'I do not think that word means what you think it means.'

HisGirlFriday13

DH told me a funny story last night.

A (very young) co-worker of his has a new GF and she's apparently pretty strict -- he can't go to the office lunches anymore (because, OMG!, he works with GIRLS and they're THERE and that's like a DATE), and he can't go out to any of the happy hour things they do and he can't go to parties that the co-workers host and on and on and on.

(DH works in a small office; there are only about a dozen people, total, and they're all pretty close and have worked together for a number of years.)

So one of his OTHER co-workers is making fun of the co-worker's new GF and says to the group of people, 'Yeah, she's really circumcising him!!!'

DH cracked up and said, 'I think you mean 'castrating.' 'Circumcising' is a little different.'

doeydo

Yay for circumcision.  Not so much for castration...   

banana468

They're just a wee bit different. Maybe your DH needs to get out some pictures as a teaching tool.

KGold80

banana468 said:

They're just a wee bit different. Maybe your DH needs to get out some pictures as a teaching tool.

Maybe I am inconceivably immature, but that choice of words made me giggle a little bit.

HisGirlFriday13

KGold80 said:

banana468 said:

They're just a wee bit different. Maybe your DH needs to get out some pictures as a teaching tool.

Maybe I am inconceivably immature, but that choice of words made me giggle a little bit.

You and me both!!

pinkcow13

Lmao! Poor coworker, I really don't understand how people put up with nonsense like that. How old is this chick? Because she sounds like she's around 12.

HisGirlFriday13

Co-worker is 21/22 (just out of college), GF is still in college, at the college where they met, which is several hours away from where we live/DH works. 

Apparently, btw, DH is on the 'approved' list for the CW to hang out with, 'cause he's married; and another CW is OK because she's a lesbian.

Previously DH has told me that CW who is being whipped has suggested having 'dinner and drinks with you and HisGirl next time GF is in town.'

DH said, 'I declined because I knew you wouldn't want to do it. I don't want to do it. I was nice about declining, but I was really thinking, 'I'm declining, because that doesn't sound like something I'd enjoy.''

phira

Just a liiiiittle bit different!!

And yeah, definitely sounds like this relationship is a real winner. I hope that this "strictness" is something that evaporates as this woman gets older!

mysticl

I have no idea what the culture is like where your husband works but at some places missing the office lunches can be bad.  While they may not be technically mandatory the bosses take note of who is there and who isn't.  I wonder if this little girl realizes she is potentially damaging her bf professionally.  I also wonder if she plans to avoid all interaction with male coworkers when she gets out into the real world. 

HisGirlFriday13

mysticl said:

I have no idea what the culture is like where your husband works but at some places missing the office lunches can be bad.  While they may not be technically mandatory the bosses take note of who is there and who isn't.  I wonder if this little girl realizes she is potentially damaging her bf professionally.  I also wonder if she plans to avoid all interaction with male coworkers when she gets out into the real world. 

My husband works in news, so these are just the reporters (no managers), and they're fairly casual, but you're right -- they are damaging to him professionally because these are the lunches (and FFS, they happen once every two weeks at Pita Pit) where people talk about the stories they're working on and what they're doing and where they share tips and story ideas and news and what-not.

By missing them, he's missing out on learning from people with DECADES more experience than he has, and he's missing out on the opportunity to network with colleagues. He's also being relegated to kind of a second-tier status; not really one of the team players, you know?

Also, not that it matters, but the people who attend this lunch are: DH (married), the courts reporter (female, married); the city reporter (female, engaged, and getting married next month); the county reporter (a lesbian); the schools reporter (female, not engaged, but in a relationship); the health reporter (female, not engaged, but in a relationship); and the sports guys (all men.)

Other than the two reporters who are roughly this guy's age, everyone else is at least a decade older, married or engaged, and not even REMOTELY interested in this reporter other than to improve his writing. 

The lunch is today, actually, and DH texted me to tell me CW is coming, he's just not telling his GF. Because that's the basis for a healthy relationship....

KGold80

HisGirlFriday13 said:

mysticl said:

I have no idea what the culture is like where your husband works but at some places missing the office lunches can be bad.  While they may not be technically mandatory the bosses take note of who is there and who isn't.  I wonder if this little girl realizes she is potentially damaging her bf professionally.  I also wonder if she plans to avoid all interaction with male coworkers when she gets out into the real world. 

