Dude, how is it MAY 19th already?!?

HisGirlFriday13

So, I'm back in the office after a week of being OOT for a work conference, and of course I have a bazillion e-mails and vmails and whatever else to deal with.

But y'all, it's freaking MAY 19TH!! How did that happen?? It seems like May started, like, last week!!

This weekend is Memorial Day, which means the next federal holiday is July 4, at which point I'm supposed to run a 5K, and I'm pretty sure my jiggly ass isn't in shape enough for that to happen.

Suddenly, all my June work events seem a whole heck of a lot closer than I'm really comfortable with...

pinkcow13

I can't believe it is May 19th, either. I think this month is flying by for me, because there has been so much going on. Graduation parties, gender reveals, going away parties, etc. I can't believe that next weekend is already MDW, and the official start of summer. And Thursday is the 22nd, therefore we will be officially one year away from our wedding! 

smalfrie19

As of yesterday I was five months from my wedding....it's gonna be here before I know it.

climbingsingle

It really does seem like it was just May 1st last week. 

Sugargirl1019

2 months til my wedding!!!!!

My jiggly ass isn't in enough shape either.

HisGirlFriday13

And of course, I got a snarky e-mail this morning from a reporter who wanted a specific press release who said in his e-mail, 'I know your out-of-office says you're out-of-office, but I want to know why you haven't released this information yet. I told my editors I'd have it ready for today's [Friday's] edition, and now I won't, because you haven't done your job yet.'

DUDE...I provide this to you as a COURTESY. Keep pissing me off and you won't get it at all.

theartistformerlyknownas

May 19th? I can barely believe it's May at all. Wasn't it just New Year's Eve? Didn't I JUST get engaged and think this would be the longest 9 months of my life? How am I under the 4 month mark?! WHY DO I STILL NOT HAVE A COMPLETE GUEST LIST?

Also, today would have been my parents' 33rd wedding anniversary, if they didn't go up in a ball of flames a month shy of 25 years. Communication, people. Communication. :-/

HisGirlFriday13

lolo883 said:

May 19th? I can barely believe it's May at all. Wasn't it just New Year's Eve? Didn't I JUST get engaged and think this would be the longest 9 months of my life? How am I under the 4 month mark?! WHY DO I STILL NOT HAVE A COMPLETE GUEST LIST?

Also, today would have been my parents' 33rd wedding anniversary, if they didn't go up in a ball of flames a month shy of 25 years. Communication, people. Communication. :-/

Because someone -- your FI, your FMIL, your mother, your whomever -- keeps thinking of 'ONE MORE PERSON' who just HAS TO BE invited.

No lie, two weeks after we sent out invites, it occurred to DH he maybe wanted to invite (some of) his (previously considered and rejected on the grounds that he's not that close to them) cousins. I was like, 'REALLY?!'

theartistformerlyknownas

HisGirlFriday13 said:

lolo883 said:

May 19th? I can barely believe it's May at all. Wasn't it just New Year's Eve? Didn't I JUST get engaged and think this would be the longest 9 months of my life? How am I under the 4 month mark?! WHY DO I STILL NOT HAVE A COMPLETE GUEST LIST?

Also, today would have been my parents' 33rd wedding anniversary, if they didn't go up in a ball of flames a month shy of 25 years. Communication, people. Communication. :-/

Because someone -- your FI, your FMIL, your mother, your whomever -- keeps thinking of 'ONE MORE PERSON' who just HAS TO BE invited.

No lie, two weeks after we sent out invites, it occurred to DH he maybe wanted to invite (some of) his (previously considered and rejected on the grounds that he's not that close to them) cousins. I was like, 'REALLY?!'

And SOMEONE still has not gotten addresses or names of significant others, or the freaking last name of his own aunt. Maiden name? Married (widowed) name? Hyphenated? NOBODY KNOWS. 

There haven't been TOO many additions... except last night, when my aunt asked if her 21 year old son would be able to bring his gf of 2 years, I said "of course! what's her last name so I can put her on the invitation?" and later FI was like "WTH, my cousins aren't getting plus ones." "It's not a plus one honey, he's an adult and she's his significant other. It's the right thing to do. And we ARE inviting your adult cousins with their significant others, it's the same thing." "Well, not for (Tom, Dick and Harry)." "What? I thought we weren't inviting them at all?" "Sure we are. I said plus 3 on Uncle Bob and Aunt Sally's line." (No, he did not. Not that that would be the right way of inviting 3 18-20-somethings. He had specifically set his circles to include only first cousins who are beyond college age, as is common practice in his enormous family of over 30 first cousins, and none of the cousins' children. My family is smaller, so I invited all cousins and all of their kids {all out of state}, and apparently now he's changing his mind and thinking that's not fair. KILLING ME.)

