Where to buy a tiara?

bremnerschmitz

So I've decided that I want a tiara to go with my dress (because when else in my life will I have a legitimate reason to wear one?) Problem is I'm having trouble finding one I like.  Any tips on places to buy them?  I've seen them at the bridal salons, but they seem super overpriced.  I ordered a cheap one on amazon just to see what it was like and it's way too cheap and just looks like I'm trying to be prom queen, so it's going in the Halloween costume bin.  

 

Anyone found a good place to buy them? I've even considered looking into renting a super fancy one from a real jeweler (not sure I really want to go that far though).

CMGragain

I personally dislike tiaras on anyone except beauty pageant winners or royalty. I think it is pretentious, and too much like playing dress up princess when I was a little girl.
If you really must do this, talk to theatrical costume shops.  They can special order you one.

artbyallie

I wore a Celtic style circlet rather than a tiara, but I don't have the website now. However, here is an Etsy shop with similar pieces to what I bought. https://www.etsy.com/shop/Camias?ref=shop_sugg

lookame3639

Have you seen a tiara at a bridal shop you really loved? If soI would take the style and manufacturer down and check places like preownedweddingdresses.com, ebay, tradesy.com, ect. You can also search on etsy.com for tiaras.

doeydo

David's Bridal http://www.davidsbridal.com/Browse_Accessories-Headpieces-All-Headpieces-Tiaras__pageSize-all
Etsy http://www.etsy.com/ca/search/handmade/weddings/accessories/tiara?q=tiara&ship_to=CA&ref=auto2&explicit_scope=1
Claire's http://www.claires.com/store/us/the-goods/hair/cat1260172/hair/tiaras/;jsessionid=5306332110763F99B98939ACA4A4885F?catFilter=cat10000001,cat10000002&facets=cat10000001&facets=cat10000002&categoryId=cat1260172

AddieCake

Etsy.

RebeccaFlower

CMGragain said:

I personally dislike tiaras on anyone except beauty pageant winners or royalty. I think it is pretentious, and too much like playing dress up princess when I was a little girl.
If you really must do this, talk to theatrical costume shops.  They can special order you one.

I couldn't agree more. I think it makes brides look childish.

Dignity100

Charming Charlies has some as well

bremnerschmitz

Thanks for the help! 

atlastmrsg

I agree with the other posts about saying no to a tiara.  But if you love it, trophy/award stores have huge catalogs of them and many in stock for homecoming and pageant purchasers.  That's where I bought my tiara for prom...when I was a junior in high school.

LondonLisa

Instead of a tiara, maybe try a vintage hair comb or nice jewelled headband. They can have the sophisticated sparkle you desire without it looking like a school prom.

There are a lot of shops that specialise in that on etsy.

Maggie0829

Another one who hates tiaras.  I like sparkly headbands or hair combs or other hair accessories but tiaras, not so much.

shaylagirl

I'm not into tiaras...but if you're dead set on wearing one, Sam Moon sells some. 

ElcaB

I'm not into tiaras, but I have heard rave reviews of tiaras from places like Hobby Lobby. I've been told they're significantly cheaper than the ones from bridal shops without being cheap-looking. 

Alikat9614

Do you mean a legit princess tiara, or something called a "tiara" but really is just a pretty headband.

Ex. This is David Tutera Headpiece/Tiara, as listed on it's packaging.  It's more just a headband, and what I'd go with personally. This one was from Michaels.

bremnerschmitz

Ok, everyone I'm not talking about a giant "miss america" deal on my head.

Here's the general look of what I like:

Hoping to find one that has that size profile, so it's visible with a veil and but not obnoxious, but I want to find a design that has pearls mixed in with the sparkle.  

Sorry for the confusion with the term "tiara".  At the bridal salons that's the only version of a tiara I noticed, so I thought in wedding world the term was more self-explanatory.

CMGragain

Sorry.  I still don't like them, unless you are royalty.  JMHO.

