Yikes, huge gap!!

ShadeofGreen816

Well, the invitation for the first gap wedding of the season has arrived. And… dun dun dun… it's my MOH. Her wedding is at 2:30 and her reception isn't until 6! Ugh. I honestly had a feeling this might happen - I have tried to avoid asking too many specifics, because I've already had to correct her on a couple of things (i.e. she wasn't going to invite 3-year bf of our HS friend because she's not met him… I fixed that one at least). I honestly am not sure there won't be a cash bar but I'm pretty sure it's at least partially hosted.

I feel worst for my FI, because I'm in the wedding. Not so sure what he's going to do for those 3 hrs. He will know almost no one else at the wedding. Luckily my parents house is about 1/10th of a mile from the reception, he said he might go have a beer with my dad and wait for me to be finished… yuck!

HisGirlFriday13

Ughhhh. That's so crappy. 

I hope your FI does go have some beers with your dad, and smuggles some back to you!

theartistformerlyknownas

Boo.

I was snarking with a coworker about my stepsister's upcoming wedding, and how cold it's going to be outside with no backup plan (forecast is mid 50's, outside with no backup plan) and the fact that it's at 1:00 with no real lunch (just hors d'oeuvres) so I'd need to make sure to eat something substantial beforehand while getting ready. I said "oh well, at least it's not a big horrible gap." She said "oh yeah, we had to have one of those, you know, because I'm Catholic... we just drank and were all wasted by the time the reception started!" She also suggested I have a partial cash bar to save money ("oh we didn't bother paying for drinks... just beer and wine and if you wanted more than that, pay for it yourself.") I need to remember not to talk to her about weddings.

ShadeofGreen816

The weird part is that they're NOT Catholic. I don't know WTF we're going to be doing for that time, why they can't use the church later, etc. Hmmm… should be an interesting day! I do love her and I am trying not to judge her Her family sometimes has weird ideas about what is and is not "ok."

HisGirlFriday13

GAAAAAHHHHHH!!!

YOU CAN STILL HAVE A FULLY HOSTED, NO-GAP, PROPER WEDDING EVEN IF YOU'RE CATHOLIC!!!

Sorry, that's just one of my pet peeves. 

ShadeofGreen816

HisGirlFriday13 said:

GAAAAAHHHHHH!!!

YOU CAN STILL HAVE A FULLY HOSTED, NO-GAP, PROPER WEDDING EVEN IF YOU'RE CATHOLIC!!!

Sorry, that's just one of my pet peeves. 

Totally agree. My room mate from college did it beautifully last year. Except apparently she managed to upset SOMEONE because there was basically a tornado at her half inside/half outside reception. We were crammed into the most "stable" part of the shelter. They still did a wonderful job of keeping bar/apps out and eventually we got a late dinner and lots of dancing!

I guess my point was that it's extra weird in this case because they don't even have that half-assed excuse!

VulgarGirl

So I always hear people say the gaps are when they get their pictures done and I have a question about that. Who the fuck needs that many pictures?! We're hoping to get it done in 45 minutes, but have planned an hour (cocktail hour, food and drinks, we're nice people) to smile pretty for the camera. And I still think that might be too long. I mean, how many poses can you figure out? Really?! And people need 3 fucking hours? You. Are. Not. A. Model. This is not your photo shoot. Get your shit together.

I'd be slipping off with your FI for beers.

climbingsingle

Ugh. That is a giant gap. 

theartistformerlyknownas

MagicInk said:

So I always hear people say the gaps are when they get their pictures done and I have a question about that. Who the fuck needs that many pictures?! We're hoping to get it done in 45 minutes, but have planned an hour (cocktail hour, food and drinks, we're nice people) to smile pretty for the camera. And I still think that might be too long. I mean, how many poses can you figure out? Really?! And people need 3 fucking hours? You. Are. Not. A. Model. This is not your photo shoot. Get your shit together.

I'd be slipping off with your FI for beers.

Everyone keeps asking me if we're gonna drive all over the city to take "cool" pictures. I was like "how the fuck many hours is that gonna take? Hell no, I want hors d'oeuvres. And why would you want to wait for us that long?" (Not to mention the fact that everysingleperson who's gotten married in Detroit in the past 10 years takes wedding pictures at everysinglesamedamnplace. I don't want cookie cutter "trying to be unique" wedding pictures. Generic golf course is fine, thanks. Detroit is being overrun by hipsters, I tell ya.)

mysticl

SarahRN87 said:

The weird part is that they're NOT Catholic. I don't know WTF we're going to be doing for that time, why they can't use the church later, etc. Hmmm… should be an interesting day! I do love her and I am trying not to judge her Her family sometimes has weird ideas about what is and is not "ok."

The church we got married in held weddings on Saturday at noon and 2pm. That was it.  Now it was a military chapel and it was free so you could take it or leave it.