she wants to be escorted by the groom's dad. Makes sense to me, no problem.

My mom is next, but my parents are divorced. Originally I thought my brother would escort her (he's an usher), but then my dad is completely left out. So now I am thinking he should escort my mom. It seems like it would be more strange to leave him out than to have him escort my mom, because then it would be more like all the parents processing in advance of us than the traditional "seating of the mothers."

Do you think this can work?

professorscience

That's a question better suited for your parents, I think.  However, if your FI escorted his mom, then his dad would just walk behind them.  I think you could do the same thing in this case -- have your brother escort your mom, and your dad walk behind them.

Calypso1977

if your parents are civil and get along, id have your dad escort your mom.

 

monkeysip

I agree with Prof that it's up to them.  Ask what they're comfortable with.  

Also just wanted to say that I love that you and FI are walking in together.  I love it!

ceruse

Thanks, I love it too! We have been together for nine years, I just can't imagine walking beside anyone else. FI is the closest person in the world to me. The symbolism just makes more sense for us.

I think I'm going to talk with my parents about it this weekend. I know my dad will do whatever, he says he is just happy to be there. It depends on my mom. I just wanted to see if there were other ideas I hadn't thought of or if I was being totally crazy.

Thanks everyone!

STARMOON44

Is your dad attending with someone special? If so he should escort her or no one. He and date could go first , then FI's parents, then mom and brother. Or is there a special aunt or godmother who needs an escort ?

Tami87

I like the idea of dad walking behind mom and brother. Or dad escorting another special guest. I think it would be a little weird having your parents walk together when they are no longer a couple. However, if they are both cool with it and prefer that option then I don't think it is an issue.

monkeysip

ceruse said:

Thanks, I love it too! We have been together for nine years, I just can't imagine walking beside anyone else. FI is the closest person in the world to me. The symbolism just makes more sense for us.

I think I'm going to talk with my parents about it this weekend. I know my dad will do whatever, he says he is just happy to be there. It depends on my mom. I just wanted to see if there were other ideas I hadn't thought of or if I was being totally crazy.

Thanks everyone!

We dated for 10 years, and I love the symbolism too.  But my Dad had walked my sister at her wedding, and had his heart walking me at mine, and I just couldn't let him down.  But I always admire it when couples walk together!

I agree with STARMOON though that if your Dad has a date he wants to walk with, he should walk with her.  Otherwise, walking behind mom and brother is fine too.

ceruse

My dad doesn't have a date, it will just be him.

I talked to my parents about it this weekend and they both said it wasn't a problem. They've been divorced for 14+ years and are on good terms (my mom just spent a week with my dad helping him recover from surgery), so they didn't seem to think it was weird at all.

I will think about the walking behind mom and brother idea, but my dad is kind of shy guy and I'm not sure he will want to walk by himself. lol!