So I'm really against allowing kids at the wedding. I think it adds to the stress level for me. I'm worried that there will be a baby crying or kid throwing a tantrum while I walk down the aisle. I'm afraid that the wedding video will suffer for it. Also, I feel that my guests would be able to fully enjoy the party more if they didn't have to worry about all the kids around. Also, there will be alcohol served and I wouldn't want anyone to have to be concerned about not being able to drink and fully enjoy themselves because they have the kids. There is also the issue that I may not be able to invite some friends that I would like to invite because the kids are filling seats in my 200 person quota. Yes, our families are enormous. There are approx 40 kids all together. And that's just the kids that are in the families. My FMIL is adamant about having kids because otherwise some family members will not be able to attend. She says that we should only allow the kids of family members. A lot of the guests will be coming from out of town, both friends and family. How would that be right? Also, she ispaying for a huge chunk of the wedding.
So, question is, is it ok to have adults only? Would it be appropriate to invite only kids from the family? And how do I deal with FMIL backlash if we choose adults only??