No one contributing to our honeyfund..??!!

Viczaesar

leideigh said:

i totally hear you guys on the dickish thinking..... and you're right to question me as i also think it's kinda dick!

we are lucky enough to have everything we need at home, we have been living together for several years. we are also lucky enough that my fam is paying for our wedding and his fam is paying for the honeymoon.

that being said, most people ask about our registry and we point them to amazon. others however ask about giving cash, so we point them to honeyfund. done and done.

You make no sense.

JoanE2012

leideigh said:

i totally hear you guys on the dickish thinking..... and you're right to question me as i also think it's kinda dick!

we are lucky enough to have everything we need at home, we have been living together for several years. we are also lucky enough that my fam is paying for our wedding and his fam is paying for the honeymoon.

that being said, most people ask about our registry and we point them to amazon. others however ask about giving cash, so we point them to honeyfund. done and done.

Your guests don't know how to give you cash and are asking you how they should give it?  Seriously?  And you have no way to answer it other than saying honeyfund?  Whatever happened to, I dunno.....writing a check?  Putting cash in an envelope?  Are we being punk'd?

lyndausvi

I just do not understand you young people. Back in the old days people us now-old folks put cash or check in an envelope. These days people have complicated things by having to going on line, giving your credit card info into a website. Some people people are even manipulated into thinking they are buying something they are not actually buying.

 Then this company takes a cut of the your gifts just to be able to be able cut you a check. A check mind you the giver could cut themselves for free. 

 Not everything needs to be reinvented. This is one of those things. The only thing this re-invention of giving gifts has done it allow a 3rd party get a piece of the pie. This 3rd party is actually taking part of your gift away from you. They are letting you think they are doing you a favor. But really, they are in the business of making money. They are geniuses actually.

 Who else can make money from other people by taking a cut of someone's gift? Can you imagine the uproar if a parent told a kid they had to give them 3% of a monetary gift because they had to do the banking for the kid? Well really, that is pretty much what these companies are doing.

VulgarGirl

lolo883 said:

JMS62415 said:

I guess I'm the odd man out. My cousin just got married and has a honeyfund in lieu of a gift registry because she and her new husband were already living together prior to their marriage. I'm more than happy to toss them $100 if it means they get to go on a honeymoon they'll love. They deserve to be happy and have fun. They've suffered tremendous loss recently so they moved up their wedding and can't afford a honeymoon. I don't see why people on here are so mean and rude. 

OP, I wouldn't remind your guests about the honeyfund. It is rude to EXPECT money but if you throw it out there, I don't see the harm. 

JMS62415 said:

They do not have a regular registry so if they didn't have a honeyfund, I'd have no clue what to get them. I don't think it's rude but I do think some of the women here were. That's my opinion. I'm not saying anyone is owed a honeymoon but not everyone feels the way you do. I know a lot of people who would love to pitch in to send a happy couple on a honeymoon. It's not owed but it can be seen as a gift. That's how I see it. 

Wait what? You'd have no clue what to get them? You still toss them the $100! But you just literally, physically toss them 100 real, actual, full dollars. Or place it gently on the gift table. Or drop it in the mail. You can PayPal it (gifts have no fee). You can write them a check. You can give them a crisp Benjamin. You can give them 5 twenties. You just give $100! It is precisely that simple! They can then take that money and buy their own airfare or hotel or dinner on the beach or whatever the hell they want! 

Why is this confusing?

It's hard if people don't tell you they like money. Because lots of people don't like money. Like um...well there's uh...I'm sure there are people who don't like money. I'm also sure those people don't have weddings and live off the grid somewhere. 

jneen101

leideigh said:

. others however ask about giving cash,

Can you explain what exactly they say when they "ask about giving cash"?  Are they asking if it's okay to give cash?  If you want cash?  How much cash?  I cant even imagine what they would be asking?  "Do you want cash?"???

ccarwan42

What I should have said, instead of jumping into an argument, or judging any persons methods, is that everything will work out. It's your wedding; do what makes you happy. Try to be mindful of your family and friends, based on what YOU know of them, but you need to do what is best for you and your fiance. They might not use your honeyfund. But that's okay, because you are going to have an AMAZING day, and everything will work out in the end.

