#Promposals

JCbride2015

The news headline is complete with hashtag because, of course.  How else would you be asked to prom, if all your boyfriend's friends aren't singing to you in front of the whole school?

http://www.nj.com/entertainment/index.ssf/2014/04/promposals_nj_prom.html#incart_special-report

hikebikebemerry

Blaaahhhhh.

When I was asked to prom, we did it right.  He looked slightly past my right ear to avoid direct eye contact- and I said, "YesAwesomeOkayByeeee" like the awkward cheetah that I was (am).

JCbride2015

hikebikebemerry said:

Blaaahhhhh.

When I was asked to prom, we did it right.  He looked slightly past my right ear to avoid direct eye contact- and I said, "YesAwesomeOkayByeeee" like the awkward cheetah that I was (am).

Hehe.  Fi and I went to all both of our senior proms together, and he didn't even ask me either time.  We were already dating, so it was just like, "Hey, do you want to chip in for the limo?  What color should we wear?"

Guys, apparently my whole relationship is founded on a lie.  I want a re-do!

HaileyDancingbear

FI and I didn't care about prom much.  He only wanted to go because I wanted to go, and I only wanted to go because I refused to pass up an excuse to make a fancy dress.  I always thought it was really stupid how crazy people got over it, because prom itself is really kinda lame, it's just the people around you that make it fun.  The first time I went alone and just ended up sipping coffee and chatting up a storm with another girl who had gone alone, so that was fun.  The second time I enjoyed it because I was with FI.  Otherwise it's just dinner and then really bad music that just goes Umts umts umts umts or Boots and cats and boots and cats and boots and cats (Read it aloud and you get the drumline for most shitty pop songs, and pretty much anything these DJ's played)  all night.

Simply Fated

I had never heard of these huge prom askings until I saw it on Laguna Beach. Absolutely ridiculous. It's not enough to be asked, you have to make a huge todo about it?

chibiyui

pinkshorts27

JCBride2014 said:

hikebikebemerry said:

Blaaahhhhh.

When I was asked to prom, we did it right.  He looked slightly past my right ear to avoid direct eye contact- and I said, "YesAwesomeOkayByeeee" like the awkward cheetah that I was (am).

Hehe.  Fi and I went to all both of our senior proms together, and he didn't even ask me either time.  We were already dating, so it was just like, "Hey, do you want to chip in for the limo?  What color should we wear?"

Guys, apparently my whole relationship is founded on a lie.  I want a re-do!

Hey me too!

JennyColada

I didn't only not get "promposaled" to by my then-boyfriend, but I even paid for the tickets.

I fail at prom.

CMGragain

In 1969, my boyfriend (now DH) forgot to ask me. He just assumed that we were going together.  The week before Prom, he asked me what color my dress was going to be so he could buy me a corsage.  I reminded him that no one had asked me to go to prom.  He almost hit a light pole with the car.  I still tease him about that, occasionally.  @JCBride2014   Glad I'm not the only one!

Fran1985

Ha. They didn't have the hashtags but some people have always done promposals. (I'm thinking of Laguna beach too- can you believe that was 10 years ago?) It actually makes way more sense I think (not that I approve) but the big flashy public proposal seems more fitting for something like prom than asking will you spend the rest of your life with me. 

Lizzieyounce

Y'all know what this means, right?

Snowflakes who got proposed to at prom will start visiting the boards.  It happens.

jenna8984

Gag me with a spoon. These are the snowflakes on Pinterest who pin the "rules for marriage proposal" and 10 carat rings.

I was never asked to prom. Junior year I went with my gay male friend (who my senile great-grandmother still thinks is my boyfriend to this day). Senior year I was dating a 23 year old and he wanted to go and I refused. I said that is so inappropriate for a 23 year old to go to a prom, so I talked a guy friend from school into going with me so I could wear a pretty dress. (And yes I do realize dating him at that age at all was inappropriate and he was a creep lol)

HisGirlFriday13

@chibiyui, that is the single best GIF I have seen all week.

I'm trying to remember back to high school. My first prom, I was dating a guy a year younger than I was, so I had to ask him, and I was all like, 'Souhmdoyoumaybewannagotopromtogetherwhatdoyouthink?' And he kind of looked at me and said, 'Uhm, HisGirl, we're dating, so I assumed we'd be going to prom together. I already ordered your corsage.'