QueerFemme

CMGragain said:

Sorry.  I still don't like them, unless you are royalty.  JMHO.

Me either. Looks like a prom.

Maggie0829

CMGragain said:

Sorry.  I still don't like them, unless you are royalty.  JMHO.

Same.

bremnerschmitz

Good to know you all don't like tiaras. 

Fyi - there's a difference between asking for resources and asking for opinions.  Didn't really ask this question to find out if the whole world likes tiaras or not.  I know they're not everyone's taste.  But they're my taste.  Things other people do in their weddings are often not my taste, but sitting around telling everyone my opinion when they don't ask for it is pretty pointless.  I personally would rather reserve my opinions for people who actually ask for it. 

artbyallie

bremnerschmitz said:

Good to know you all don't like tiaras. 

Fyi - there's a difference between asking for resources and asking for opinions.  Didn't really ask this question to find out if the whole world likes tiaras or not.  I know they're not everyone's taste.  But they're my taste.  Things other people do in their weddings are often not my taste, but sitting around telling everyone my opinion when they don't ask for it is pretty pointless.  I personally would rather reserve my opinions for people who actually ask for it. 

You put it out there on the internet though, and people are free to respond to whatever portion of that they choose. And this way, you know that some of your guests may very well be thinking your tiara is childish/promlike/AWish. If that is something that would bother you, you are at least now aware of it in case it changes your mind. It's just a fair warning that quite a lot of people dislike tiaras on brides. I knew going in that people might silently judge me for the circlet and I just didn't give a fuck.

Fairyjen1

  You know what, a tiara has nothing to do with etiquette so if you want one, go for it! You aren't compromising guests comfort by wearing one. I'll be wearing one myself! I don't really care what other's think of it. I am only having 15 or so guests so the pool of people who could possibly be offended is small. I'm also getting married at Disneyland where tiara's abound.

   If you are in California Evangeline's in Old Sacramento had a ton of tiara's and head pieces and none were over 30 dollars. I'll probably be getting mine there. They had every thing from small and understated to MIss America. 

QueerFemme

You posted something on a public message board, so you don't get to dictate how people respond.  But, just keep in mind, as a general rule, if the majority of people online feel a certain way, it's likely that the majority of people in your real life will feel the same way.

I'd rather a group of strangers tell me something then embarrass myself in front of my family & friends.   I mean, you are certainly permitted to wear whatever you want to your wedding.    You aren't going to offend anyone with a tiara, but I promise you, people will side-eye it.

Fairyjen1

      Yup, everyone's entitled to an opinion and when you post on a public message board you have to be prepared for that. My opinion on tiara's differs from the majority, and I'm okay with that.

      I have a thick enough skin to withstand any side-eyeing of my tiara that may occur, but It's good to know how people may react, in case you need to brace yourself. As long as you aren't going against any decency laws or venue dress code, you can pretty much wear what you want. If someone you know is that sensitive to seeing a tiara, or other non-traditional wedding attire,  you might want to warn them ahead of time so they can decide if they want to come or not. But you are not breaking any etiquette rules with your tiara. 

    My family, will think it's odd if I don't wear a tiara. They are probably expecting fairy wings as well, but even I am not going that far. 

QueerFemme

Fairyjen1 said:

      Yup, everyone's entitled to an opinion and when you post on a public message board you have to be prepared for that. My opinion on tiara's differs from the majority, and I'm okay with that.

      I have a thick enough skin to withstand any side-eyeing of my tiara that may occur, but It's good to know how people may react, in case you need to brace yourself. As long as you aren't going against any decency laws or venue dress code, you can pretty much wear what you want. If someone you know is that sensitive to seeing a tiara, or other non-traditional wedding attire,  you might want to warn them ahead of time so they can decide if they want to come or not. But you are not breaking any etiquette rules with your tiara. 

