Are you still best friends with your high school best friend?

jenna8984

larrygaga said:

I'm sorta in the same boat. Our relationship never went past gossiping and exchanging fart jokes and watching horror movies. I still text her daily and we always share stuff on facebook, but I can't tell her anything serious. I can't trust her. We just kept our relationship on a very basic level. 

@larrygaga except for my two bridesmaids, I feel like all of my friendships are like this. We meet up for lunch and say how are you but we don't actually turn to each other for anything of substance. One of these friends asked me to be a BM last year and the whole time I kept thinking "why, I've never even met your fiance or heard anything about him".

blabla89

For 85% of my time in high school I dated a guy who was extremely manipulative, borderline abusive, and only wanted me to have friends of his choosing. Without going into too much detail, the result of that relationship was that I didn't form any really close friendships in high school. I had one close friend and I was a BM for her wedding, but we sort of lost touch after that. She never thanked me for the wedding gift, or the baby gift, or the second baby gift...so I stopped sending gifts and she stopped making an effort to maintain contact. So that was that.

There's another friend that I recently reconnected with and she's going to be a BM in my wedding. We had classes together, and we were ALWAYS laughing. She saw the "mean girl" side of me (thank God I grew out of that) and somehow didn't think I was a terrible person. We kind of lost touch after I went away to college but then we spontaneously made plans to hang out when I was in town last fall, and we've been having regular skype dates ever since. I'm really glad we're back in touch because she's an amazing person.

MollyandD

Yep. She's my matron of honor. One of my other closest friends com high school is also a bride's maid. Two of my closest guy friends from high school are groomsmen.

chibiyui

Yes actually, she's my maid of honor. 

We went though a rough spell where we didn't talk much, and there were some life bits as well (Me going to philly for college, her getting married and moving to Mexico when I got back, Her moving back to the states, her moving to philly for college) but we've managed to stay close. She's about the only person from high school I keep up with in any meaningful way. 

cupcait927

I am! We're actually getting together Wednesday night to watch Mean Girls with another close friend from high school. I had a few very close friends in high school but she's the only one I still talk to. It helps that we both still live in the same town and can get together. She's got 2 kids now so it's a little harder to get together and see each other but we still consider each other as best friends.

LadyMillil

I'm still friends with the girl I met on our first day of grade 1. We're 27 now so we've been friends for 21 years! I moved across the country, but we still text and Facebook, and I always visit her when I go back to my hometown. The two so us were really close to another girl in high school. That friendship didn't stand the test of time, mostly because she still seems to have the maturity of a teenager.

doeydo

No.    We kind of drifted apart after high school and I sent her some Facebook messages asking if she wants to meet up for coffee/tea/hot chocolate or something.  She said sure and then never responded with a date or time when prompted.  Oh well.

thesummersky

@jenna8984 Yeah, it's a very unique school and area. I graduated in a class of 36 people, knowing about 30 of them since kindergarten. We were all very close; high school graduation was incredibly emotional. Our reunion is actually June 6th, so we'll see if I'm able to make it!

Don't let those Lifetime movies get ya too down, though.

climbingsingle

Yes. She's my MOH. I'm also still friends with my very first best friend. We met on the first day of kindergarten.
But I have drifted apart from other close friends from school.

Sugargirl1019

jenna8984 said:

This might sound weird but do any of you have dreams about that person? I have them all the time and they are really awkward because even in the dream we are not friends. 

But I also have dreams weekly about my house I grew up in (lived there for 22 years and I'm still bitter that parents sold it 8 years ago). Maybe I need to see a psychologist about letting go of things? lol 

I had a guy friend in the first years of high school - we never dated, but we were super close and I realize now that we liked each other but were too immature. I started dating another guy and my guy friend was very very hurt because of some things I said to make the relationship seem okay. He ended up hating me -and he would not talk to me or would ignore me passing in the halls.

I still have dreams about him. Not love dreams, I never ever kiss him, but dreams about trying to be friends with him, seeing him at a restaurant, trying to say hi, trying to get him to tell me how he is doing.

