Rachel, the thing you have to keep in mind when you hear about the negativity is that some people simply dont understand WHY the church as to ask so many questions or be so "invasive". this is pretty serious stuff, and annulments are not (as many mistakenly think) a "catholic divorce". divorce and annulment are two very distinctly different things.It also takes time. Time can be frustrating and cause people to be negative, but at the outset of the process the church is very up front with people about how long it takes. some people get upset because they've moved on and dont like their next wedding being delayed. this is why its ideal that people pursue the annulment IMMEDIATELY after they divorce rather than waiting until they meet someone else, particularly since without the annulment they do not have the right to date in the first place. however, this is where (in my opinion) the church fails many catholics who face divorce. there is no counseling whatsoever offered to catholics facing divorce to take care of the annulment immediately, if there is a valid reason that one can be granted.