African American Weddings

Facts and Results - Changes Ya'll

FACT: In short we lost the land we had been in negotiations with since February to a developer with deep pockets.   
RESULT:  No backyard wedding

FACT:  No backyard wedding means I have to find a venue.   Found four we like but none of them were available for our 6/27/15 date and some were booked into July and August already.  
RESULT:  I had to move the wedding date.  %&^&!!  New date is now 9/5/15.

FACT:  Found a venue I love.  Went to see it Tuesday AM.  The Dude couldn't go.  He had to catch a plane to Atlanta and won't be able to see the venue until next week.  I told him in his absence if I loved it I would pay the hold fee to secure our date and wait for him to see it upon his return before signing the paperwork.  I loved it and paid the hold fee.
RESULT:  Fire and brimstone.  The Dude had a conniption fit over the idea of me paying a hold fee and possibly losing it. WTH!  Dude I know chemo is rough but it turned my sweet loving man into the dang Hulk.  He hasn't talked to me since.  Ya'll the hold fee is $50 dang dollars but I didn't get a chance to tell The Dude since he stopped talking to me.  To give him some slack I told him the fee was $750 the night before I actually went to see the venue and found out the real fee.   So what??  I want my dang venue after all the STRESS MESS we've been through.  I am going to let him have his time to get over it.  And, he WILL (for his sake) get over it.

Dude - I am tired.  I've had 10 wedding dates.  Seen fifty-11-100 venues.  I've changed my BM dresses 3 times.  I've had 3 wedding gowns.  People think I am related to the boy who cried wolf.
Some dang body is getting married next year on 9/5/15 at the venue I just paid a hold fee for even if I have to marry myself.  





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Re: Facts and Results - Changes Ya'll

  • lol *hugs* i feel ya frustration
    sorry to hear about the land... that bites 
    the dude and yella boi need to bot have seats in fed ex field.... 
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  • 'lette.  Girl all I can offer is a prayer and a jersey fist pump and church hanky wave and an Amen.  

    And, he WILL (for his sake) get over it.     <-- I giggled. I did.

    I can't imagine what it must be like to have to regularly go through this and constantly have faith about it, but I don't have to imagine what sort of strength and love and patience and compassion it is for a woman who's not yet his wife to already be doing the sickness in the sickness and health part of that vow.   If you need me to put that on a tshirt for him for when he turns back into David Banner, guh, holla, I gotchu.   shooooooo.     know what, bump all that, tell him *I* said lol, that if this toddler tantrum mess continues that on September 5th, I will be at said venue with your new boyfriend to take you out to lunch.     bye Craig.
     



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  • 'lette.  Girl all I can offer is a prayer and a jersey fist pump and church hanky wave and an Amen.  

    And, he WILL (for his sake) get over it.     <-- I giggled. I did.

    I can't imagine what it must be like to have to regularly go through this and constantly have faith about it, but I don't have to imagine what sort of strength and love and patience and compassion it is for a woman who's not yet his wife to already be doing the sickness in the sickness and health part of that vow.   If you need me to put that on a tshirt for him for when he turns back into David Banner, guh, holla, I gotchu.   shooooooo.     know what, bump all that, tell him *I* said lol, that if this toddler tantrum mess continues that on September 5th, I will be at said venue with your new boyfriend to take you out to lunch.     bye Craig.
     



    Hulk got mad and ran away, lets keep it that way, don't wanna see hulk smashing sh...

    WAAAAHHHH - no tents!?!? **pouty face** . Glad to hear you got a venue! Change of date- we can deal with, as long as you guys are getting married HEALTHY!!! WOOT WOOT! what kind of cancer did he have? You guys should do a cancer walk and you can wear one of your wedding gowns every year for the next 3 years. lol! p.s. did we ever see these dresses??? PICS!!!!
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  • You all are the best!  LOL!  

    @divav - I bet The Dude and Yella Boi would have lots to chat about.  

    @sultry - Girl you are a riot!  I live by Hebrews 11:1.  I must to keep my peace.   I will tell The Dude what you said and let him know you got a backup for me for the wedding day.  

    @footballwife - I will have a tent at the new venue.  It has gorgeous outdoor space and a tent is allowable.  The Dude has been dealing with bladder cancer.  You saw the most recent dress.  I posted a pic of me in it during my first fitting last year. 

     Here it is again.  

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    Here it is undergoing alterations including embellishment to cover the girls.  The completion of the alterations are on hold for now. I've yet to go for a second fitting (and won't for a minute).  My seamstress is so sweet and says take my time.  She'll be there when I need her.  

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  • oh girl i am sure they would have a whole lot to chat about lol 
    loving the dress :) 

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  • gurl *thud*

    you posted a picture of your dress before on this here mannequin, but now wait a minute miss commodores brick damn house, you aint shaped NOTHING like her.     lawdo'moicy Jessica Rabbit getting married.   You betsta make sure there plenty-a fans and hanky packets up in that church b/c n****s finna cry, hard.   LOL!!!

    On behalf of your blessings of *ahem* abundance, I'm a little mad that you think flowers will distract us from all that.  chile, werk!
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    sorry about the land.. I remember you were excited about it.. 
    im glad you found your venue.. just give the mister some time to get over it..
    yes i remember you posting both of the dress pix..i agree 1000% with sulty.. 
    umm you dont like nothing like that mannequin but you look yummy girlfriend 

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  • **Smile**  Thank you ladies.  And The Dude is talking to me again.  He can't resist me ya'll.  Hee-Hee.



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  • **Smile**  Thank you ladies.  And The Dude is talking to me again.  He can't resist me ya'll.  Hee-Hee.
    HA!!! did you get around to telling him that fee was only $50?? You should record that look on his face! i could use that for a couple gifs lol! shoot, with a body like that i bet he CAN'T!!!! lol! WERK *in my sultryzulu voice*

    What type of embellishments you getting on the top of your dress? flowers?

    and somebody say tents!!! YEAAAH BUDDY!!!!
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    @football wife - Love the gifs! LOL  I have yet to mention the $50 hold fee but I had sent him a text earlier so he knows.  I am going to give him a minute to say something before I bring it up.  

    On the dress it's actually a  crystal embellishment border on pleated folds that the seamstress is adding to the top.



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  • M1ssJM1ssJ member
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    Bwahaha So glad I checked out this thread! Glad this all worked out
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