My husband works in news, so these are just the reporters (no managers), and they're fairly casual, but you're right -- they are damaging to him professionally because these are the lunches (and FFS, they happen once every two weeks at Pita Pit) where people talk about the stories they're working on and what they're doing and where they share tips and story ideas and news and what-not.

By missing them, he's missing out on learning from people with DECADES more experience than he has, and he's missing out on the opportunity to network with colleagues. He's also being relegated to kind of a second-tier status; not really one of the team players, you know?

Also, not that it matters, but the people who attend this lunch are: DH (married), the courts reporter (female, married); the city reporter (female, engaged, and getting married next month); the county reporter (a lesbian); the schools reporter (female, not engaged, but in a relationship); the health reporter (female, not engaged, but in a relationship); and the sports guys (all men.)

Other than the two reporters who are roughly this guy's age, everyone else is at least a decade older, married or engaged, and not even REMOTELY interested in this reporter other than to improve his writing. 

The lunch is today, actually, and DH texted me to tell me CW is coming, he's just not telling his GF. Because that's the basis for a healthy relationship....

Well, it doesn't seem to be a particularly healthy relationship in the first place. Hopefully this poor guy figures out how nuts all of his GF's controlling behaviors are and puts his foot down or ends it. The whole thing is ridiculous.

phira

Ugh this is like a bad romantic comedy.

SBmini

It always shocks me that 1. some girls think this is a perfectly acceptable thing to do and 2. that some guys allow them to do it. 

They should start an office pool on how long those two last. I'm going with two more months. 

HisGirlFriday13

It is. But at least it's livening up our Friday on the otherwise kind of quiet boards!!

(DH did ask me if I was planning on telling my 'Knotter bride friend board people' this story. I looked at him and was like, 'What do YOU think?')

jdluvr06

Geesh... The girl sounds nutty.

lyndausvi

HisGirlFriday13 said:

DH told me a funny story last night.

A (very young) co-worker of his has a new GF and she's apparently pretty strict -- he can't go to the office lunches anymore (because, OMG!, he works with GIRLS and they're THERE and that's like a DATE), and he can't go out to any of the happy hour things they do and he can't go to parties that the co-workers host and on and on and on.

(DH works in a small office; there are only about a dozen people, total, and they're all pretty close and have worked together for a number of years.)

So one of his OTHER co-workers is making fun of the co-worker's new GF and says to the group of people, 'Yeah, she's really circumcising him!!!'

DH cracked up and said, 'I think you mean 'castrating.' 'Circumcising' is a little different.'

That is crazy.       Now that the property is closed for another few weeks DH has pop-up works lunches I don't even know about until he gets home.   

I can't imagine being in a relationship like that?   On either side of the coin.  I have enough work and/or  posting to set these newbs on the correct etiquette path to do than worry about DH at a lunch meeting with a group of co-workers.   

VulgarGirl

One day I was at work and these three very good looking young women came in to get tattoos. In talking with them I discovered they are all strippers (like the classy kind, not the quick get the Purel and a therapist kind). So I pick up my phone an text FI "FYI, I'm about to tattoo crazy hot strippers" and she responded "FYI, I just had a conversation about eggshell vs ivory paint colors for a living room. Your job is better". Ya know, because she knows I'm not gonna nail a stripper behind her back! 

I've heard girls do the "My man can't be around any other women" shtick and I'm just sitting there like honey, you're an idiot. Men can talk to women without having trying to have sex with them. I've seen them  do it.

mysticl

MagicInk said:

One day I was at work and these three very good looking young women came in to get tattoos. In talking with them I discovered they are all strippers (like the classy kind, not the quick get the Purel and a therapist kind). So I pick up my phone an text FI "FYI, I'm about to tattoo crazy hot strippers" and she responded "FYI, I just had a conversation about eggshell vs ivory paint colors for a living room. Your job is better". Ya know, because she knows I'm not gonna nail a stripper behind her back! 

I've heard girls do the "My man can't be around any other women" shtick and I'm just sitting there like honey, you're an idiot. Men can talk to women without having trying to have sex with them. I've seen them  do it.

