My wedding is this Saturday, May 17th. The pianist that we hired to accompany 2 vocal performers contacted me tonight to inform me that he was expected a seat and dinner for he and his spouse and the 2 vocal performers we hired. I informed him that unfortunately, all of our tables are full with guests. However, all of our vendors will be able to order from the hotel's room service menu as a courtesy. He indicated that I was rude and un professional and that the normal etiquette is that musicians aren't considered "vendors" and that they have special consideration and are always given a seat at a table such as the clergy that performs the vows etc. Is this true? I mean if I am paying you to perform at my wedding, I am suppose to offer YOU the same meal($150.00) as my guests?