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What the hell

I'm at the restaurant with FI waiting for his cousins, sipping my sangria. I couldn't wait to get home for this. So, long story short, I sent out our evites for the E party because FMIL didn't want to do all the work ( I know it's against etiquette, but it wasn't a hill I wanted to die on. They went out from her account on the site. I just did all the work. Joy.)

Anyways. FI asked me on our way here:
"Did you send Rite her own invite, or did you send her and Carl an invite?" (Mother and son)

Me: "I sent *Rita and Stan an invite, and Carl his own." (Stan is Rita's SO, they've lived together for years. He raised Carl. Carl still lives at home.)

FI: Yea, so my mom said that Rita doesn't want to bring Stan. She wants to bring her boyfriend."

Me: I thought she and Stan were married....

FI: They live together, they're not married.

Me: Fine, I thought they were SO's.

FI: Yea they are.

Me: So what the fuck?! She has a boyfriend on the side?! What??

FI then rolled his eyes and shrugged his shoulders in his "don't ask, I don't even know or want to know" expression. Background: they are family by law (Rita is sisters with FI's uncles wife) and close family friends. Stan is an ass so at first I was relieved she wasn't bringing him until I heard the rest. FI told his mom that no, Rita cannot bring Side piece because the invitations are not interchangeable. If she and Stan are still a couple (they are) then the invitation is only extended to him.

What the actual fuck, though? I'm on m 3rd sangria since we started this (bar messed up, gave us an extra round. Oh my.)

Is there any etiquette about this?!!

*names have been changed because what the fuck.
Also- FI's cousin stressed that we needed to be here at 6:45 sharp. Or else. We showed up at 6:22. They came at 7:15.

****chugs sangria****
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Re: What the hell

  • Poly relationship?

    When I first dated Fi I had another bf. But we broke up a few months in. :/ (me and the bf, not me and Fi.)
  • Wait...what...I am on the same side as you. The invitation is for the SO, not the side piece. That is so confusing and messed up.

    Live fast, die young. Bad Girls do it well. Suki Zuki.

  • One of my profs is in a poly relationship. He and his partner both have boyfriends. It's not for me, but it's a real thing.
  • What you (general "you") do in the bedroom is your business. I feel like it's whatever. But geez, don't use our party to extend invitations. FI doesn't think they're a poly couple though. Stan might not know from what FI thinks. So yea. Sangria.
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  • JennyColadaJennyColada member
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    pinkcow13 said:
    FI doesn't think they're a poly couple though. Stan might not know from what FI thinks.
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  • pinkcow13 said:

    FI doesn't think they're a poly couple though. Stan might not know from what FI thinks.

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    Yup. And this FI's moms BFF and she blabs. So yea. 99 percent sure SO doesn't know. Yea....

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  • Ewwww.

    Stuff like that gives people with actual multiple (informed) partners a bad name. :(
  • THIS HAPPENED TO Us. He lives with a woman! But not married. But he goes places with her. But she's only a person he promised someone to take care of. But she has to come to the wedding. BUT WE DONT KNOW HER NAME.

    I'm like so are you in a relationship or not? No? No name? *left off invite* oops

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  • Yea people can be so ridic. I totally get different types of relationships. But no, you can't bring your boy-toy or girl-toy in lieu of your actual partner.
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  • @pinkcow13, yea, actually, that is weird. Even if I were dating my ex, if Fi and I were invited somewhere I wouldn't consider my partners to be interchangable (and if they ARE, then it'd be because we are all friends with whomever is inviting us, in which case they'd have met ALL of my partners and had a friendship with them all anyway).
  • We had one of DH's coworkers bring his 'travel companion' instead of his wife. Like he and the wife have been married for 45 years, and he takes vacations 10 times a year with this woman and not his wife. He and his wife haven't been on a trip together in 44 years (since their honeymoon.)

    Invite went to CW and wife. RSVP came back CW and partner.

    I just didn't ask.
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    I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'
  • The poly thing wouldn't weird me out but now I really want to know if the husband knows about the boyfriend. 


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  • If you are feeling bitchy, you could call Stan and ask if all three of them would like to attend together.  *cackle cackle*
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    "I'm not a rude bitch.  I'm ten rude bitches in a large coat."

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