The answers to the 'Dear Abby' column I posted below got me thinking....
Do you think it's OK to tell some family members of equal degrees of closeness the new before other family members -- I.e., tell your mom but not MIL-- if you know they'll keep your secret and the people you're telling won't?
DH mentioned that we couldn't tell BSC Granny about a pregnancy until we were ready for her to tell EVERY ONE -- her church group and his father (her son) and crazy auntie and etc., so he doesn't want to yell her (when the time comes) until month 7 or so.
I said there was no way I was keeping that a secret from my parents for so long.
He said, 'Well, we'll tell them and not her! '
I'm OK with that,.
I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'