Jewelry request ?

AllOnOneDay

Ok, so of my girls, I'm the last to get married. They are all very happy, with really wonderful marriages.

As a bit of good reminder about having a positive, uplifting marriage - can I ask that they wear at least one piece of jewelry they wore at their weddings?

I know required jewelry is a gray area, but I am thinking that's more in the "here's your present, you must wear it." behavior. Their only responsibilities are to wear an appropriate dress, show up on time and sober, and walk up the aisle. Granted, they also have to put up with any gripes, but that's a rule in our friendships outside weddings and we don't abuse that.

So am I being rude, or is this ok? Or is it just stupid?

CMGragain

Um, your friends will be wearing a piece of jewelry they wore on their wedding days - their wedding rings.  I think your idea is redundant.

AllOnOneDay

Thanks! Totally stupid moment, only my MOH wears her wedding ring normally, so I didn't even think of counting their rings.

insertusernamehere

Talk to them about it over a lunch together! Most of them probably wore earrings, or a necklace, or a bracelet.

A lot of couples I know don't normally wear their rings: through personal preference or job requirements. My parents don't, because my dad's job prohibits them and my mom lost her diamond when her ring got caught on a rolling cart of mail (post office). Don't worry, only the setting was truly important to her! They just got a diamond at a store, but the setting had sentimental value. Obviously she was sad, but it wasn't a devastating loss!

Also, I would NEVER think about not allowing any of our attendants to wear their rings, but I wouldn't consider it part of their attire if they wear it every day already. ASKING if they would WANT to wear something from their wedding isn't unreasonable, and I think it's an adorable idea. It's also one less thing for all of you to buy!

AllOnOneDay

Thanks!

Yeah, two are prohibited from wearing any jewelry at work, so they just never bother wearing their rings. Other just got hers caught on everything (she's a librarian, those rolling racks are the devil apparently), so she doesn't wear hers either. MOH and I slack off (ha) as S/WAHM so rings are a bit safer.

We all are earring lovers, so that's an easy one. Two wore necklaces, three wore bracelets (I think, MOH is who I'm not sure about and she may have actually) and one had the most awesome anklet ever, no matter how "dated" those are, it suited her so much better than a necklace.

ShellD13

I think that is a lovely idea - I bought my two girls jewelry but they are also my teenage stepdaughters and loved the idea of getting to pick out new sparkly jewelry ;-)

STARMOON44

I think I'd vomit if you asked me to do this. How treacly sweat does every detail of your wedding need to be. Their presence is a reminder of their happy marriages, not that you should need one.

hyechica81

i told my maids wear whatever jewelry you have  or that matches the dresses no need to buy anything special i also said that with the shoes silver or light sliver, any height or style flats or heals payless and jc penny have affordable options for shoes

indianaalum

I think it is kind of a cute idea, however, sometimes people "borrow" jewelry for their wedding so it might not even work out. It's worth tossing out the idea and see what they think

s-aries8990

I'd say that it's a cute idea to ASK them if they would like to over lunch. Don't require it (and make it KNOWN that it's not required). If they chose not to, it's no foul. It's not like you're asking them to buy fancy jewelry - just asking them if they would be interested.