I'm at the restaurant with FI waiting for his cousins, sipping my sangria. I couldn't wait to get home for this. So, long story short, I sent out our evites for the E party because FMIL didn't want to do all the work ( I know it's against etiquette, but it wasn't a hill I wanted to die on. They went out from her account on the site. I just did all the work. Joy.)
Anyways. FI asked me on our way here:
"Did you send Rite her own invite, or did you send her and Carl an invite?" (Mother and son)
Me: "I sent *Rita and Stan an invite, and Carl his own." (Stan is Rita's SO, they've lived together for years. He raised Carl. Carl still lives at home.)
FI: Yea, so my mom said that Rita doesn't want to bring Stan. She wants to bring her boyfriend."
Me: I thought she and Stan were married....
FI: They live together, they're not married.
Me: Fine, I thought they were SO's.
FI: Yea they are.
Me: So what the fuck?! She has a boyfriend on the side?! What??
FI then rolled his eyes and shrugged his shoulders in his "don't ask, I don't even know or want to know" expression. Background: they are family by law (Rita is sisters with FI's uncles wife) and close family friends. Stan is an ass so at first I was relieved she wasn't bringing him until I heard the rest. FI told his mom that no, Rita cannot bring Side piece because the invitations are not interchangeable. If she and Stan are still a couple (they are) then the invitation is only extended to him.
What the actual fuck, though? I'm on m 3rd sangria since we started this (bar messed up, gave us an extra round. Oh my.)
Is there any etiquette about this?!!
*names have been changed because what the fuck.
Also- FI's cousin stressed that we needed to be here at 6:45 sharp. Or else. We showed up at 6:22. They came at 7:15.
****chugs sangria****