HisGirlFriday13

Yeah, DH changed his mind and tried to argue that he was 'really close to' some of his not-even-really cousins. They're his father's cousin's children, so his SECOND cousins, whom he sees MAYBE twice a year, and then only when BSC granny stages a family event, and they're not friends on FB (and I realise FB isn't the end-all, be-all of anything, but if you're allegedly 'close' to these people, you're probably friends on FB), he didn't have have their phone numbers, he didn't know their full names, etc.

I was like, 'Yeah, no.'

theartistformerlyknownas

HisGirlFriday13 said:

Yeah, DH changed his mind and tried to argue that he was 'really close to' some of his not-even-really cousins. They're his father's cousin's children, so his SECOND cousins, whom he sees MAYBE twice a year, and then only when BSC granny stages a family event, and they're not friends on FB (and I realise FB isn't the end-all, be-all of anything, but if you're allegedly 'close' to these people, you're probably friends on FB), he didn't have have their phone numbers, he didn't know their full names, etc.

I was like, 'Yeah, no.'

I did finally get him to nix some people he worked with eons ago, and hasn't seen since, after several conversations that went something like this:

"Who are K and J?"

"I worked with them at Company."

"Oh. I've never met them."

"Yeah, we fell out of touch after they moved to Somewheresville."

"So... why are we inviting them?"

"Well we used to be really tight, and they'd be hurt if I got back on Facebook and they saw I got married and didn't invite them. We'd still be in touch if I was still on FB."
"Seriously? Have they even noticed you deactivated your account? Texted you or anything?"
"Well no. Maybe I'll just never get back on FB so they'll never find out we didn't invite them."

"Honey. I think they'll understand. They probably assumed your life moved on without them eventually."

ETA he tried throwing "really? you're THAT close with Xyz cousin?" in my face last night... I was like "maybe not him, we're 10 years apart in age, but I am close with his mother, who would be devastated if I didn't include her son, and it's important to me to include my family in things, whereas you only go to family gatherings twice a year because it makes YOUR mother happy, not because you're close with your aunts." "Well, yeah that's true."

behsco90

I can't believe it either...Wednesday will be 5 weeks til BF and I go on vacation to Mexico.  It feels like yesterday that it was like 15 weeks away and I was like, ok cool I have 15 weeks to lose 20 pounds before our trip.  Now it's 5 weeks and I'm panicking.  Double the effort at the gym!

beethery

Laaaawd. We are past the middle of May.

I have to get a couple paintings together to submit to this open call that I forgot about... due 6/1. Whoops!

Really should get going on some EXTRA paintings so that I'm a little more prepared for any other things I find to submit to. Need to art more

Cookie Pusher

47 days out, yo. We have a plan for everything right now (just need to do contracts for the limo company and our rehearsal dinner venue)... except who will do the second reading at our wedding. FI wants to ask his sister because she had him do a reading at her wedding. I said hell no because she has spent the last 12.5 years making disparaging comments about me. He's shot down every other suggestion I've had, probably thinking that I'll eventually cave. Which I might if it starts getting way too close, but right now, it's a hill I'm willing to die on.

beethery

Cookie Pusher said:

47 days out, yo. We have a plan for everything right now (just need to do contracts for the limo company and our rehearsal dinner venue)... except who will do the second reading at our wedding. FI wants to ask his sister because she had him do a reading at her wedding. I said hell no because she has spent the last 12.5 years making disparaging comments about me. He's shot down every other suggestion I've had, probably thinking that I'll eventually cave. Which I might if it starts getting way too close, but right now, it's a hill I'm willing to die on.

My aunt had my grandmother do one of her readings, is that within the realm of possibility for you?

Peaseblossom55

I've got 26 days left. This month is flying by, and we're pretty busy too which makes time fly by even faster.  Luckily the biggest jobs we have are seating chart and printing out things like the program and menu cards. I need to assemble OOT bags too but most of what we have left to do is easy and fun. 

HisGirlFriday13

Cookie Pusher said:

47 days out, yo. We have a plan for everything right now (just need to do contracts for the limo company and our rehearsal dinner venue)... except who will do the second reading at our wedding. FI wants to ask his sister because she had him do a reading at her wedding. I said hell no because she has spent the last 12.5 years making disparaging comments about me. He's shot down every other suggestion I've had, probably thinking that I'll eventually cave. Which I might if it starts getting way too close, but right now, it's a hill I'm willing to die on.

Die on that hill. People who are rude do not deserve to have their behaviour rewarded with honours at weddings. Actions have consequences and if her action is to be a bitch, the consequence is she doesn't get involved in the wedding.

jdluvr06

I can't believe how late it is either. The wedding is only three months away. Yikes... I suddenly feel pressure. Lol. *must keep stres level low*

Alikat9614

Yeah, I'm not sure where 2014 has gone. A week until the couples shower my MOH is hosting. Two weeks until the shower my Aunt is hosting in my hometown (a six hour drive away). Three weeks until a quick trip to Miami for a job. Four weeks until rehearsals for the next show starts. Then two weeks of rehearsals, the show opens and runs for 8 weeks, then it's the wedding! So much to do... Food tasting, meet the baker and taste the cake, centerpieces, table numbers, addressing invites, finalize flowers. It'll all get done. Right?

