Wedding Party Table - where do I seat their S/O?

samanthahorneff

Hi everyone!

My wedding is next month and I am figuring out the seating chart now. It just dawned on me that we have a wedding party table that include me and my husband, my bridesmaids, and his groomsmen. However, almost all of the groomsmen have serious girlfriends and I have no idea where to seat them! Of course, I would seat them together if I could, but we literally have that long table that looks over all the guests and it didn't hit me until now!

Any ideas/advice/help?

Please and Thanks!

beachyone15

Definitely seat them together. Even if you have to do multiple tables.

Maggie0829

Hi everyone!

My wedding is next month and I am figuring out the seating chart now. It just dawned on me that we have a wedding party table that include me and my husband, my bridesmaids, and his groomsmen. However, almost all of the groomsmen have serious girlfriends and I have no idea where to seat them! Of course, I would seat them together if I could, but we literally have that long table that looks over all the guests and it didn't hit me until now!

Any ideas/advice/help?

Please and Thanks!

You need to sit them with their SOs. It would be rude to split them up. My suggestion would be for you and your FI to either to have a sweetheart table and sit your wedding party amongst your guests OR you and your FI sit with your MOH and their SO and his Best Man and their SO. Then have one or two more tables for the rest of your wedding party and their SOs.

samanthahorneff

OK - I will go the sweetheart table route, but now, how do I separate the wedding party? There are 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen and all have dates. The majority of the Bridesmaids are my family (sister, 2 sister-in-laws, and two friends). My two friends do not have dates. The groomsmen are all friends, except his brother and they all have dates.

I'm not sure the right route! There is 10 at a table.

Maggie0829

OK - I will go the sweetheart table route, but now, how do I separate the wedding party? There are 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen and all have dates. The majority of the Bridesmaids are my family (sister, 2 sister-in-laws, and two friends). My two friends do not have dates. The groomsmen are all friends, except his brother and they all have dates.

I'm not sure the right route! There is 10 at a table.

Ok.  I would put your two friends with other guests that they know.  I would put your sister and SILs with either family or friends who they know and are attending.  Same goes with the GMs.  Sit them with people they know or with family.

OR mix up the BMs and GMs and have two tables with approximately 10 people per table.

Take the fact that they are in the wedding out of the equation.  Who would you sit them with if they were just guests?

HisGirlFriday13

Ditto Maggie. Take them being WP members out of the equation and seat them the way you would if they were just regular guests. By the time of the reception, that's what they really are, anyway.

lc07

OP glad you are changing your plans to properly accommodate your guests and their dates! Kudos to you!  

MobKaz

Maggie0829 said:

OK - I will go the sweetheart table route, but now, how do I separate the wedding party? There are 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen and all have dates. The majority of the Bridesmaids are my family (sister, 2 sister-in-laws, and two friends). My two friends do not have dates. The groomsmen are all friends, except his brother and they all have dates.

I'm not sure the right route! There is 10 at a table.

Ok.  I would put your two friends with other guests that they know.  I would put your sister and SILs with either family or friends who they know and are attending.  Same goes with the GMs.  Sit them with people they know or with family.

OR mix up the BMs and GMs and have two tables with approximately 10 people per table.

Take the fact that they are in the wedding out of the equation.  Who would you sit them with if they were just guests?

This ^^..My daughter seated her bridal party in this way.  Siblings of the groom sat at their family table.  The remainder of the bridal party sat scattered among 3 tables with their varying groups of friends. 

Jen4948

Seat all couples together, even if one of the couple is in the wedding party.  It isn't necessary to have all the wedding party sitting at a head table.  They can sit with other guests.

alphabridesmaid

You could also consider doing a king's table.. I think they have another name but I can't remember it at the moment. It's still a long table, but you would be able to fit all of the BP and their dates. It's essentially a head table except people sit all the way around the table. It's actually more comfortable because there's people in front of you to talk to and you aren't just staring at the guests like they're your audience. Here's an example-- the long table in the center is the king table and the couple sits at the head of the table. 

theartistformerlyknownas

Maggie0829 said:

OK - I will go the sweetheart table route, but now, how do I separate the wedding party? There are 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen and all have dates. The majority of the Bridesmaids are my family (sister, 2 sister-in-laws, and two friends). My two friends do not have dates. The groomsmen are all friends, except his brother and they all have dates.