Second prom, senior year, I was dating someone in my own year, and he just kind of said, 'So, for prom, how about we go out to dinner with some friend before hand?' and I said OK.

This epic, over-the-top promposals have actually been banned by schools in my area (well, at least on school grounds. What the kids do on the weekend is beyond the purview of the school's authority.) 

Y'all just KNOW that the girls who get these proposals in high school are going to be the Pinterest brides with the 'eight simple rules' or whatever in a few years.

jenna8984

@hisgirlfriday13 I find it so odd that in different areas like yours the kids get all dressed up and go out to restaurants for dinner. Our proms around here are all like a wedding reception where you get there, take pictures, are served a full dinner, then dancing. I'd be pissed if I had to pay for tickets and it didn't even include dinner.

Inkdancer

Wow, I must have done it wrong. I went to my junior prom alone, and asked my boyfriend to take me to senior prom-- where I promptly fell asleep on the couch in the lobby because he wouldn't dance with me.

HisGirlFriday13

@jenna8984 -- I've heard of proms like that. I grew up in a very rural area, and for a lot of families, the cost of tickets to a prom that included all of that would have been prohibitive, so I think it's more of an equaliser thing -- this way, kids who can't afford dinner don't go, and those who can, do.

Our prom tickets were $25 each or $35 for a couple, btw, so it's not like we really expected to get a whole lot for that money.

Also, at least when I was in high school, there wasn't as much prom-related stuff. No one rented limos or cars; we all came in what we normally drove to school in. Dresses were usually off-the-rack at a department store or maybe a clearance sale on BM dresses at the local bridal salon. Everyone got up-do hair styles and maybe you got your nails done, but usually not (unless you already had acrylics). Dinner, if you went out, was always in a group and it was to someplace 'fancy' like Olive Garden. The dance itself was held in the high school gym.

It just wasn't as big of a deal; there weren't as many expectations.

Although, true story, I had my first-ever marriage proposal on prom night. 

JCbride2015

Our prom was more like a mini- wedding reception with a buffet dinner and round tables in a big ballroom.  I actually remember it being really fun, like a freakin' awesome time.  I wore a huge coral princess ball gown and just danced all night.

Anybody else have that trend with the really slutty dresses at prom?  We have a lot of bare midriffs, tiny miniskirts, really clingy thin dresses with VPL.  I'll always be glad I got my big poofy princess dress and actually looked like, you know, a high school student.

jenna8984

@hisgirlfriday13 Yea I guess it makes sense to keep the cost down and allow a chance to go. I believe our tickets were only $45-50 a couple. I was on student council and we did things like car washes to make up extra funds to keep the ticket prices down. But I agree- we all got Macy's dresses with clearance coupons and drove our own cars. My friend was in cosmetology at a tech high school so she always did my hair for free and if I wanted the photo package I paid for it myself.

@jcbride2014 OMG YES! I can't believe all the dresses are short and skanky now. I remember watching Laguna Beach back in 2004 and thinking "Why are these hoes wearing short dresses?" Anyone at my school would have gotten laughed at if they weren't in a long gown. I admit to wearing a bare midriff to homecoming dance but that was way less formal, more like cocktail attire (and I wanted to be Christina Aguilera in her black VMA outfit hahahah).

emmaaa

FI and I went together junior and senior year. We weren't dating junior year and I had gotten out a relationship and walked up to him and said, "Hey J, are you going to prom?" He said no. So I said, "Well you're going to go with me." To this day he will not let me live it down how demanding I was. Senior year we were dating and he just said, "Sooo, we going to prom?" I demand two do-overs.

At ours you had to buy tickets (seniors were free) and had punch and fruit maybe? We went to a restaurant first in the limo with our group of friends.

KatWAG

My high school bf left flowers on my car while I was at lacrosse practice. And a poem asking me to prom. It is so cheesy it makes me gag, but I am pretty sure I still have the poem somewhere.

And naturally, my baby blue dress matched his vest and tie.

HisGirlFriday13

KatWAG said:

My high school bf left flowers on my car while I was at lacrosse practice. And a poem asking me to prom. It is so cheesy it makes me gag, but I am pretty sure I still have the poem somewhere.

And naturally, my baby blue dress matched his vest and tie.

