Following up on an offer

JCbride2015

A few months ago, FPIL's offered us the use of their timeshare in Aruba for our HM.  They mentioned it once or twice after the fact, but have said nothing in the past few months.  Our wedding isn't until next May so it hasn't been top of mind for us, either.

Last weekend, I was over at their house and FMIL asked where we are planning our HM.  I was a little taken aback but tried not to have a negative reaction.  I just said we aren't sure yet and passed the bean dip.

I mentioned this to Fi, and he wants to talk to his parents about the Aruba thing.  I think they've obviously forgotten about it or changed their minds, and we should just leave it alone.  What would you do?

MNVegas

What was your response when they originally offered the timeshare? Did you say that you wanted to use it or that you would get back to them. Maybe they think you are not interested in Aruba if you did not say yes.

JCbride2015

MNVegas said:

What was your response when they originally offered the timeshare? Did you say that you wanted to use it or that you would get back to them. Maybe they think you are not interested in Aruba if you did not say yes.

We definitely said yes!  We were really excited about it.

Vivandiere8

When they offered did you make it clear you had accepted? From the way you phrased it, with them mentioning it again, it almost sounds like you never officially took them up on their offer and they might be assuming you aren't going to be using it. If way back you had said, "Yes thank you, we will definitely do that" then her question would be strange. But if you simply said, "Thank you for the offer, we will think about it" and never got back to them I would assume you wanted to do something else

KGold80

Vivandiere8 said:

When they offered did you make it clear you had accepted? From the way you phrased it, with them mentioning it again, it almost sounds like you never officially took them up on their offer and they might be assuming you aren't going to be using it. If way back you had said, "Yes thank you, we will definitely do that" then her question would be strange. But if you simply said, "Thank you for the offer, we will think about it" and never got back to them I would assume you wanted to do something else

This. Maybe you have FI talk to his parents to make sure the offer still stands and if so, you'd love to take them up on it? Doesn't sound too complicated.

IMathlete

My initial reading made me think they were feeling you out and trying to follow up with you without pressuring you to use their place. Just my first instinct, without being there to hear the convos.

Grabows14

Have your FI talk to his parents about it.That's what I would do. We've had to do the same thing when it came time to talk about poprawiny (day after wedding party, traditionally at bride's parent's house)

wrigleyville

I would just have your FI talk to his parents. Perhaps they forgot you accepted their offer. My parents often forget things, even important things, if we haven't talked about them for several weeks.

JCbride2015

Thanks guys.  I was actually thinking it was better to just not talk to them, but maybe I'll have Fi mention it.  It's really not that big a deal-- we firmly subscribe to the TK mantra of not counting on gifts until they're in hand.  But a free week in Aruba sure would be nice!