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Vent - Junior Bridesmaids

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edited April 2014 in Moms and Maids
Real quick vent, make sure I'm not crazy or anything:

My sister is a BM and my two nieces are Junior BMs.

My sister can be a bit controlling, and so every dress that I thought looked good on the girls that I picked out she did not like.

Right now, my mom called me to say that they are all at House of Brides picking out the junior bridesmaids dresses without me. And they are going to buy the junior bridesmaid's dress that I didn't like because it didn't come in my color. However, they are insisting that the color they chose will look fine with the color I picked out for the other Bridesmaids dresses.

I don't know what is wrong with them, but my mom is telling me I should let it go because it is my sister's money, so she can pick out whatever dress she wants the girls to wear. My nieces keep on telling me that it's my choice and they liked everything that I picked out, but whatever, I guess there is nothing I can do to stop my sister from buying any dress she wants for her daughters

Yikes, I wish this would just get over with... I'm incredibly annoyed, but will suck it up because the last thing I want my sister to do is be like "well I don't want the girls in the wedding if you are going to make them wear a dress I don't agree with"

The two dresses look INCREDIBLY similar, but the only difference is that the one i wanted was in a darker purple, whereas the one my sister wants is in like a purple/pink.


SIGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ETA: The one I want matches the Bridesmaids color, the one my sister picked out is like 50 shades lighter, not even close.
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Re: Vent - Junior Bridesmaids

  • No, you're not the crazy one.They shouldn't be doing this without you, especially if they're going to choose a dress that you specifically told them is the wrong color. And wait, you still have five months to go, so there's time to find a dress that everyone likes. You could give your mom a call to let her know you're very unhappy about what they're doing. She might be able to reason with your sister. 

    FWIW, pinks and purples blend very well together, but this should have been your decision.


                       
    doeydo
  • Though you are not wrong; if the colors go together (they don't have to match), maybe you should let this go. If they clash with the bridesmaid dresses, than you should tell her that she needs to buy different dresses.
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  • Grabows14 said:
    Real quick vent, make sure I'm not crazy or anything:

    My sister is a BM and my two nieces are Junior BMs.

    My sister can be a bit controlling, and so every dress that I thought looked good on the girls that I picked out she did not like.

    Right now, my mom called me to say that they are all at House of Brides picking out the junior bridesmaids dresses without me. And they are going to buy the junior bridesmaid's dress that I didn't like because it didn't come in my color. However, they are insisting that the color they chose will look fine with the color I picked out for the other Bridesmaids dresses.

    I don't know what is wrong with them, but my mom is telling me I should let it go because it is my sister's money, so she can pick out whatever dress she wants the girls to wear. My nieces keep on telling me that it's my choice and they liked everything that I picked out, but whatever, I guess there is nothing I can do to stop my sister from buying any dress she wants for her daughters

    Yikes, I wish this would just get over with... I'm incredibly annoyed, but will suck it up because the last thing I want my sister to do is be like "well I don't want the girls in the wedding if you are going to make them wear a dress I don't agree with"

    The two dresses look INCREDIBLY similar, but the only difference is that the one i wanted was in a darker purple, whereas the one my sister wants is in like a purple/pink.


    SIGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    ETA: The one I want matches the Bridesmaids color, the one my sister picked out is like 50 shades lighter, not even close.
    The bolded is not a valid argument. She shouldn't have to buy a dress she hates, but the bride has the final say, and bridesmaids usually don't get to pick "any dress they want".
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    doeydoHisGirlFriday13
  • I ended up just letting her buy the dresses she wanted.

    I'm just not going to talk to her about the wedding from here on out.

    Thanks for the support!
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