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CMGragain said:It is perfectly proper to not include paper RSVPs. They were considered to be rude until the 1970s. The real problem is that many modern people are too ignorant or careless to respond without spoon feeding them the pre-printed cards. I'm with your FI.
It is perfectly proper to not include paper RSVPs. They were considered to be rude until the 1970s. The real problem is that many modern people are too ignorant or careless to respond without spoon feeding them the pre-printed cards. I'm with your FI.
So maybe you gals have some advice (don't want to start a new thread!). FI wants to do online RSVPs to save money on postage and envelopes. I like the idea of paper RSVPs much better given the formality of our wedding. It isn't a backyard BBQ type of occasion although it isn't the fanciest in town either. I'm using WW's website because I liked their options better, and I had my MOH test the online RSVP system. It worked fine, but I am still really unsure that is the way I want to go. There is only one person on our guest list who wouldn't be physically able to RSVP online and that's my grandmother but she couldn't even send in the card. She has Alzheimer's. How do I convince FI that traditional rsvps are the way to go?
When you receive an invitation with Rsvp. on it, you should immediately send a note either accepting or declining the invitation."Mr. and Mrs. John Doe accept the kind invitation of Bride and Groom (parents for (date). Yours truly, Jane Doe." If email or telephone options are provided, you may use these, but a written reply is always the most proper response. A pre-printed Rsvp. card implies that the guest doesn't have the good manners to properly reply to a formal invitation. This is WHY they were considered rude in the past. Miss Manners' daughter didn't use them for HER wedding, and neither did I.