I hate drama and nothing makes drama come out of the woodwork quite like weddings. Years ago, my FI's cousin started a fight with me on Christmas Eve. She accused me of flirting with her husband and called me a whore. She tried to attack me but her husband intercepted her. His face was so scratched up, it looked like he went through windshield. She does this sort of thing. She gets drunk at weddings and causes a scene and has had to be taken away by ambulance... even at her own wedding. FI doesn't like drama either, so it took him forever to talk to her about this. It was stressing me out so bad. I told him he needed to talk to her, because no one was going to cause a scene on our day.
Fi, finally, talked to her today. It went surprisingly well. She said she didn't remember doing that at all. (major eye roll). She was mad at my FI for not bringing this up to her sooner. She said it was a really bad point in her life. She said she no longer drinks (she used to drink heavily with medication.) She said she was having a really hard time, and was almost going through a divorce with her husband, and that it is no excuse. He said she apologized profusely and always liked me, and wanted my number so she can apologize to me directly, tomorrow. She texted me and asked me what time was a good time to call. I don't know if I will ever trust her again, or if we will ever be friends, but at least I know she wants to be on good terms. So that, at least, is a start. She said she is excited for our wedding, and is really happy for us. I know I should be really happy, but a part of me is still irritated that it took so long for my FI to resolve this (especially when we had such a good outcome.) There was no need for me to stress about this drama for as long as I have. But at least she knows my concerns, and is very accepting of her wrongdoing, and isn't trying to place blame on me. Thankful this is no longer looming over my shoulder.