I know some of you are aware of this incredibly difficult year that I/we have been experiencing, especially the last few months concerning FMIL. She has now gone missing. Completely "vanished." Last seen Sunday evening and last phone conversation was Tues afternoon. The only lead we have is that she was picked up by a taxi and driven to a somewhat remote area where she asked him to just drop her off. There are 2 stores on this island where the parking lot is center. The footage from both stores surveillance cameras were reviewed and she did not enter either store. Neither store has cameras outside so they have no footage of where she went/direction. Basically, this area is surrounded by thick, thick mangroves, deep and shallow canals that lead out to the gulf of Mexico. 3 days of air, foot and marine search and nothing. She has no money, no wallet, no clothes missing from her closet. She took her medications and cell phone but no charger. The last "activity" from her cell was 1.5 hours after she was dropped off and then the phone went "silent." "Silent" meaning when a "ping" was sent it didnt work because either her phone was in water or because the battery died. Phone was not manually powered off.
Visual from choppers is not possible because the mangroves are so think. By foot, they can not enter deep in the mangroves without the Marines or Navy seals because there are poisonous snakes and alligators. The authorities who have jurisdiction told our local investigating detective that the only way they are alerted to a "body" is by the buzzards that fly overhead.
Media picked the story up yesterday and we are praying someone has seen her somewhere. My fiance is devastated. she got out of the psych hospital again, Friday. He had a business trip Monday. He now feels that he shouldnt have gone. Being suicidal (was readmitted this month and they only kept her for 6 days after changing ALL her meds) we fear that she was successful at taking her own life. It seems the only "logical explanation because of her history and because of the area she instructed the driver to take her. Randomly she just gave directions. When he picked her up she had no "destination" she just told him to drive. We still cant figure out how she paid him in cash. The hospital still has her wallet, bank card, credit cards and checks. There is no activity on her bank acct or charge card acct.
I cant tell you the agony we are all feeling. My fiance wont/cant sleep because he feels he shouldnt/its not right while she is out there. The last 2 days he has gotten progressively distant. Out wedding is schedule for May 24, 3 weeks. Tonight, he said that he doesnt know how to feel about it or anything....and if she is alive (and just took off without contacting family) or dead, he just doesnt know what he feels about wedding. He doesnt want this "in the back of his head' and wants it resolved first. He asked me if we would lose money if we postponed. I told him I would call venue and find out.
Please understand I am not heartless and do not mean to sound selfish. This is a horrific situation. Its his mom. His emotions are all over and its understandable. Mine are also and I do understand yet now...I am even more devastated. He wants it resolved but if she is gone, and jumped into a canal (a threat she made hence recent Baker Acted) or over dosed on pills and walked into those mangroves, then they may never find her-so he may never get the closure in the way he says he needs. Then what. We never get married?
And tomorrow, I am moving into our "marital" home. He was suppose to join me after we are married.
16 months engaged..3 WEEKS BEFORE our wedding! I can not believe what is happening and what may not be happening. I can not believe where my/his/our life is right now. I can not believe she did this. If she is alive, I can not believe she would do this to her children/us/family!
I need help. In addition to what I am feeling because she is missing, I am so hurt that he doesnt know what to think about wedding. I know, I really know that this is overwhelming to say the least and most difficult for him. I am just so so sad and scared. I feel like Im losing him...us. This could change him forever and I dont know how to help him besides loving him. Something I think just isnt enough.
