XP: Work Shower

chibiyui

So, today on my lunch break one of FI's coworkers called me. He said he and a couple other people want to throw a work shower for us and FI, and he'd like it to be a surprise to FI. I thanked him and said it sounded nice. BUT. I know FI doesn't care for showers. We were discussing showers in general (I was heading to a friends shower I think that weekend, it was a while ago) and FI finds them to be outdated. Which is fine. So, given that FI doesn't care for showers, I'm thinking of e-mailing his coworker and letting him know that FI is uncomfortable with showers in general, and maybe we just do a lunch together with people from work instead? Does that sound okay? Also, his coworker is very excited about planning this, and was like "We could have a Zelda theme since you guys like the game so much" Which is cool, but how involved is too involved for me?

hlvonb

I think emailing him and stating that your FI is uncomfortable with showers but maybe doing a zelda themed party (like an engagement party but don't call it that unless you're recently engaged) might be okay. That way the coworker can still plan something that won't make your FI uncomfortable. Other than that, I would stay out of it.