*SMH* I hope this wasn't a sly attempt to grow the guest list again!

kitty8403

So everybody is at this big dinner and somebody who shall remain nameless pipes up and says, "Have you seen so-and-so dance? They are awesome. If they come (to the wedding), it'll be so fun to watch!" 
This is the part where people who do not get utterly tongue tied in such situations would probably interject and say something loud like, "uh, they were not invited, and they weren't on anybody's request list, and we are done adding people, and the size of the list is absurd anyways." 
Instead, now I'm just sitting here thinking, uhhhh, they aren't invited. What the heck. 
Seriously, ladies. Do people do this to you, too?

hlvonb

Yes. My fiance's mom try adding people to the list after we sent out our invites

kitty8403

Yikes!
Invites go out soon and I'm still pulling teeth to get all the addresses for people already on the list. Ha.

hlvonb

@kitty8403

I just saw this now.

Yeah I had to use my work time to get addresses. Luckily I am the office manager so people don't think too much about me being on the phone but it definitely made it more stressful at work.

theartistformerlyknownas

I'd just let it go, assuming it was someone who isn't intimately familiar with who IS on the guest list. People can conjecture all they want, it doesn't change who's invited. Don't let other people's assumptions pressure you into inviting people you don't want.

cgayhea

My future inlaws have dragged their feet getting me addresses and the list in general (they had a year)...then once I ordered the invites and cut off the additions, they were offended...my attitude was, there are too many people they don't know any more on the list already (yes...I'm sorry, that girl you went to highschool with 40 years ago who's address and married name escape you...she just isn't going to make the cut!).

I'm glad I'm not the only one who had issues with the list!

HisGirlFriday13

cgayhea said:

My future inlaws have dragged their feet getting me addresses and the list in general (they had a year)...then once I ordered the invites and cut off the additions, they were offended...my attitude was, there are too many people they don't know any more on the list already (yes...I'm sorry, that girl you went to highschool with 40 years ago who's address and married name escape you...she just isn't going to make the cut!).

I'm glad I'm not the only one who had issues with the list!

DH's grandmother insisted that some she claims is related to her (I think it's her dead brother's first wife's kid from another marriage) NEEDED to be invited.

She couldn't provide this person's name or mailing address. 

I was like, 'Yeah, no. Sorry. Not happening.'

kitty8403

lolo883 said:

I'd just let it go, assuming it was someone who isn't intimately familiar with who IS on the guest list. People can conjecture all they want, it doesn't change who's invited. Don't let other people's assumptions pressure you into inviting people you don't want.

It was a family member. One who already gave us a lot of requested names and is reasonably familiar with a good chunk of the guest list.
And these people are, like, the in-laws of somebody who used to be my neighbor and is an acquaintance of FI's. Mutual friends. But we aren't all that close to THAT person (who *is* on the list but will get cut if I don't get contact info soon), why on earth would we add random relatives?