YOUGUYS. It's an emergency.

theartistformerlyknownas

Chatting with a dear friend of mine, whose wedding I'm in this summer... "the guys can wear suits, I only put Formal on the invitations so people would dress up and not wear jeans." Doh. Me, trying to laugh it off, "oh goodness, would anyone actually do that?" "I don't know, I don't want to find out." This was after freaking out that people didn't meet her TEN WEEK PRIOR deadline for RSVPing because she "just really wants to know who will be there." I love this girl; I truly do. But I cannot tell her what a giant mistake this all was because it's too late now. So no, lurkers, YOUR FRIENDS WON'T ALWAYS TELL YOU YOU'RE BEING RUDE. I'm bracing myself for a cash bar. Good news is, she did pay for my shoes when she required them dyed. All is not lost.

That's not the emergency though. The emergency is I'M OUT OF WINE.

theartistformerlyknownas

PS Mean Girls is on MTV.

lyndausvi

10 weeks?  Holy shit that's early.  I didn't even send out my invites until 9 weeks out.

I just opened some wine also.  DH went to bed at 6:30 because he isn't feeling well.  It's only 7something now.   I figured what the hell.   I'm sure I'm drinking with someone on the knot!!

Peaseblossom55

There are a few things I always make sure I have in stock in the house, toothpaste, deodorant and wine.  I've learned that lesson the hard way too many times... especially the wine!

Wow 10 weeks is really early.

VulgarGirl

I've had three shots of patron and I'm working on my second margarita. So I'm a little drunk right now and would have said "you're fucking kidding right?"

Also no wine is VERY SAD!!!

theartistformerlyknownas

@MagicInk I may resort to the nasty ass Cuervo in the basement.

pinkcow13

MagicInk said:

I've had three shots of patron and I'm working on my second margarita. So I'm a little drunk right now and would have said "you're fucking kidding right?" Awesome, my kinda night! I drank a quarter glass of wine ( cuz that was all that was left). Took a sip of FI's beer. Now I moved on to fernet. The weather sucks, I figure why not? Also no wine is VERY SAD!!!

APDSS22

If you were close by I could at least give you my extra rum... No one should be reduced to basement tequila.

pinkcow13

Oh geez I have no idea what I did to the formatting. Damn iPad. Or maybe I'm a little drunk....

theartistformerlyknownas

pinkcow13 said:

Oh geez I have no idea what I did to the formatting. Damn iPad. Or maybe I'm a little drunk....

Blame the damn box!

SmileDamnit

Now ladies, let us not judge basement tequila. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

JCbride2015

Haha I'm one beer in but I may open up my Skinnygirl Margarita in solidarity!

And yeah, I have a friend like that too.  I'm a BM in her August 2015 wedding.  She already booked the reception venue, but did not book her church.  She and Fi want a Catholic church wedding.  First mistake, booked the reception first (on a Sunday evening).  Second mistake, they aren't actually church members anywhere, so they are running around trying to find a church "just to marry us."  Ummmm..... I'm pretty sure that's not how Catholic churches work.

She was telling me the other night that they can't find a church that will do a wedding on a Sunday late afternoon/evening "because it's 'the holy day.'"  Said with slight eye roll.  So it looks like they "have to have an early ceremony and some time before our reception."

NOOOOO!!!  No you don't "have to" have a gap!  Especially because you obviously don't care enough about your professed Catholic faith to actually go to church, or prioritize your ceremony before booking a Sunday evening reception.  This is what happens when you think you must have a Catholic wedding just because you're Italian and your mom takes you to church once a year.  

GAH!  Definitely drinking that margarita now.

BreMR

 I'm jealous of all of you drinkers!!  My car broke down today Womp womp.  So I had to have it towed to my BF (He's a mechanic) and I had to steal his car.. he works until Midnight so now I'll have to go pick him up and drag our daughter out to do it. 

Today definitely calls for wine.. but I can't have any because I have to drive!! 

Simky906

I feel your pain OP; we'll be attending a wedding in late June and the RSVP date was 3/15. 

And this is after the wife (yup, they got legally married last fall) got upset that when they requested RSVPs to their Save the dates, that only about 10 people did so. Maybe because it's a save the date and that's not something you RSVP to?

pinkcow13

@jcbride2014- lmao! Can they get married at the reception venue? Or are they dead set on a church, even though they don't belong to one? Let's hope they reach their senses by then!

theartistformerlyknownas

Simky906 said:

I feel your pain OP; we'll be attending a wedding in late June and the RSVP date was 3/15. 

And this is after the wife (yup, they got legally married last fall) got upset that when they requested RSVPs to their Save the dates, that only about 10 people did so. Maybe because it's a save the date and that's not something you RSVP to?

I suggested to her that maybe people didn't see the date, or think to look for it that early, and had set it aside thinking they had plenty of time, since the deadline was a wee bit early. "DON'T THEY KNOW I NEED TO PLAN?!" was the response. Oh honey. Oh sweetie. No.

