Back in September of last year, FMIL gave FI and I the list of his extended family's names, addresses, etc. FMIL categorized them by "immediate" extended family (aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc.), and "extended" extended family (great aunts, great uncles, cousins, step-cousins, etc). She told us to cut who we wished to. And we did!
Except for one or two "extended" extended family members (who are close to us and see us regularly), we chose to cut all great aunts, great uncles, FMIL/FFIL's cousins, my parents' cousins, etc. Our families are big enough as it is, and these are people we've never even met. We told FMIL who we cut and why, and she seemed fine with our decisions.
Fast forward to today, when FMIL tells my mom that "Aunt Doris" should be invited to the bridal shower, even though she can't make it to the actual wedding. Well, "Aunt Doris" got cut from the list, because she's a great aunt who doesn't even know who we are! FMIL assures us that "Aunt Doris" can't even make it to the wedding because of an already-planned vacation, but that's besides the point. She's not on the list, period. And it seems a bit rude to me to invite her to the shower, but then not invite her to the wedding...
TL;DR - Do we just suck it up & invite "Aunt Doris", just because FMIL says so? (I don't want to start getting walked all over this early.) Or do we stick to our guns and keep with the original decision?
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