Went to a baby shower this weekend.

climbingsingle

First off, I had people calling me BEFORE the RSVP date to see if I would be attending. If you needed to know by March 31st, you should have put that date on the invitation, ladies!

I arrive and find out mimosas are included. Awesome. I order one. One hour into the event, I go to order another one. The waiter tells me that the amount of "free" mimosas they can give out have already been taken. Wha??? He tells me I'll have to pay. I say fine - she hadn't even started opening her gifts. And who doesn't need alcohol to get through that long process. 

At the end of the shower, I asked the waiter for my tab. He disappears for a good 20 minutes. Finally he comes back and tells me that my second mimosa was actually included in the brunch. What the hell? Why was there so much confusion about what was included? 

Also, I have to add this. I think it's incredibly tacky to show up to a baby shower at a nice restaurant in jeans. There were two girls there in jeans. Seriously? You can't put on some nice pants for 3 hours on a Sunday? 

AddieCake

Meh....while I personally would not have worn jeans, it's kind of like how we tell brides to get over it if someone wears jeans to their wedding. I would be frustrated by the confusion on what was included as well.

pinkcow13

I've been to baby showers where people wear jeans, and I do side eye it. I once went to a shower where the Mom to be's uncle snuck in booze (dry shower), and was spiking his drinks, as well as those at his table. I actually thought that was funny, because he was a little old man, and he was not causing any trouble. It also sounds like that shower was pretty disorganized. Good thing you did not have to end up paying!

chibiyui

Almost everyone wears jeans to bridal and baby showers around here. Rarely are they held in restaurants which serve mimosa's though. 

climbingsingle

I was always raised that jeans were inappropriate to events like that. I guess I'm old fashioned that way. 

However, out of almost 50 guests, they were the only ones in jeans. 

jenna8984

Well hopefully you get a thank you card. I'm bitter because I went to 2 baby showers in the beginning of January and never got thank you cards for either. A close friend, and my own sister in law. I mean, how do you not know you need to send them?! And I understand sometimes it takes time to fill them out, but seriously no. Each one only had 30 attendees and these girls have been home (healthy) on maternity for over 2 months. If you haven't found "time" to write them, you just suck lol

mysticl

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I was always raised that jeans were inappropriate to events like that. I guess I'm old fashioned that way. 

However, out of almost 50 guests, they were the only ones in jeans. 

Me too.  My parents were raised in a very different area than they raised me, the were also "older" parents. So they had different customs than our neighbors.  My dad wore button down shirts to mow the lawn, he didn't own a t-shirt (other than undershirts), a sweatshirt, or a pair of shorts.  He rarely wore jeans.  My mom was slightly more casual but didn't wear jeans.  For the first several times I was invited to a friend's birthday party I was shoved into a party dress, tights, and patent leather shoes, with my hair pulled back so tight it hurt.  Everyone else would be in play clothes.  Finally, I got my mom to let me dress like the other kids.  But the rest of it has stuck with me.  To a shower you at least wear slacks and you always wear a dress or skirt to a wedding.  

csuave

My family and friends circles don't do jeans at showers.  If someone is wearing jeans they are usually the only person.

I also went to a shower for a good friend yesterday hosted by another good friend.  Both are super sweet, have great manners and have nice families and still there were a couple of oh please no moments.

Main complaint was the games.  Host is very outgoing and I don't think that she gets that a shower people just want to sit at their table and not be bothered.  There were about 30 ladies at 4 different tables.  First game the host handed a gift to a person at each table and then read a story.  Gift gets passed left or right when those words are said in the story.  Nothing wrong with that.  The problem was deciding that there were only going to be 3 prizes for this game and making 6 people from a table temporarily move to the other tables to play the game.  The 6 that had to move weren't happy.  It looked like there were enough prizes to do 4 for this game, so I just don't get it.

The only other game came after lunch and cake meaning it was standing in the way of opening lots and lots of presents (and the shower had already been going for a long time by now).  Each table was expected to produce 2 volunteers to act out a nursery rhmye provided by the host in the front of the room.  Like charades.  She got no volunteers so she forced people to do it at all 4 tables.  The volunteers then got prizes.

There were no other games so when we were given envelopes to fill out for thank you cards it wasn't for a prize drawing it was just because.  In additon to the advice cards we got to fill out and the picture frames we got to craft at our tables (like 5 year olds do)....because I guess we needed more things to do during this 3 hour shower. 

It is a good thing these are dear friends and that the cake was good.

jdluvr06

I would be irritated by the confusion but not the jeans. Everyone in my circle wears jeans to bridal and baby showers. They aren't considered events you have to dress up for here. Honestly, if they were considered events you had to dress for I would probably go to even less of them than I do now.

climbingsingle

Those games sound awful! And crafting picture frames? Ugh. 

mysticl

ClimbingBrideNY said:

Those games sound awful! And crafting picture frames? Ugh. 