And if he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat.  

HisGirlFriday13

I have lunch with other men all the time. DH usually finds out about it afterwards. On Wednesday, I had lunch with three different men! (All married, but that's irrelevant.)

Do you know WHY? Because it's my damn job, and I do it, and then I go home and it's nothing other than a working lunch. 

DH said the CW ended up showing up for lunch, belatedly, because his GF called him and he 'couldn't get off the phone' and one of the grizzled old reporters who's been there since basically forever said, 'Son, if she's got you by the short curlies now, just give up the ghost. You either got the chutzpah to own your own dick or you don't, but there ain't no in-between.'

I wish I could go to his lunches. They'd be way more fun than my boring political lunches.

ETF spelling

lyndausvi

too funny.   I wish I was there also.

lc07

I dunno, either way she's cutting off part of his penis. 

Rebl90

HisGirlFriday13 said:

I have lunch with other men all the time. DH usually finds out about it afterwards. On Wednesday, I had lunch with three different men! (All married, but that's irrelevant.)

Do you know WHY? Because it's my damn job, and I do it, and then I go home and it's nothing other than a working lunch. 

DH said the CW ended up showing up for lunch, belatedly, because his GF called him and he 'couldn't get off the phone' and one of the grizzled old reporters who's been there since basically forever said, 'Son, if she's got you by the short curlies now, just give up the ghost. You either got the chutzpah to own your own dick or you don't, but there ain't no in-between.'

I wish I could go to his lunches. They'd be way more fun than my boring political lunches.

ETF spelling

Lunch with THREE married men???? You hussy....   :P

huskypuppy14

This woman sounds like a child, and the CW isn't much better. If you can't trust your SO, you shouldn't be with them.  He's really going to shoot himself professionally, if he keeps this up. You are 22, live a little!

theartistformerlyknownas

He sounds 10x castrated.

pinkshorts27

HisGirlFriday13 said:

I have lunch with other men all the time. DH usually finds out about it afterwards. On Wednesday, I had lunch with three different men! (All married, but that's irrelevant.)

Do you know WHY? Because it's my damn job, and I do it, and then I go home and it's nothing other than a working lunch. 

DH said the CW ended up showing up for lunch, belatedly, because his GF called him and he 'couldn't get off the phone' and one of the grizzled old reporters who's been there since basically forever said, 'Son, if she's got you by the short curlies now, just give up the ghost. You either got the chutzpah to own your own dick or you don't, but there ain't no in-between.'

I wish I could go to his lunches. They'd be way more fun than my boring political lunches.

ETF spelling

Heck, I go to lunch all the time with guys because they are my friends. Half the time FI years about it, but half the time we are just too busy. He trusts me. FI had dinner/lunch with girls all the time because most of his classmates are girls. I don't mind. I adore them and they keep him humble. I would not marry him if I didn't trust him.

PrincessOfHavoc

There are many days that I am the only XX person of 12 people.

Given as I am an evil bitch wearing composite toed boots, I ain't worried.

DF wants to know why he can't eat the amazing, authentic Chinese food his female coworker brings in. I'm only annoyed because she makes some awesome food and I'm deprived.

APDSS22

H goes out to eat with one or two girls from the office most days (sometimes he brings his lunch and there are a couple of guys he'll go with sometimes) and occasionally there's even the awkward moment when the waiter brings one check.  I only get jealous because I usually come back to the house and eat mac n' cheese from a box instead of going to these cool restaurants in the city he keeps talking about.

CMGragain

I never used to worry about DH traveling with women from his office.  They stayed in the same hotels, and drove together in the same car.  I figured that after a couple of days with Mr. Gotta Be In Control, they'd send him back to me.  Once, a lady actually came back two days early because she couldn't stand his travel anxiety.  He was embarrassed.  Just picturing him trying to drive a stick shift car on the Autobahn made me laugh!

CMGragain

I've got to share this one!  It's from "Consumer Reports" that came in the mail today.

"Manuals that have been lost in translation.  (Our favorite: Intending to identify a screw, an electronic keyboard pamphlet from Yamaha used an entirely different Anglo-Saxon word.)"  Begins with F.