I'm from a country where it's very normal and not
at all offensive to ask for money as a wedding gift. It won't be on the invite,
but on a separate letter from the Master of Ceremony (kind of in between a wedding
planner and a MoH/BM) there’s a small envelope.
In this day and age, when people in most cases have
an established household, it seems odd to be so rigid that asking for money is
You should have the wedding you can afford and not
have guests fund your wedding, but why wouldn’t couples be allowed to ask for
money, and upgrade their honeymoon (flying business class, doing the scuba
course they thought was too expensive, etc.), have their bathroom redone (you
can’t really register for a plumber, can you?), or combine all the money they
got and buy a great digital SLR camera (which is too expensive to ask to one
Why is it such a problem to ask for money at an
American wedding? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I’m planning on doing so, and
I definitely prefer giving gifts to giving money, but I just don’t understand
the reasoning behind it. Is there anyone who can explain this to me?