No Registry

emrgabrielli

Why is it rude to not have a registry? My husband to be and I are going to be moving to somewhere uncertain at this point after the wedding and we don't have a house let alone a rental yet so why would I register for household things when I have no where to put them? I think it's more rude to register for $120 throw blanket. 

KatWAG

emrgabrielli said:

Why is it rude to not have a registry? My husband to be and I are going to be moving to somewhere uncertain at this point after the wedding and we don't have a house let alone a rental yet so why would I register for household things when I have no where to put them? I think it's more rude to register for $120 throw blanket. 

Its not rude to decide not to register. That is completely fine. But some people really dont like to give cash, so they will pick out something they think you will like.

Even if you are moving in the near future, there are still things you will need for a nice place. Like bedding, towels, plates, pots and pans. If you already have all this stuff, is there anything you want to upgrade? Could you create a small registry for those items?

Inkdancer

If you don't want any specific things, don't register. It is not a requirement.

aurianna

It's totally fine not to have a registry.

What IS rude is to put anything about gifts on the invitations (so nothing about asking for cash on the invites).
It's also rude to put a direct ask for cash on the wedding website (whereas a discreet link to the registry info on a website is usually acceptable).
It's also a grey area if someone asks you directly what you'd like as a gift. I guess you could say "money" but it's usually better form to say something like, "We have everything we need at the moment, but we are saving for a house," or something of the like. It's just a little more genteel and gives the giver an idea of what their money may be used for if they give you cash.

Other rude things:
Having a shower if you don't actually want stuff. If anyone offers to throw you a shower you should decline.
Having any sort of money dance at the wedding.
Having any sort of jar or tree at the wedding that guests are supposed to put money in.


But as long as you don't solicit your guests for money in any way, it's totally not rude to have no registry, so no worries!!

Jen4948

It's not rude to not have a registry at all.  It's entirely up to you.

Simply Fated

emrgabrielli said:

Why is it rude to not have a registry? My husband to be and I are going to be moving to somewhere uncertain at this point after the wedding and we don't have a house let alone a rental yet so why would I register for household things when I have no where to put them? I think it's more rude to register for $120 throw blanket. 

It's not rude to not register. Where did you hear it was?

Viczaesar

emrgabrielli said:

Why is it rude to not have a registry? My husband to be and I are going to be moving to somewhere uncertain at this point after the wedding and we don't have a house let alone a rental yet so why would I register for household things when I have no where to put them? I think it's more rude to register for $120 throw blanket. 

It's not rude to not have a registry.  It's also not rude to register for a $120 throw blanket.

mbross3

It's not rude to not have a registry. It's perfectly fine if you don't want or need anything.

However, some people are not comfortable giving cash, so be ready to receive things you don't want or need (which I guess you should be ready for even if you do register since people aren't required to purchase off of the registry).