I think I need a psychologist to get over this! I have not told FI about these dreams, because it's not a lovey dream, and I don't want to make him think I think about other guys. I don't! My subconscious just pulls these dreams up every once in a while.

CLoGreenEyes

I have three friends who I am still really close to from high school. I feel lucky. And a couple more who I would be close to if we lived nearer to each other - I still see them when they are in town, but we mostly just have time to catch up on life and don't get to actually do a lot together.

The first friend I actually met at a creative writing workshop. She's from IN, I'm from MD, we met at the workshop in VA when we were 16, and we became best friends in about 2 days. Someone actually asked how long we'd known each other, and it had been less than 48 hours from meeting each other to that point. We are still like that, even though we only get to see each other once every year or so.

My other two friends and I legit took high school classes together. One is just that typical best girl friend - we get drinks and food and gossip together and it's fun. The other is guy I took drama class with for a couple years, and he's like the male version of me. I think we were both interested in each other until we realized how identical we are. Now we're just good friends, I hang out with his and his wife, it's good.

Like @sugargirl1019, I also have a guy friend from high school that, looking back, I think I had feelings for and he may have reciprocated. We were both pretty shy at the time, so it never went anywhere. We still keep in touch on occasion via Facebook and whatnot, but I would love to see him and find out what he's like now that we're all grown up and stuff. I should look into that...

LabLove86

There was a group of 5 of us who were really close in HS - the 2 girls I was closest to then are now acquaintances that I see maybe 2x/yr. And the 2 that I was kidna close with then - are now 2 of my closest friends. Funny how things like that happen. 

FiancB

cruffino said:

I love my hs bf. She was a huge part of my life for many wonderful years. I went away to college and afterwards our lives went in different directions. We are not nearly as close as we once were. We see each other every few months or so, and talk infrequently. But we both love each other and love catching up when we can. I do have some sadness about it, but I just accept that this is life. Wow, thinking about it has made me a little sad now. When I think about the young, silly, girls we once were, I get a little teary.

Pretty much same here. We didn't even meet in high school, I've known her since she was born and we were neighbors. We got especially close when I was in high school. She's 4 years younger and we maintained our friendship through me going to college, and then she was my roommate her freshman year. Then I moved.

No hard feelings but our lives are at really different points now and I think she's kind of moved on. 

I do have another friend I was close to in high school but if any of my friends drifted I thought it would be her. Nope, I'm closer to her than anyone. Everybody else is pretty much just facebook friends at this point. 

pinkcow13

I'm still friends with my hs BFF but we're not close. She actually lives across the street, and we rarely hang out. We had a falling out years ago, and didn't speak for about a year but eventually patched things up. I am still best friends with my best friend from elementary school. We have been best friends since we were 8, and she is now my awesome MOH

KPBM89

I have had the same two best friends since I was in 6th grade, and they're sisters (one my age, the other 3 years younger).  We have a little group that we have our own name for, which includes the three of us and two others.  The two others aren't really in touch with us anymore, but I still talk to my two best friends nearly every single day, even though 12 hours separates us.  One is my maid of honor and the other is my next bridesmaid.  I will also be a bridesmaid in both of their weddings, one this September and one in May of next year.

misscoffeeplease

I didn't have the greatest high school experience so I didn't really have any best friends or close friends after. 

Alikat9614

Nope. There are two people I went to HS with on our guest list, and we actually became closer friends after we graduated. There is no one I went to college with on the guest list. Most of my friends (including myself) moved away from our hometown and we just fell out of touch. I'm also an actor, so I've lived a very transient lifestyle until about 2 years ago. My college friends all moved to big cities and we also fell out of touch. My FI, however, has a ton of HS and college friends he is still super close with, so his "side" of the guest list is much bigger than mine.

Cookie Pusher

Unfortunately, my BFF in high school decided to take his own life during my freshman year of college (he was 2 years younger). On the bright side, I'm marrying my BFF from college!

vk2204

All of my best friends are from middle school! One is even from elementary!

