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Include mom in walking down the aisle?

I have always pictured being walked down the aisle at my wedding by both of my parents. However, I spoke with my mother, and it turns out my father really wants to have that special moment- which is sweet, but, I would still like to include my mother in some way....

I have thought about mom meeting us halfway down? I dont know, I was hoping someone out there had a good idea!

Thanks!!

Re: Include mom in walking down the aisle?

  • This summer a friend got married and had her Dad walk her down the aisle and her Mom met them at the alter.  When the minister says "who gives this woman..." they BOTH responded "We do".  Maybe do something like that?
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  • I like April's suggestion. I think the half way hand off is awkward.
  • I have same problem.  I always imagined both parents walking me down the aisle.  When I mentioned the idea to my dad, he was not thrilled with the idea at all.  He didn't say it outright, but made it pretty obvious that he considers that to be his job and doesn't want to share the duty. My mom has stayed back and refrained from commenting on it at all so far, but I haven't asked her directly either.

    I'm still debating just telling my dad that having both of them walk me would mean a lot to me, so he just needs to suck it up and deal with it. My guess is that they would probably be okay with it if I stressed that it was really important to me (yours probably would too).  I think a hand-off halfway would be weird.  I do kind of like the idea of mom just meeting at the alter, though.  

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  • Why not just have both parents walk you together down the aisle? This is common at Jewish weddings, BTW.
  • I think if that is your wish, you should try and impress upon your dad how much it would mean to you to have them both walk you.  Do you know how your mom feels about it?  I have to say, I felt almost as nervous as a bride to be walking down the aisle as the MOB, because I knew all eyes would be on me.  I felt special and significant knowing I was signalling one of the most important parts of the ceremony.....the bridal party entrance.  Perhaps that is just as special to your mom.
  • One thing to take into consideration with having both parents to do, how big is the isle? Will dad, mom & you in your wedding dress fit side by side going down the isle. I know it sounds silly but if you have a really big dress and the isle you are going down isn't really wide, one of them will end up having to walk behind or your dress will get squished which will look bad in photos.

     

  • I had both my parents walk me down the aisle because it meant a lot to me, both have raised me and help me grow into the person I am today so both get to "give me away". Although I wasn't given away we did a parent's blessing with all 4 parents. 
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  • I'm actually my mom and grandma walk down the aisle together before the wedding party to start it. It's my way of including my mother and honouring my grandma (who I had asked if it would be okay for us to get married on her and my recently passed grandfathers anniversary date). That way I can still have that special moment with my dad as well.

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  • I have always pictured being walked down the aisle at my wedding by both of my parents. However, I spoke with my mother, and it turns out my father really wants to have that special moment- which is sweet, but, I would still like to include my mother in some way....

    I have thought about mom meeting us halfway down? I dont know, I was hoping someone out there had a good idea!

    Thanks!!
    Initially, my daughter wanted to have both of us walk her down the aisle. She was going to have her fi's parents walk him in the processional, too. I told her I would do whatever she likes, but I thought it would mean a lot to her dad to escort her and it would mean a lot to me to be seated immediately before the processional so I could watch from a front row seat. That has always been the way MOBs, in my family, were honored. I remember the day she was born. Her dad beamed with pride and mentioned he would one day be walking his daughter down the aisle. I didn't want to take that honor away from him. My special moment was shopping for the dress, attending her shower and listening to all the little details of her wedding plans. Your mom might feel the same way. 


                       
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