Simky906

@lolo883 Love the HIMYM gif- though I always think of Zoey's cousin Honey in cases like this. 

And what, exactly, do you (general you) need to plan that requires a ridiculously early RSVP date? I just don't see the point.

lyndausvi

pinkcow13 said:

@jcbride2014- lmao! Can they get married at the reception venue? Or are they dead set on a church, even though they don't belong to one? Let's hope they reach their senses by then!

Catholics need to be married in the Catholic church.   And I get why jcbride thinks the way she does. However,  If they go on holidays they have some sort of Catholic guilty going on and want to set them up to be in good standings when it comes to christenings and everything else that comes along with children.

We didn't get married in the church and one day I asked DH if we would christian our hypothetical child in the Catholic church he looked at me like I had 10 heads.   He was like "of course, why wouldn't we?".   Ummm, because we don't attend church.    The power of the Catholic church even after you have not attended church in a while is still pretty powerful.

Kauris

I was just thinking, that there is not enough wine for the emotional roller coaster that has been my day...Cheers!

pinkcow13

pinkcow13 said:

@jcbride2014- lmao! Can they get married at the reception venue? Or are they dead set on a church, even though they don't belong to one? Let's hope they reach their senses by then!

Catholics need to be married in the Catholic church.   And I get why jcbride thinks the way she does. However,  If they go on holidays they have some sort of Catholic guilty going on and want to set them up to be in good standings when it comes to christenings and everything else that comes along with children.

We didn't get married in the church and one day I asked DH if we would christian our hypothetical child in the Catholic church he looked at me like I had 10 heads.   He was like "of course, why wouldn't we?".   Ummm, because we don't attend church.    The power of the Catholic church even after you have not attended church in a while is still pretty powerful.

You are right about that . In fact, FI and I had a talk about this the other night. We were both raised Catholic, but have not been to church in years. We discussed baptism, first communion, etc for a potential future child and decided it would be hypocritical of us to do so being that we don't go to church.

My mom used to try and make my dad and I feel guilty about not going to church on Christmas Eve ( maybe the third time in a year that she goes) and her logic made no sense. It's that guilt, I guess. In fact on Good Friday FMIL flipped out on FI when he told her we were going out for steak, and he was like " you have not been to church in years!" So I totally agree, the power of the Catholic Church is strong. Edit: I hate iPad knotting

theartistformerlyknownas

lyndausvi said:

pinkcow13 said:

@jcbride2014- lmao! Can they get married at the reception venue? Or are they dead set on a church, even though they don't belong to one? Let's hope they reach their senses by then!

Catholics need to be married in the Catholic church.   And I get why jcbride thinks the way she does. However,  If they go on holidays they have some sort of Catholic guilty going on and want to set them up to be in good standings when it comes to christenings and everything else that comes along with children.

We didn't get married in the church and one day I asked DH if we would christian our hypothetical child in the Catholic church he looked at me like I had 10 heads.   He was like "of course, why wouldn't we?".   Ummm, because we don't attend church.    The power of the Catholic church even after you have not attended church in a while is still pretty powerful.

Oy. I don't believe FI feels this way, despite 12 years of Catholic school. I should probably ask. :-p

theartistformerlyknownas

@simky906 I'm gonna be on Lost!

JCbride2015

@lolo883 I read the text in Marshall's voice in my head and then saw the GIF!  We are watching the episode right now where Robin goes into "IDGAF" mode after her breakup with Don.  Our Netflix is usually cycling through HIMYM in one season or another.

@pinkcow13, @lyndausvi Yeah it's definitely a Catholic guilt thing.  Funny thing is, none of the mom generation really attends church either.  (The bride is Fi's cousin, their moms are sisters).  FMIL and her sister only go to church once or twice a year, if that.  But they really want their kids to have Catholic weddings.  Fi and I put our foot down, but his cousin really wants to please the family.  And potentially herself, how do I know?  Maybe she really wants to be Catholic but just doesn't realize the commitment.

I am reluctant to say too much to her, because we already have basically nothing in common and sometimes I think the family feels like I'm a little.... stuck up or thinking I'm too good.  I'm just not bubbly, loud, and effusive with my love the way they are.  So I don't want to criticize the bride because it will come off like I think I know better than her.

If she brings it up again, maybe I'll just ask whether they would like to get married at the venue or have considered it.  So far, my MO has pretty much been to make comments like, "Oh, that sounds really tough," commiserate a little, and pass the bean dip.

lyndausvi

pinkcow13 said:

pinkcow13 said:

@jcbride2014- lmao! Can they get married at the reception venue? Or are they dead set on a church, even though they don't belong to one? Let's hope they reach their senses by then!

Catholics need to be married in the Catholic church.   And I get why jcbride thinks the way she does. However,  If they go on holidays they have some sort of Catholic guilty going on and want to set them up to be in good standings when it comes to christenings and everything else that comes along with children.