chibiyui

ccarwan42 said:

The idea that people can't do a honeymoon registry or include registry information in an invitation is antiquated and perpetuated by people with bossy relatives and old money. Welcome to the 21st century, where these things exist, and people do their save-the-dates on facebook. It used to be that the parents paid for the majority of the wedding and handle the invitations, so if guests had a question - like "What do they need?" or "where are they registered?" they would go to the parents. But what if you pay for your own wedding? What if your parents aren't around? What if you can't afford a full page ad to announce your engagement, save-the-dates, 100 women at your shower, and $10-a-piece invites? Your screwed, I guess, and you should just shut up and be unhappy.
I hate traditions that I am FORCED to observe. The world is changing; accept it people!
I just got married. We registered on honeyfund because my husband and I have a house full of stuff already. What we need is help financially, and anyone who loves us, already knows and understands this. There were people who ignored it and bought us whatever they wanted, which was fine. Only one person used honeyfund - but most people understood the point and just gave us money. What we did to avoid this conflagration of crap that has been flung at you, though, was created a website with all our info, and just put that address in the invites. Good luck!

So basically, you registered on honeyfund, but people didn't use it and since you weren't registered elsewhere, people gave you money. 

Or, you could have not registered anywhere, and obtained the same result without losing fees on the gift the one person gave you.

People. Stop making this difficult. If you want money, don't register. It's not that fucking hard.

manateehugger

ccarwan42 said:

The idea that people can't do a honeymoon registry or include registry information in an invitation is antiquated and perpetuated by people with bossy relatives and old money. Welcome to the 21st century, where these things exist, and people do their save-the-dates on facebook. It used to be that the parents paid for the majority of the wedding and handle the invitations, so if guests had a question - like "What do they need?" or "where are they registered?" they would go to the parents. But what if you pay for your own wedding? What if your parents aren't around? What if you can't afford a full page ad to announce your engagement, save-the-dates, 100 women at your shower, and $10-a-piece invites? Your screwed, I guess, and you should just shut up and be unhappy.
I hate traditions that I am FORCED to observe. The world is changing; accept it people!
I just got married. We registered on honeyfund because my husband and I have a house full of stuff already. What we need is help financially, and anyone who loves us, already knows and understands this. There were people who ignored it and bought us whatever they wanted, which was fine. Only one person used honeyfund - but most people understood the point and just gave us money. What we did to avoid this conflagration of crap that has been flung at you, though, was created a website with all our info, and just put that address in the invites. Good luck!

GOOD NEWS!!!! Tradition isn't etiquette.

So smash as many traditions as you want while planning your wedding (assuming you are paying for it yourselves) and you can gleefully and appropriately say, "deal with it" to everyone else.

Smash as many etiquette rules as you want and say, "deal with it," but you'll find yourself the crude person only other crude people will want to be around.

Also, if everyone knows you are hard up for cash for household expenses, why the fuck would they chip in toward an unnecessary vacation instead of handing you a check that can be used toward more necessary things? If you told me you needed financial help and then took a lavish vacation, I would judge you so much.

You realize if people ask what to get you, you can say basically what you told us? "We don't need household stuff, but we are trying to save up for X." Lookie there - you get your point across without tricking your supposed loved wants and looking like a butt. Poor you that has to be SO UNHAPPY because people DARE to ask what the best GIFT to give you.

ccarwan42

mrsmagicgeek

Well, if they don't understand that receiving $100 is better than receiving $93, I'm not surprised they have money problems.

