I hired a friend to be my DOC. Our wedding is small so she wouldn't have been invited otherwise. We are paying her very well and I didn't send her an invitation because I considered her a vendor. She is going to have some down time during the dancing portion of the reception and she asked if her husband could come after dinner to keep her company (we know him as well). I felt weird about having someone just show up towards the end of the wedding so I told her to just bring him for the entire wedding. Should I have invited him in the first place?
Second question: We do not have a relationship at all with the minister performing our ceremony. He was referred to us by someone else and we are paying him to perform our ceremony. Our ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception are all taking place in the same room. When we met I told him he was more than welcome to stay and enjoy the reception after the ceremony. Should I have invited his wife as well?