So, from my lurking, I've learned a PPD is getting legally married and then having another wedding latter. Because...I dunno, whatever reasoning the couple says.
We're basically doing the opposite. First things first, FI and I are both women, so it's a gay wedding. But it'll look a lot like a straight one, just with two chicks. Now, while the federal government has finally realized gay people are a heck of lot like straight people and deserve pretty much all the same rights, the state governments are taking their sweet ass time to catch up. Namely, our state. We do not allow marriage, civil unions, or any other word between two people who are of the same gender. Because...I dunno some really stupid reasons I'm guessing. It scares people or we ruin straight marriage when we get married, something like that.
So FI and I have had talk after talk about this. Our lovely neighbor state does allow gay marriage. Apparently they're much less scared of us. So we ran through the idea of a destination wedding over there. But...we like our state. For the most part at least. This is where our home is. This is where our friends are and our family is. This is where we want to build our family (for now at least). We live here, we work here, we pay taxes here. We don't want to be chased out for our wedding. Plus living in one state and planning a wedding in another, more expensive state, sounds more exhausting then we'd like.
Our next plan, and then we are going with, is to have our wedding in our state. I'll wear a dress, she's wearing a sexy suit, there will be an aisle, all the wedding hoopla. Then sometime after that, either that week or the following weekend (whatever we can work out with our work schedules, we'll know better closer to the date), we'll hop in our car, head over to our yay gays neighbors and get the legal stuff handled so we can have fun federal benefits!
For us, November 1st is the day we will get married. That is when we become wife and wife. If we could do the legal portion at the exact same time, we would. Trust me, we're lazy, we'd love to do both at once. But, well, our state government says no-no we aren't allowed, we're different. We agree, this is a wedding. Not a commitment ceremony. Most of our guests are aware of the current gay rights laws in our states (I can't think of any who aren't, other then the kids), so I would assume that what they are witnessing isn't legally binding because it can't be, not because we don't want it to be.
So, given all that, I want to make sure we are in the clear. Not a PPD right?