If you want to make enemies, get married!

ddvirts

Sometimes I don't even know why I call these people my family...I'm so frustrated that I just need to vent!
We are slowing receiving our RSVPs back. My mom already told me that some of the family (my dad's side) has been complaining about how far away our wedding is...it's an hour away. My aunt from my mom's side is flying in from Russia. FI's family is coming from Cali, Florida, Michigan, etc. And these people are complaining about driving an hour.
So an hour ago my maid of honor (also my cousin from dad's side) texted me asking if we considered renting a shuttle for the family that's an hour away. No we haven't considered it because we can't afford it and it's an hour away while other people are coming from out of state! Apparently some people have been saying that it's a hardship and they can't have a good time and drink and dance if they have to drive back. Then don't come if it's such a hardship! I understand getting a shuttle from the wedding to a hotel, but now I have to worry about a shuttle from city to city?
This is all coming after my sister decided she is not coming to the wedding because her husband is unable to attend (for his own legitimate reasons). My parents were going to pay for her flight and everything.
Sorry for the negativity! Just thought maybe someone can relate or at least just listen.

browndaysha

I think there are a lot of people who are in the same situation as you. Currently I'm having problems with family RSVPing if you haven't seen my thread already! haha. I think that it's really hard to come to terms with the fact that people are selfish and rude and just aren't as over-the-moon excited about your wedding as you are. I have the same problem. All that will matter that day is how happy you and your husband will be. You're marrying the love of your life. Just breathe and think happy thoughts.

dluberts

Im more excited about eating our cake and dinner than what guests show up! Lol. Truth is people are selfish, you cant change that. If they dont want to come then oh well. Youll have an amazing time without them. You probably don't want to deal with their negativity regarding the driving anyway.

Happy227

Its true.  You would think that peope could be happy for others for one day.  People are selfish and only want somehting if its going to benefit them.  I live in FL and my family lives up north. My parents just told me they dont think are going to be able to come because they dont want to fly.  Im getting married in 50 something days.  grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

tammym1001

That's really crazy for them to expect you to get a shuttle just so they don't have to drive for an hour. If they want to get drunk then they can rent a hotel room and stay closer to the reception hall. People are selfish and it never ceases to amaze what they think they are entitled to. I would be half tempted to tell them all not to come then. 

luvskittles

I've had a few people complain about having to drive 30 mins to an hour to my venue too. Which I have a hotel & shuttle set up...so they can just park and not have to worry about anything.I just dont feel like hearing it either!

Ahhhh - a collective scream for all of us!

sarahsmiles326

On the topic of rude wedding guests,

FI's aunt reminded all her family to mail in our RSVP's...well she "reminded" people who weren't invited. To fix her mistake, she spoke with other family members who were invited to see who wasn't coming. Then she text FI to ask if she could sub those who weren't attending for the ones she accidentally "reminded". ::headdesk::

In her defence, i think she really was trying to fix her mess, but seriously?!?

FutureMrsN3312

People are insane. When I RSVP yes to a wedding I realize it's my responsibility to get myself there and back. I wouldn't ask the bride and groom to worry about it. FIs family gave us shit about getting married in NJ. (Where I'm from). It's not far from NY. A 30 minute ride. Then we heard bitching bc it's about a 25-30 min ride from the church to the venue. I get it's kind of a lot of driving but I blocked out hotel rooms and set up shuttle service. I also tried to make everything close by but it didn't work out that way. And it's important to me that we get married at a church. Specifically the church I picked. So get over it or stay home lol

dluberts

I'll be frank here,  anyone who wants to bitch at me for my wedding day plans can kiss my ass! Lol, I dont care, wont care, they can just kiss it! Or go home!

ddvirts

Good to know I'm not the crazy one! I think people just don't realize how much actually goes into planning a wedding. We don't just wake up one morning and everything is set up for us. A lot of money and careful planning goes into it. If we decided to do it an hour away, there must've been a reason for it. FI and I went to PA from NY last year for a wedding and stayed at a hotel and didn't complain because this is what people do for weddings. If we felt like it was too inconvenient, then we would just politely decline. Our wedding is an hour away, but it happens to be at an inn and we reserved all their rooms for our guests. I can't even give this any more thought, I got favors and escort cards to worry about! Lol