I'm not sure the right route! There is 10 at a table.

Ok.  I would put your two friends with other guests that they know.  I would put your sister and SILs with either family or friends who they know and are attending.  Same goes with the GMs.  Sit them with people they know or with family.

OR mix up the BMs and GMs and have two tables with approximately 10 people per table.

Take the fact that they are in the wedding out of the equation.  Who would you sit them with if they were just guests?

This is what we're doing. Hubs (by then!) and I, plus MOH and her BF, best man and his wife at the "head" table. Then 2 mixed tables of the rest of the WP. It was pretty easy to split them, based on who knew whom best...

sister + BIL + nephew (RB) + niece

BFF + husband

BFF + husband

GM who's friends with BFF's husband + his date

FSIL (my BM) + her date

FBIL + FSIL + niece 1 (FG) + niece 2

FBIL + FSIL

GM + his GF

[Deleted User]

I second the King's Table. This is what DH and I did for our wedding and our WP was thrilled to be seated with their spouses/+1.

sarahs616

I do agree that it would be the most practical to have everyone sit with their dates, but it doesn't always work out depending on your venue. Do you have any other people at the wedding they know? If so, I'm sure they'd be OK with sitting with them. I've been a date of someone in a wedding party and sat with others, while my date sat at the head table- honestly, it was only for dinner and I had no problems with it- I just made friends : ) 

Simply Fated

sarahs616 said:

I do agree that it would be the most practical to have everyone sit with their dates, but it doesn't always work out depending on your venue. Do you have any other people at the wedding they know? If so, I'm sure they'd be OK with sitting with them. I've been a date of someone in a wedding party and sat with others, while my date sat at the head table- honestly, it was only for dinner and I had no problems with it- I just made friends : ) 

Why wouldn't it work out? It's not like you would need more tables or anything. It's the same amount of people.

Viczaesar

sarahs616 said:

I do agree that it would be the most practical to have everyone sit with their dates, but it doesn't always work out depending on your venue. Do you have any other people at the wedding they know? If so, I'm sure they'd be OK with sitting with them. I've been a date of someone in a wedding party and sat with others, while my date sat at the head table- honestly, it was only for dinner and I had no problems with it- I just made friends : ) 

No.

AddieCake

sarahs616 said:

I do agree that it would be the most practical to have everyone sit with their dates, but it doesn't always work out depending on your venue. Do you have any other people at the wedding they know? If so, I'm sure they'd be OK with sitting with them. I've been a date of someone in a wedding party and sat with others, while my date sat at the head table- honestly, it was only for dinner and I had no problems with it- I just made friends : ) 

So because YOU were ok with it, you're sure others would be, too? It's so inappropriate to think that your acceptance of someone's rudeness should equate to universal acceptance of it.

cmclaire

Good for you for trying to remedy this - while it's always lovely to sit with the WP on the occasions I've had to sit away from FI it's been less than ideal.  Particularly at one wedding where I was plonked on the end of a looooooong top table next to someone I barely knew and my FI was on a table of strangers at the opposite side of the room.  I'd much rather have sat with him, but went with the bride's say so.

grumbledore

samanthahorneff said:

Hi everyone!

My wedding is next month and I am figuring out the seating chart now. It just dawned on me that we have a wedding party table that include me and my husband, my bridesmaids, and his groomsmen. However, almost all of the groomsmen have serious girlfriends and I have no idea where to seat them! Of course, I would seat them together if I could, but we literally have that long table that looks over all the guests and it didn't hit me until now!

Any ideas/advice/help?

Please and Thanks!

Re-plan your seating and either seat everyone at the head table or seat your wedding party and their partners among your other guests and change your head table to a sweetheart table or seat yourself and your new husband among your guests as well.

grumbledore

samanthahorneff said:

OK - I will go the sweetheart table route, but now, how do I separate the wedding party? There are 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen and all have dates. The majority of the Bridesmaids are my family (sister, 2 sister-in-laws, and two friends). My two friends do not have dates. The groomsmen are all friends, except his brother and they all have dates.

I'm not sure the right route! There is 10 at a table.

Seat the 5 GMs and their partners at a table and seat your BMs and their partners at two separate tables and put the single BMs at one of those tables.  I wouldn't take the two singles and put them at a separate table from ALL of the partnered BMs, it could look like a slight (even if unintended, since you sound fairly polite).