I just attended the memorial service of a good friend. It was in church. I knew him and his surviving wife from participation in choir. The choir disbanded about 2 years ago when the budget was cut
When I walked into the sanctuary, I was surprised to see the choir, wearing robes, ready to sing. Many people in the group were former members who had returned to honor the deceased. I had not been notified or asked.
I was very hurt that no one had called me or e-mailed. The others had been notified this way, but not me. Yes, I have been in church the past several weeks for Sunday services. Several people asked me why I wasn't singing with the choir to honor "John". I was embarrassed and humiliated. I gave my condolences to the widow and family, and I left as soon as possible.
I am very hurt that I wasn't asked. I am considering finding a different church, Am I being silly?