We didn't get married in the church and one day I asked DH if we would christian our hypothetical child in the Catholic church he looked at me like I had 10 heads.   He was like "of course, why wouldn't we?".   Ummm, because we don't attend church.    The power of the Catholic church even after you have not attended church in a while is still pretty powerful.

You are right about that . In fact, FI and I had a talk about this the other night. We were both raised Catholic, but have not been to church in years. We discussed baptism, first communion, etc for a potential future child and decided it would be hypocritical of us to do so being that we don't go to church.

My mom used to try and make my dad and I feel guilty about not going to church on Christmas Eve ( maybe the third time in a year that she goes) and her logic made no sense. It's that guilt, I guess. In fact on Good Friday FMIL flipped out on FI when he told her we were going out for steak, and he was like " you have not been to church in years!" So I totally agree, the power of the Catholic Church is strong. Edit: I hate iPad knotting

I still give up something for lent every year. I can't stop.  I never go to church or even give up meats on Fridays.   It makes no sense, but I've never went a year without giving up something. Never.  Can't remember when it even started.

As far as hypocritical, I don't always think so.   The church will always welcome you back. I know many people who veered away, then returned when they had kids.   My sister is one of them.  They attend pretty regularly, last kid having their confirmation in 2 weeks.  

theartistformerlyknownas

lyndausvi said:

pinkcow13 said:

pinkcow13 said:

@jcbride2014- lmao! Can they get married at the reception venue? Or are they dead set on a church, even though they don't belong to one? Let's hope they reach their senses by then!

Catholics need to be married in the Catholic church.   And I get why jcbride thinks the way she does. However,  If they go on holidays they have some sort of Catholic guilty going on and want to set them up to be in good standings when it comes to christenings and everything else that comes along with children.

We didn't get married in the church and one day I asked DH if we would christian our hypothetical child in the Catholic church he looked at me like I had 10 heads.   He was like "of course, why wouldn't we?".   Ummm, because we don't attend church.    The power of the Catholic church even after you have not attended church in a while is still pretty powerful.

You are right about that . In fact, FI and I had a talk about this the other night. We were both raised Catholic, but have not been to church in years. We discussed baptism, first communion, etc for a potential future child and decided it would be hypocritical of us to do so being that we don't go to church.

My mom used to try and make my dad and I feel guilty about not going to church on Christmas Eve ( maybe the third time in a year that she goes) and her logic made no sense. It's that guilt, I guess. In fact on Good Friday FMIL flipped out on FI when he told her we were going out for steak, and he was like " you have not been to church in years!" So I totally agree, the power of the Catholic Church is strong. Edit: I hate iPad knotting

I still give up something for lent every year. I can't stop.  I never go to church or even give up meats on Fridays.   It makes no sense, but I've never went a year without giving up something. Never.  Can't remember when it even started.

As far as hypocritical, I don't always think so.   The church will always welcome you back. I know many people who veered away, then returned when they had kids.   My sister is one of them.  They attend pretty regularly, last kid having their confirmation in 2 weeks.  

Haha I do too! And no meat on Lenten Fridays. I was raised Episcopalian, which is basically Catholic Lite. Have attended Methodist or non-denominational church, if any at all, for... 17 years? It still sticks with me. And I keep wanting to say "and also with you" when I hear anyone say "may the force be with you" in reference to Star Wars.

Don't ever give up cheese for Lent. Worst decision of my life.

JCbride2015

I asked Fi to pour me some Skinnygirl and he got all fancy with the margarita salt!  Yum.

pinkcow13

@ jcbride2014- LOVE it!! Margaritas are my absolute fave!!!are skinny girl any good? I actually used to give up something for lent until maybe 3 years ago. And yes. Giving up cheese was torture. One year I have up cheese, red meat and alcohol. The hardest was the cheese. I'm such a cheesehead. Below is my fernet. I actually don't like Fernet but we are out of anything that can be mixed!

SmileDamnit

Rut-roe! vino just went dry in D-town! 

And I'm NOT Catholic…but my mother is a convert and because I'm a glutton for punishment, I participate in Lent. This year it was booze (…NOT wine, just hard liquor, which sucked enough. Never in my life craved a bloody Mary more), last year - road rage. Something is wrong with me.

lyndausvi

@niccirf - do you have snow by you?     We have these random snow squalls blowing through, then it get really sunny, then another one.  It's been fun watching the weather change so quickly on the mountains.

JCbride2015

@pinkcow13 Yep, the Skinnygirl are quite good.  They're about the same alcohol content as a glass of wine, so nothing too crazy.  But I like that they aren't too sweet.  Plus it can just live in my wine rack or fridge until I get the margarita craving...

SmileDamnit

@lyndausvi - no snow, but it's been hella windy! Yesterday it was super sunny & then started sleeting…in the sun. I was hoping for some thunder-snow, but now such luck. Spring in Colorado is always a treat, and you get the best of it in the mountains!