I am having trouble choosing a bridesmaid and I was hoping for some input. You would think this would be fairly simple as we are having a small wedding and I only need one bridesmaid. However, I'm kind of in a friend transition period. I'm been out of college for a bit now and my college friends are drifting apart, or moving away, single people vs. paired up people etc. You know how it goes. So I don't have a lot of friends truly close to me right now.
So I pretty much think I have two choices. The first girl, I've known forever. And we were really really close at one point! Like we knew we could call each other in the middle of the night and the other would have your back. But now we've kinda drifted apart, never see each other, and occasionally email to keep up. Like she moved to the other side of the country and didn't even tell me until months later when I called her to meet up and she said she would call back after work at a certain time. It wasn't till I got off the phone that I realized she was in a completely different time zone! She's moved back and we've connected more since, but it's really not the same.
The second girl, I've known for a couple of years, but haven't really started hanging out with her until now. Now my fiance and I hang with her and her fiance quite frequently. I think there's a real potential for a good friendship to form! But that's the thing, it's still potential and I haven't hung out with her on a one on one basis. It has always been on couple dates or large social events.
What do you all think? The friend who was once close, but not so much anymore? Or the friend who I could eventually be really close with?