I was a little put off by the facebook invite and the fact that the bride was co-hosting, oh and the wedding isn't until mid August of this year, but let it go.
Although I was a wee bit disappointed there wasn't any coffee (I'm a bit of an addict and didn't have time to grab some because I way over slept), it was a decent little gathering...enough seats, light cold cuts luncheon, everyone was friendly. Unfortunately, I didn't know a single other guest there, but oh well.
Game time came and there were a couple typical for our area bridal shower games....what's in your purse, how well do you know the bride. They passed out little green envelopes and I asked one of the other guests at my table what the envelopes are for. We had to address our own thank you envelopes, which were then put into a drawing for a door prize. The guest said "It's actually a really good idea because she doesn't have everyone's address." I caught myself...a moment too late...making a face that I'm sure was disgust. I tried to not register anything, but big fail and I do feel badly about that. I said, "Oh, I guess I assumed if she invited these people she'd have their addresses since they should all be on her wedding invitation list." The guest asked how else they would do the door prize drawing, to which I had suggested little pieces of paper from maybe a pocket size notebook.
I mentioned this to FMIL and she said she hasn't ever been to a bridal shower that this (guests addressing their own envelopes) wasn't done. It felt to me like I took the time to pick and purchase and nice gift, took time out of my weekend (I rarely get 2 days in a row off work, let alone a Friday/Saturday!), and you can't take the time to address the thank you cards yourself? It feels so impersonal. On the upside, I guess that will leave no excuse for thank you cards to not get done.
Overall it was a pleasant gathering and that was the main issue I had (aside from her registry list including a hair dryer which someone did buy).
My question...this is a faux pas, isn't it? J thinks I nitpicked looking for something to complain about. I'm not complaining, it's just something I thought was odd and feels wrong to me to do. Thoughts?