OMFG, baby boy KatWAG, get your cute little self out here already!!

JCbride2015

HisGirlFriday13 said:

KatWAG said:

My high school bf left flowers on my car while I was at lacrosse practice. And a poem asking me to prom. It is so cheesy it makes me gag, but I am pretty sure I still have the poem somewhere.

And naturally, my baby blue dress matched his vest and tie.

OMFG, baby boy KatWAG, get your cute little self out here already!!

Seconded!

smalfrie19

My oldest cousin is at that age and the last two years she has had homecoming/promposals and posted them on FB...and I just roll my eyes and scroll past it...iccckkk!!!

VulgarGirl

At my high school prom was for juniors and seniors. So underclassmen could only go if invited by a junior or senior. My freshmen and sophomore years I went with a gay guy friend of mine who wanted to go, didn't want to take a guy, and didn't want to deal with a girl who'd think he was into him. I was perfect. Plus I can dance. First year he asked me at lunch. He walked up to me and said "I want to go to prom, I'm not bringing another guy, be my beard?" I said yes. And the second time he just said "I got our prom tickets, do you want a corsage? You took it off last year so I wasn't going to bother this year". When I was finally a junior my first year I just went with a group of friends and my senior year I asked my girlfriend of the moment to go with me. No promposal. I just said "Wanna go to prom and piss off a bunch of people" and she said yes.

My first prom I actually wore a wedding dress I'd found at goodwill. I shortened it and took out a bunch of fluff, then dyed it pink. Second year for some reason I already had a black dress that would work so I wore that. Third year I wore slacks and vest and got told I needed to dress like a lady by some teacher I didn't know. And the fourth year I actually bought a real dress, red, floor length and sparkly. It was also...fitted. My girlfriend wore a similar one in black and we made out on the dance floor. 

I never got the big deal thing. It was just a dance. Yeah a fancy dance but...just a dance. I've had a few friends throw "prom parties" now where we either wear our old prom gear or buy terrible dresses at thrift stores and wear them. We play music from back in the day and drink spiked punch. Usually pretty fun.

PrincessOfHavoc

Sophomore year, went with DF actually. He and my brother are best friends, his sister (who is now married to mybrother) and I are best friends. We snarked on the swanky outfits and that was 14 years ago. I had a navy dress with silver stars on it.

Junior year, a bunch of us went together and again, snark city. That was a lovely (ha) fuchsia number of fluff.

Senior year, my mother and grandma were big on debuting me. So I went with my flamingly stereotypical gay friend in black dress pants and a long vest jacket thing. And wore my Doc Marten's and had an entire night of dancing my heart out because my feet were comfy.

I believe all the invites were hey, want to go make fun of our idiot classmates.

Which my mother and grandma had to make up for. Damn them.

wrigleyville

My Promposal was super romantic. One of my male friends turned toward me during French class and said, "Hey, Miller*. Prom?"

Our Prom was $20/person and $25/couple. It was a lot like HisGirl's, in that we went out to dinner wherever we could afford to. The rich kids drove an hour away to a city that had "nice" restaurants, and the rest of us ate at the nice-ish restaurants in town. I did my own hair and painted my nails, and I got my dress from a bridal shop clearance rack.

I had a great time. We mostly went to make fun of people and show everyone who made fun of us that we could clean up pretty great. (It was 1994, and I was big into goth/grunge even though those weren't really terms yet.)

*Obviously, this is not my real last name

whitjoy

On my facebook this week!

misshart00

My date to senior prom was a blind date.

buttercup1958

I didn't go to prom, but our tickets were very expensive. They were two hundred for a couple. I decided I would rather go see system of a down haha

JCbride2015

whitjoy said:

On my facebook this week!

I actually don't hate that!  At least they all look classy with long dresses and nothing hanging out where it shouldn't.  Although I don't understand why they have the girl in a white dress holding one of the white letters...

wandajune6

Tickets to my prom were $100 couple and people got limos. None of my friends went so I didn't either. I also remember my parents telling us that they would split the cost (per person) with us if we wanted- and both my sister and I (twins) decided that the cost of tickets, dresses, and shoes were ridiculous.

I definitely remember what we did instead - a dozen kids in a friends basement, a bunch of junkfood and a ton of "party favors"...