Everyone bailing on wedding

jessica11669

My Fi and I decided to have the wedding in Las Vegas, really far from our hometown.  We wanted to just elope with two of us, very quiet and romantic. My friends and coworkers expressed great interest in getting to vacation in Vegas to attend the wedding, so we opened guest list up to include them.  We recently sent out the save the dates, only about 20 people were invited to keep it intimate.  I have been getting a preliminary count on who is actually going to come, and it seems every single one except our immediate family has decided to back out.  Another coworker is getting married the week after me, and they would rather go to the free one than waste money on mine.  I am just frustrated that we changed our plans to include our friends and everyone's bailing.   We get the intimate wedding we wanted now but I just feel passed over.

CMGragain

I am sorry that you are disappointed, but when you plan a destination wedding, you have to expect a lot of declines.  I hope you have a lovely, intimate wedding.

chibiyui

Yeah, it's shitty, but alot of people who go "Oh I'd love too" change their tune when money and reality set in. 

I also hope you have a lovely wedding

hellohkb

That stinks that people expressed interested and then bailed on you like that. I guess people love the sound of going away, but when they are faced with the actual opportunity, they realize the cost and hassle of it. 

theartistformerlyknownas

Obviously hindsight is 20/20, but it appears that you shouldn't have changed your wedding plans for people who don't appear to be VIPs. Stinks that they did a bait and switch, especially if it's in favor of attending a different wedding instead. Just be glad you get the wedding you wanted now.

AddieCake

I would be bummed, too. I find that people have a tendency to be enthusiastic about something and volunteer or express interest or whatever and then back out. So many people don't follow through on things like this. 

 Not exactly the same thing, but we recently had friends move, and when they first announced it, several people told them, "Let us know if you need any help!" and then those people were nowhere to be found when the time actually came. 

Yesterday was my birthday, and I had several students last week who couldn't wait and were "going to get you something!"  Only one of them did. 

 

FiancB

Yeah, people are always like YEAH we'll be there! But then when they actually look at flights, not so much. I'm sorry, but at least it's coming back around to what you wanted in the first place. We were originally planning a sort of DW and everyone swore up and down they'd be there but I'm pretty sure at least half those people would've bailed if we'd gone through with it.

bananasplit472001

Yeah, both sets of aunt and uncles in my family were all ready to go to my sister's destination wedding taking place in 2 weeks.  Until of course they received the invitation and realized they actually could not afford it after doing some research.  I wouldn't be disappointed and you really had to expect guests would say no.  I mean most people really do not want to base their vacation time around a wedding.  

kittenkaboodle

So not only will you get the wedding you wanted, but you will also get credit for inviting people.  Silver linings! 

Jen4948

I'm sorry that people who expressed interest are backing out on you, but since this is a destination wedding I think it's part of the territory.  People who would otherwise love to be there for you find that their budgets and schedules won't allow them to go to a destination wedding.

That does also happen when the wedding isn't a destination wedding, yes.  But I think it's shittier when the wedding is local.