PineapplePopsicles

ccarwan42 said:

Actually, we did register for a few basic necessities elsewhere, so the people who were determined to buy us traditional gifts could do so. Also, honeyfund doesn't automatically go to a honeymoon, it goes to an account we draw from directly. And who said we were going on a lavish honeymoon? @PDKH Do you even know how all these "traditions" and "rules of etiquette" came to be? Are you aware of how much they vary by culture? Just because you felt like following them doesn't mean the rest of us have to believe in them - nor do our family and friends. How dare you deign to assume how they felt about how we handle our wedding? Just because your loud-mouthed and judgemental, you think they are too? How is it rude to inform people from the beginning what we want/need but not rude to tell them when they ask? They are not obligated to get us anything, and if they didn't, we were still grateful they came to celebrate with us.
You all need to stop hiding behind the internet to spit your vitriol. The rudeness you are so quick to point out in others is pouring forth from you in torrents. What was that about etiquette???

Just curious- you aren't going on a honeymoon?  Why not? 

chibiyui

Look. If you tell us that you have financial issues and registered for cash, we're going to assume you make poor financial decisions. Which could include taking a lavish honeymoon while you have financial problems.

Also, what did you register for on there if you're not taking a honeymoon? Did you lie to your guests?

misshart00

chibiyui said:

Look. If you tell us that you have financial issues and registered for cash, we're going to assume you make poor financial decisions. Which could include taking a lavish honeymoon while you have financial problems.

Also, what did you register for on there if you're not taking a honeymoon? Did you lie to your guests?

Honeyfund allows you to put a general "we would like money. How much would you like to contribute?" So you don't have to register for certain things apparently.

chibiyui

misshart00 said:

chibiyui said:

Look. If you tell us that you have financial issues and registered for cash, we're going to assume you make poor financial decisions. Which could include taking a lavish honeymoon while you have financial problems.

Also, what did you register for on there if you're not taking a honeymoon? Did you lie to your guests?

Honeyfund allows you to put a general "we would like money. How much would you like to contribute?" So you don't have to register for certain things apparently.

still seems silly.

misshart00

chibiyui said:

misshart00 said:

chibiyui said:

Look. If you tell us that you have financial issues and registered for cash, we're going to assume you make poor financial decisions. Which could include taking a lavish honeymoon while you have financial problems.

Also, what did you register for on there if you're not taking a honeymoon? Did you lie to your guests?

Honeyfund allows you to put a general "we would like money. How much would you like to contribute?" So you don't have to register for certain things apparently.

still seems silly.

Totally agree. I saw one the other day that was a general fund but it had "gifts" in $150 increments.

chibiyui

misshart00 said:

chibiyui said:

misshart00 said:

chibiyui said:

Look. If you tell us that you have financial issues and registered for cash, we're going to assume you make poor financial decisions. Which could include taking a lavish honeymoon while you have financial problems.

Also, what did you register for on there if you're not taking a honeymoon? Did you lie to your guests?

Honeyfund allows you to put a general "we would like money. How much would you like to contribute?" So you don't have to register for certain things apparently.

still seems silly.

Totally agree. I saw one the other day that was a general fund but it had "gifts" in $150 increments.

Ha! I'd gift a tasteful metal rooster.

Lynessa

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

Maggie0829

Lynessa said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

Typically when someone makes a registry they only register for things that they need and want so buying off a registry is getting the person something they need and want.

Liatris2010

@Lynessa said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

You've missed the entire reason gift registries exist, so let me explain. Gift registries are for the giver's convenience, not the receiver's. I want to buy you some fancy towels for your wedding, but I don't know what color you like, so I check the registry. I want to buy you China, but want to make sure it matches your other pieces, so I check the registry. You're having a baby and I want to give a diaper bag. Since you'll be carrying it around all the time, you probably have a preference about which one you want, so I check the registry. The registry is convenient for me, because I already decided what item I wanted to buy you, but now I can be sure it is in the style you preferred.

You don't need to register for cash because it is one size, one color, works the same everywhere. Telling me you like cash is like telling me you breathe air. I already know because I am not an idiot. If you feel the need to tell me money can be used to buy things, the only logical conclusion for me to make is that you think I'm a moron. Don't insult your guests by telling them if they give you money, you will use it. They know, that is why they are giving it to you.

manateehugger

My favorite analogy for honeymoon registries:

You: "Hey friend, your birthday is next weekend! What do you want to do? I was thinking maybe mani/pedis or brunch at that great new place. Sound good?"

