Curious re: RSVPs

CrazyCatLady3

For ladies who are already married,

--What percentage of RSVPs did you get within the week before/after the RSVP date as opposed to earlier?

--What percentage did not RSVP and force you to track them down?

lyndausvi

RSVPs came in waves.   A bunch right off the bat.  Slowed down for a few weeks, then another big wave near the RSVP date.    

Out of 174 people we  sent invites to we only had 15 or so people we had to track down.  Of those a few never received the invite.  Per the postmark on some envelopes we receive the week of the wedding a few did send their RSVPs on time, but the PO didn't deliver them to us on time..

LadyMillil

40% RSVP'd right away, 40% the days leading up to the deadline. Some RSVPs trickled in 1-2 weeks before the deadline. We had to track down the last 10%

beharrington

We got the same two waves but had to track down a third of the RSVPs....

netskyblue2

I don't know about % - we received one RSVP after the deadline (deadline was about 2 weeks prior to the wedding).  I made some calls and got 7 more accepts and a few declines from people who didn't RSVP.  All seemed genuinely apologetic that they'd failed to get them into the mail.

CrazyCatLady3

Cool, thanks for the input.  I got the initial first wave of responses, but now it's just crickets at the mailbox.  I was wondering if I should expect another bunch right around the RSVP date or if I was going to have to track a bunch of people down.

emmyg65

Yep, you'll get a ton in the week before the deadline, and even a few days after.

erinlin25

ditto PPs. There was a big wave at first, and then they trickled in here and there followed by a big wave the week they were due.  We gave it a few days after the rsvp date to start calling people.  We maybe had to track down 5 people at the most. 

princessleia22

Should I be worried if my initial "big" wave, included only 4 RSVP's??? :-/

 

Edit: It's been about 2 weeks since I sent invites. RSVP due date is in a week. They also all received STD about 8 months ago because it is destination wedding, so it's not a last minute decision for any of them to come.

JCbride2015

nicoann said:

Should I be worried if my initial "big" wave, included only 4 RSVP's??? :-/

 

Edit: It's been about 2 weeks since I sent invites. RSVP due date is in a week. They also all received STD about 8 months ago because it is destination wedding, so it's not a last minute decision for any of them to come.

I am not married yet so I have no experience with this. But a 3-week window to RSVP seems pretty short to me. Maybe people don't realize the RSVP date is around the corner because they are used to having 5-6 weeks to RSVP.

princessleia22

 

JCBride2014 said:

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nicoann said:

Should I be worried if my initial "big" wave, included only 4 RSVP's??? :-/

 

Edit: It's been about 2 weeks since I sent invites. RSVP due date is in a week. They also all received STD about 8 months ago because it is destination wedding, so it's not a last minute decision for any of them to come.

I am not married yet so I have no experience with this. But a 3-week window to RSVP seems pretty short to me. Maybe people don't realize the RSVP date is around the corner because they are used to having 5-6 weeks to RSVP.

I figure everyone has been talking about this trip for a year, so a shorter timeframe shouldn't be too big of an issue.  We've been in contact with pretty much everyone and they already know by now if they plan to come or not.  I even know who is coming or not already. The main reason we are even doing a formal RSVP is because I also need to submit some additional guest info to venue (names, birthdate, and drivers license number), so I've asked them to provide that info with RSVP.  I need to submit final guest list (with all guest info) to my venue 4 weeks before wedding (we can't add anyone after that time), so I didn't want to send out invites super early.  If I allowed 5-6 weeks for RSVP, final invites would have gone out 3-4 months before wedding.  Besides that, I know that my family is HORRIBLE at RSVP's and wanted to leave myself sufficient time to track everyone down, especially since I do need to get additional info that could be more difficult to obtain than just a "yes" or "no".

SBmini

We had only heard from 85% of our guests by the day of the deadline. About six from my family didn't reply and I had a huge chunk from my fiance's family. I was freaking out- then I talked to my FMIL and found out that the people I was missing from their family just told her they were coming instead of sending a card! Agh! What is wrong with people!? 

Never heard back from two friends- didn't even bother tracking them down because I didn't expect them to come anyways. One cousin never sent in an RSVP- just spoke to my mom last night and they aren't coming. Which pisses me off because we're pretty close. Another cousin who I already knew wasn't coming because I reached out to her about the RSVP just sent hers in a full week and a half past deadline. 

CrazyCatLady3

SBmini said:

We had only heard from 85% of our guests by the day of the deadline. About six from my family didn't reply and I had a huge chunk from my fiance's family. I was freaking out- then I talked to my FMIL and found out that the people I was missing from their family just told her they were coming instead of sending a card! Agh! What is wrong with people!? 

Never heard back from two friends- didn't even bother tracking them down because I didn't expect them to come anyways. One cousin never sent in an RSVP- just spoke to my mom last night and they aren't coming. Which pisses me off because we're pretty close. Another cousin who I already knew wasn't coming because I reached out to her about the RSVP just sent hers in a full week and a half past deadline. 

Seriously what is so hard about sticking a self-addressed stamped envelope in the mail?  And people think that we should just keep track of verbal replies?

KPBM89

We haven't yet sent out our invites, but I have helped several friends and family members with their weddings and I agree with the two waves thing.  I'm one of the people who would be in the first wave, as whenever I receive an invite in the mail, the RSVP is sent the next day.  I do it so I don't forget its due date and also because I don't want it getting lost somewhere.  At my friend's wedding two years ago, her first wave was very small, but the last week they were due, she received nearly 80% of them back.