Invitation Wording if One Set of Parents is Not Helping Pay

cassgh

My fiancé and I along with my parents will be paying for the wedding (we're splitting costs about 50/50 between us).  His parents are not helping out.  I know invitation wording typically is dictated by who is paying for the wedding.  How would our invites be worded in this case?  I feel very conflicted, because on one hand I would like both our parents names to be mentioned, because I want both sets to feel honored on our day, but at the same time I wouldn't want his parents to feel slighted if their names are not included on the invites, or have my parents feel slighted by making the invites sound like his family is helping out when they are not.

Suggestions?

Maggie0829

cassgh said:

My fiancé and I along with my parents will be paying for the wedding (we're splitting costs about 50/50 between us).  His parents are not helping out.  I know invitation wording typically is dictated by who is paying for the wedding.  How would our invites be worded in this case?  I feel very conflicted, because on one hand I would like both our parents names to be mentioned, because I want both sets to feel honored on our day, but at the same time I wouldn't want his parents to feel slighted if their names are not included on the invites, or have my parents feel slighted by making the invites sound like his family is helping out when they are not.

Suggestions?

No.  Wedding invitations are worded according to who is hosting.  Just because someone is paying does not mean that they are necessarily hosting as well.  Hosting means that they send out the invitations, receive the RSVPs, greet guests at the reception, etc.

So who is hosting your wedding?  Is it you and your FI?  Is it your parents?  Is it both sets of parents?  Whoever is hosting are the one's listed.

cassgh

It would still be the two of us and my parents hosting.

CMGragain

If your parents are HOSTING:

Mr. and Mrs. John Bridesparents
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Bride's first middle
to
Mr. Grooms full name
Day, date
time
Venue
Address
City, State

Reception to follow

The bride and groom never directly take credit for hosting their own wedding.  If you are hosting, then this would be the format:

The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of
Bride's Full Name
to
Groom's Full Name
Day, date (etc.)

If you are having a church wedding, you "request the honour of your presence".

cassgh

Thank you!  I just want to avoid any parents feeling offended by not getting acknowledged on the invites

CMGragain

The invitation is a simple note from the hosts to the guests giving them the important information, who, what, when, and where - not why.  It is not an honor to be on an invitation.  It is only an honor to receive one.

cassgh

CMGragain said:

The invitation is a simple note from the hosts to the guests giving them the important information, who, what, when, and where - not why.  It is not an honor to be on an invitation.  It is only an honor to receive one.

Thank you!   Poor wording on my part in the initial post in "honoring" our parents, I apologize.  I meant that I wanted to make sure our invitations made the proper acknowledgement and didn't want any parents to feel offended by not wording it correctly.  Our parents are incredibly important to both of us and I don't want them to feel like they've been slighted based on a few words (or lack of words) on a pretty piece of paper...not exactly how I want to start off relationship with my soon-to-be in-laws haha

Jen4948

cassgh said:

CMGragain said:

The invitation is a simple note from the hosts to the guests giving them the important information, who, what, when, and where - not why.  It is not an honor to be on an invitation.  It is only an honor to receive one.

Thank you!   Poor wording on my part in the initial post in "honoring" our parents, I apologize.  I meant that I wanted to make sure our invitations made the proper acknowledgement and didn't want any parents to feel offended by not wording it correctly.  Our parents are incredibly important to both of us and I don't want them to feel like they've been slighted based on a few words (or lack of words) on a pretty piece of paper...not exactly how I want to start off relationship with my soon-to-be in-laws haha

Hopefully both sets of parents are big enough to understand and appreciate that they are not "honored" by being listed as hosts on an invitation or "slighted" by not being so listed.  The omission of the names of parents is not intended as an insult any more than being listed is an honor (which it isn't).