ShallowSeas

I'm still best friends with one. We've been friends since 4th grade and she's one of my bridesmaids

emmaaa

I'm very fortunate that I have been friends with two of my BFF's since we were about 3 or 4, been friends with another since we were about 11, and the other more recently but went to HS together. I can't say I have ONE BFF because us four girls are pretty inseparable. FI and I actually are friends with the majority of the same people from HS.

thetimewillcome

No. It makes me kind of sad. I moved far away. We were pretty good at staying in touch while I was in college and I'd see her when I made it back home and she was back home at the same time, but then we just kind of fell out of touch. I haven't talked to her in a couple years, although I'll see her mom every now and then and ask how she's doing.

grumbledore

jenna8984 said:

It's Saturday night and FI is out cold so I'm watching ridiculous Lifetime movies about high school girls and it's really making me miss my high school best friend. We were together every day, practically like sisters. We had a stupid falling out a few years ago and I've tried to be friends with her a million times but it's just not going to happen. It's a long, weird story (neither of us did anything terrible to the other one, just a culmination of growing up, growing apart, and hurt feelings). Someone make me feel better and tell me that you are in the same boat lol 

Yes.  My best friend was not in high school with me though, I met her at my summer job when I was 16 and she was 19.  We ended up going to college together, living together on and off through the years, and she's a BM in my wedding.  I am still good friends with my other high school best friend, but we don't see each other as much since we live a little over an hour apart and are both super busy.

I also have an extremely close friend (also a BM) from college who I am still close with.

The other woman I would consider one of my closest friends I actually just met a couple of years ago, but we hit it off immediately and see each other a couple of times a week.

BreMR

I was just talking to my BFF the other day about how sad adulthood is to friendships.. you go from spending all of your free time with your friends,your lives just revolve around each other and then you grow up, get jobs, have houses to take care of and you're lucky if you can squeeze in dinner once a month.

That being said, I had the best group of friends in highschool and am still best friends with all of them today.. there were six of us, one of them had a really bad falling out with another and she cut all of us out, she's the one I have dreams about reconnecting with, and I did attempt it a few years ago on Facebook and she was receptive and then randomly deleted me after our conversation.. it was odd.  Another one is still around but kind of wrapped up in a newish boyfriend and changed a lot so she's not AS close.. but we still all make yearly girls weekend plans and try to get together for dinner/lunch as much as possible, which is usually about once a month.

grumbledore

Also, my FI is still best friends with his high school best friend - they talk on the phone almost every day.  In fact, his closest friends are all high school friends, they had a really tight knit friend group and most of them still live in the area.

kristinick2014

Yes, I am still best friends with mine.  Granted, we don't do as much together now as we used to, but we still talk everyday.  It's going on 21 years that we've been friends.  Gosh that makes me feel old!  Ha ha

DaisyMaeMommy

No. She slept with two of my boyfriends, both times while the BF and I were actually together. 

Her excuse? "Well, it's not like you were sleeping with them too!"

Needless to say, she still lives at home with her Mom, is pregnant, and doesn't know who the father is.

JennyColada

No.

We stopped being friends when she invited our mutual friend to her wedding (via public Facebook wall post) and not me.

Emmy1493

Very few. The ones I considered my BFF decided that hanging with people who were into drugs, alcohol etc, we so much more fun than me (who did not do any of that stuff.) So we drifted pretty much before graduation. We don't speak at all. Plus, I moved away from them all, so there's that too.

theexactlee

Yes I am. We have been friends since freshman year of high school and although we went to separate colleges and have never lived in the same city much less state since high school, we have maintained our best friendedness. HOWEVER, we also have many other friends from different walks of life and other "best friends" as well (she has been in 15 weddings).

While we are forever dear to one another we can make due without one another just fine on a weekly basis and have learned how to catch up twice a month (we used to talk every single day until about two years ago). And we did have our very first falling out at 33 years old. It's hard because I have 2 children and she has zero and will not be having children. That is very hard on a relationship.