Questions about adult only wedding with provided childcare

Jen4948

scribe95 said:

I've been thinking about this and I just can't think of a way to word it that the childcare is mandatory - as opposed to optional. That to me is the key. The parents sort of have to know that and be okay with it.

It's something that you'd have to discuss word-of-mouth with those guests who are affected by it so they can make informed decisions about it.  But yeah, I wouldn't put it in an invitation.

Simply Fated

OP, youre not really saving them legwork if they have to go do their own background checks, anyway.
I think your best bet is to just not invite the kids and if the parents bring up needing a baby-sitter you can offer to help.

MrsMarende

OP - I too am offering child care at our wedding, but here is the difference. 

Invites are only being sent to the adults addressed ONLY to the adults and they have no mention of child care. 

There are a SMALL group of OOT people that I cannot see having my wedding without them there. 

My sister - 3 year old

My FSIL - 3 year old

Close BM - 3 year old and 1 year old 

These 3 people by word of mouth are being told that a sitter will be provided in the hotel room at the venue. The remaining people with children who are invited will have to find their own child care or decline. I actually doubt my BM will use the service as her MIL takes her son regularly. 

My mother is a childcare provider and I am hiring one of her co-workers for the job. This person is accredited, does this for a living, and has a Livescan and background check.