And who needs 30 homemade picture frames?  

JennyColada

I LOVE dressing up.

I live in LA and it's acceptable to wear formal cocktail dress attire to a restaurant while your partner may wear torn up jeans and flip flops with a white tank.

That being said, I still opt for the cocktail dress more often than not.

But that's just my personal preference, and while I'd totally side-eye anyone who didn't catch on with my vibe (but mainly because I enjoy judging others, 'cause I'm so totally awesome) it wouldn't ruin my time at all.

The lack information re: alcohol would totally throw me over the edge though. You gotta be up front about how much I can drink ladies, because I'm getting every sip!

climbingsingle

Jennycolada said:

I LOVE dressing up.

I live in LA and it's acceptable to wear formal cocktail dress attire to a restaurant while your partner may wear torn up jeans and flip flops with a white tank.

That being said, I still opt for the cocktail dress more often than not.

But that's just my personal preference, and while I'd totally side-eye anyone who didn't catch on with my vibe (but mainly because I enjoy judging others, 'cause I'm so totally awesome) it wouldn't ruin my time at all.

The lack information re: alcohol would totally throw me over the edge though. You gotta be up front about how much I can drink ladies, because I'm getting every sip!

Judging others is one of my favorite pastimes. That and drinking mimosas! 

JennyColada

Drinking just makes the judging so much more fun.

And judging makes the drinking more fun.

So it's win-win.

Maggie0829

Yeah, I probably would have showed up in dark jeans and a pair of wedges and a nice blouse.  Sorry but if I have to sit for hours at a baby shower, my ass will be comfortable doing so.

banana468

At the risk of sounding like a host of What Not To Wear, how are jeans more comfortable than a dress?

jdluvr06

I don't know why but I'm always more comfortable in pants of any kind than I am a dress. Probably because I tend to avoid things where I have to dress up. I even wear jeans and tshirts to work unless I'm on field trip duty,

chibiyui

Some dresses are crazy comfy, most of my jeans are crazy comfy. It depends on my mood. If I'm home, jeans all the way. Even in maxi dresses, i feel like i have to be careful how i sit, I don't have that worry in jeans.

pinkshorts27

jdluvr06 said:

I would be irritated by the confusion but not the jeans. Everyone in my circle wears jeans to bridal and baby showers. They aren't considered events you have to dress up for here. Honestly, if they were considered events you had to dress for I would probably go to even less of them than I do now.

Every baby shower I have been to people wore jeans. Every shower I have seen pictures of there were a few people in jeans. At my mom's shower 30 years ago, everyone wore jeans. I don't see the big deal and what is the point of judging people? I mean, I'll judge people for being rude, but how does them wearing jean affect any of you at all? 

And jeans are much more comfortable than a dress of any kind. You can sit however you want and not worry about flashing anyone. That is comfort. 

I guess I just don't see the point of judging what people are wearing. I've seen ladies say not to judge the color of your bridesmaids hair. I feel really uncomfortable in dresses (except for super formal occasions-like the wedding itself) and hate wearing skirts. I only wear nice pants for job interviews and formal meetings at work. So how is me wearing jeans any more offensive than your bridesmaid having a tattoo or blue hair? It is just who I am.  

JCbride2015

I'm also a Judgey McJudgerpants.  I enjoy people-watching.  I would judge somebody, hard, if they showed up to a nice restaurant or event hall for a shower in jeans.  I always wear a dress to a shower.  I think I might have worn a nice pair of slacks to an e-party once.

But it's definitely a thing that varies by social circle.  Every bridal shower I've been to has been at an event hall or private room of a nice restaurant.  I wouldn't feel comfortable in those places in jeans.

JennyColada

I've seen ladies say not to judge the color of your bridesmaids hair.

Nah. Judge them all you want. But does that mean that you should be mean or rude or otherwise not keep your judgements to yourself? Hell no.

Fairyjen1

Jeans are the norm around here,then again, I have only been to showers that are at someone's house. Never a nice restaurant.

RebeccaB88

Nice jeans (meaning, clean, dressy, with heels or nice flats and a nice top, not with a t-shirt and cruddy sneakers), I wouldn't side-eye. I'm looking to see if someone made an effort to look nice. A good pair of jeans can do that.

I once helped throw a baby shower for a friend, and one of the guests showed up (with her two uninvited daughters), all wearing wet swimsuits, various pool coverups, and smelling like sunscreen and manky lake water. They had to sit on the tile kitchen floor or stand, so they wouldn't get anything wet. It was just uncomfortable, like we'd interrupted them doing something they'd rather be doing, and that they couldn't get out of their boat an  hour or two earlier to shower and change, in honor of the occasion. THAT I side-eyed.