    My family, will think it's odd if I don't wear a tiara. They are probably expecting fairy wings as well, but even I am not going that far. 

I agree with everything you've said.  I don't think anyone will be sensitive to it... but, generally, people are like, "what is she, 5?".  But, like you said, if you have a thick skin, and don't give a crap if people side-eye or not, I agree that you should wear whatever you want. 

Sort of like tuxes before 6pm. It's a victimless crime, some people will side eye it, but if someone wants to wear a tux, they should (in my opinion). 

CMGragain

I did say that you can wear it if you feel you must.  Know that if this many of us dislike tiaras, so will some of your guests.
I just think of Big Bang Theory's Amy Farrah Fowler jumping around shouting "It's a tiara!  It's a tiara!  I'm a princess!"

jimandpam87

CMGragain said:

I did say that you can wear it if you feel you must.  Know that if this many of us dislike tiaras, so will some of your guests.
I just think of Big Bang Theory's Amy Farrah Fowler jumping around shouting "It's a tiara!  It's a tiara!  I'm a princess!"

This is exactly why you SHOULD wear one, btw.

Maggie0829

prettybirdy27 said:

Carrie Underwood wore a tiara - go for it!

Yeah and she looked like a contestant on Toddlers and Tiaras.  Not a mature 20 something getting married.

bremnerschmitz

QueerFemme said:

Fairyjen1 said:

      Yup, everyone's entitled to an opinion and when you post on a public message board you have to be prepared for that. My opinion on tiara's differs from the majority, and I'm okay with that.

      I have a thick enough skin to withstand any side-eyeing of my tiara that may occur, but It's good to know how people may react, in case you need to brace yourself. As long as you aren't going against any decency laws or venue dress code, you can pretty much wear what you want. If someone you know is that sensitive to seeing a tiara, or other non-traditional wedding attire,  you might want to warn them ahead of time so they can decide if they want to come or not. But you are not breaking any etiquette rules with your tiara. 

    My family, will think it's odd if I don't wear a tiara. They are probably expecting fairy wings as well, but even I am not going that far. 

I agree with everything you've said.  I don't think anyone will be sensitive to it... but, generally, people are like, "what is she, 5?".  But, like you said, if you have a thick skin, and don't give a crap if people side-eye or not, I agree that you should wear whatever you want. 

Sort of like tuxes before 6pm. It's a victimless crime, some people will side eye it, but if someone wants to wear a tux, they should (in my opinion). 

Wow, real people actually care about these things? never even heard of tuxes having a time limit.  Would never even think of it.  

Who actually attends weddings and just sits there criticizing everything that doesn't match their individual tastes?  Sounds like very petty people to me. 

jimandpam87, that's exactly why I want to wear one lol!  I've always pictured myself wearing one for my wedding, and that scene is exactly how I react to seeing a tiara lol.  

tammym1001

I think if the people that love you are going to talk shit about you at your wedding because you wear a tiara then you need to find new friends. That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Yes internet strangers can tell you that they don't like them, but I can't imagine your nearest and dearest bad mouthing you for it. It's so inconsequential! If it's your style then go for it.

I don't have any suggestions on where to get one other than a place like David's Bridal.

QueerFemme

tammym1001 said:

I think if the people that love you are going to talk shit about you at your wedding because you wear a tiara then you need to find new friends. That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Yes internet strangers can tell you that they don't like them, but I can't imagine your nearest and dearest bad mouthing you for it. It's so inconsequential! If it's your style then go for it.

I don't have any suggestions on where to get one other than a place like David's Bridal.

have you ever BEEN to a wedding or other function, like, in life?   People talk shit all the time.  it's just not billed as "talking shit".  they say "wow, that tiara makes her look like a child".  or, "um, I thought you weren't supposed to wear a tux before 6pm?"   Or, "I'm really surprised she wore a mermaid dress, with her figure".  They don't see it as talking shit.  It's just an observation.