Your Friend: "Eh, I don't really need a mani/pedi or brunch, but you could just give me the cash you would spend doing those things instead through a paypal account (you'll have to pay a fee though - whoops!). That way I get what I want - cash! Thanks, though. Love ya!"

In this case, your friend is an unbelievably tacky asshole. Don't be an unbelievably tacky asshole, friends. 

MNVegas

Lynessa said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

People have been giving cash gifts for weddings etc. for many, many, many years. Telling people to give you cash gifts is not "modern". It is just plain RUDE because people already know that cash is a great gift and will give it if they want to. Are your friends and family not capable of putting cash or a check inside a card/envelope? You must think they are very stupid if you need to instruct them to give you cash via a gimmicky for profit website. 

lyndausvi

Lynessa said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

****************SITB ********************

Yeah, no.    My parents gave cash gifts to my cousins who were married over 35 years ago.   Giving cash is not new, it's ALWAYS been an option.   Down right asking for money is a new and modern, yet still as rude as it's every been.

MegEn1

Remember, kids....

Etiquette =/= Your Opinion

chibiyui

Lynessa said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

I repeat. The only reason why "honeyfunds are the new thing" is because people are stupid. Why not add a 7% surcharge to all your wedding gifts?

Come on people, it's advertising 101, just because something is marketed as a good idea doesn't mean it is.

AddieCake

Just because something is a new thing doesn't make it a GOOD thing. Seriously....WTF? That's your argument?

mrsmagicgeek

chibiyui said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

I repeat. The only reason why "honeyfunds are the new thing" is because people are stupid. Why not add a 7% surcharge to all your wedding gifts? Come on people, it's advertising 101, just because something is marketed as a good idea doesn't mean it is.

Case in point:

MegEn1

chibiyui said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

I repeat. The only reason why "honeyfunds are the new thing" is because people are stupid. Why not add a 7% surcharge to all your wedding gifts? Come on people, it's advertising 101, just because something is marketed as a good idea doesn't mean it is.

As a Public Relations Specialist, I approve this message ... as truth.

holyguacamole79

Lynessa said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

As soon as you invite others to join in celebrating, it ceases to be her day. 

southernbelle0915

Lynessa said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. 1) It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude 2) but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - 3) NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. 4) NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

1) Wrong.

2) Wrong.

3) Wrong.

4) Is this English? 

I think you don't really understand how HM registries work. They take a % of the gift. So if I'm a guest at your wedding and I donate $100 to your HM registry, you might get $90. If I just wrote you a check, you would get $100. 

Why on earth would anyone want $90 instead of $100. 

Liatris2010

southernbelle0915 said:

Lynessa said:

WOW I have never been on here and seen so many rude and disrespectful women. 1) It is a given that when someone gets married, is having a baby or even buying a house you create a Gift Registry, it is also very modern that people ask for monetary gifts only. I use to think that was rude 2) but it is not. If you are going to spend $50/$80/$100 on a gift then what is wrong with a Honeymoon Fund - 3) NOTHING. If it is rude, then people should stop registering when they have babies and get married because like most of you said you don't have to get married so you need to be able to afford it yourself, hence the many WOMEN that have babies and EXPECT gifts at the babyshower. 4) NO ONE but you and YOUR MAN layed down to have that baby so you NEED TO AFFORD IT and not do Registry's because you are not entitled to ANYTHING.  I for one prefer to give money when I go to any celebration because I rather them get what they need then to: 1) give my gift away for christmas  2)return it 3)need something else more.

Ladies be easy, yal are excited for no reason. It is her day and I have been to quite a few Wedding Expos and a Honeymoon Fund is the New Thing, whether some people consider it rude or to forward it is what it is.

1) Wrong.

2) Wrong.

3) Wrong.

4) Is this English? 

I think you don't really understand how HM registries work. They take a % of the gift. So if I'm a guest at your wedding and I donate $100 to your HM registry, you might get $90. If I just wrote you a check, you would get $100. 

Why on earth would anyone want $90 instead of $100. 

Because they are bad at counting?