WinstonsGirl

Yay end of May!!  6 more weeks till Summer vacation and no teaching for 2 months!!!  I love my job, but I love summer vacation more.  

phira

Intellectually, I know it's the 19th. Like, I've written the date a million times already today. And I remember it being other dates this month, in between the 1st and today.

But emotionally, I am not sure how on earth it became May 19th. Wasn't yesterday mid-February?

mschristie123

Yes!! Love that May is moving so quickly!!! I thought that once my 'wedding month' hit, the time would go by so slow, but between work, and life, and wedding stuff, things are going by so fast. I'm even thinking ahead to June 1, making sure I get my documentation/notes in by the end of the month and pay rent/bills before the wedding.

I can even say "I'm getting married NEXT weekend!! Woohoo!

Cookie Pusher

beethery said:

My aunt had my grandmother do one of her readings, is that within the realm of possibility for you?

I suggested that FI's brother (he's best man) could do the reading since we aren't having toasts at the wedding. Otherwise, there's not much in the way of close family that would be comfortable doing a reading (FFIL has hinted he'd prefer to do nothing other than enjoy the wedding, my mother's not comfortable with her accent, my sisters requested not to have to speak in front of the whole wedding, his grandparents are dead, my grandparents are in China, and his one living uncle doesn't like to speak in front of groups because of his accent). I've also suggested several of our close friends, and he keeps blowing me off or saying they won't take it seriously enough.

HisGirlFriday13 said:

Die on that hill. People who are rude do not deserve to have their behaviour rewarded with honours at weddings. Actions have consequences and if her action is to be a bitch, the consequence is she doesn't get involved in the wedding.

That's what I said! She's like 50% nice/50% bitchy to me. A lot of it stems from derision for people who don't make a ton of money since she's a "climber" (she'll climb right over you to get what she wants). There were lots of nasty comments when I quit my last job and freelanced for a few years. I had more than enough money in the bank to support myself AND FI while he was paying off his massive credit card debt, but we weren't about to run around telling the whole family what a financial shithole FI was in. His sister just assumed I was sponging off him and made comments about it at various family functions. So yea, totally willing to die on this hill. I think FI just feels bad she's the only sibling not participating in the wedding. Well, too fucking bad, she should stop being a cunt to me (and others).

Cookie Pusher

phira said:

Intellectually, I know it's the 19th. Like, I've written the date a million times already today. And I remember it being other dates this month, in between the 1st and today.

But emotionally, I am not sure how on earth it became May 19th. Wasn't yesterday mid-February?

I've been good all year, but I caught myself writing 5/19/2013 on a form this morning. I'm so far behind, I'm stuck in last year!

HisGirlFriday13

Cookie Pusher said:

beethery said:

My aunt had my grandmother do one of her readings, is that within the realm of possibility for you?

I suggested that FI's brother (he's best man) could do the reading since we aren't having toasts at the wedding. Otherwise, there's not much in the way of close family that would be comfortable doing a reading (FFIL has hinted he'd prefer to do nothing other than enjoy the wedding, my mother's not comfortable with her accent, my sisters requested not to have to speak in front of the whole wedding, his grandparents are dead, my grandparents are in China, and his one living uncle doesn't like to speak in front of groups because of his accent). I've also suggested several of our close friends, and he keeps blowing me off or saying they won't take it seriously enough.

HisGirlFriday13 said:

Die on that hill. People who are rude do not deserve to have their behaviour rewarded with honours at weddings. Actions have consequences and if her action is to be a bitch, the consequence is she doesn't get involved in the wedding.

That's what I said! She's like 50% nice/50% bitchy to me. A lot of it stems from derision for people who don't make a ton of money since she's a "climber" (she'll climb right over you to get what she wants). There were lots of nasty comments when I quit my last job and freelanced for a few years. I had more than enough money in the bank to support myself AND FI while he was paying off his massive credit card debt, but we weren't about to run around telling the whole family what a financial shithole FI was in. His sister just assumed I was sponging off him and made comments about it at various family functions. So yea, totally willing to die on this hill. I think FI just feels bad she's the only sibling not participating in the wedding. Well, too fucking bad, she should stop being a cunt to me (and others).

Too.Fucking.Bad. DH's crack-whore of a cunt-monkey sister flung a damn fit that she was the only sibling not involved in our wedding (his brother was a GM; my brother was an usher/musician).and tried to guilt-trip him into letting her be a BM.

He shut that shit down right quick. He straight-up told her, 'The BM's are HisGirl's decision, not mine, and if I don't want you standing on MY side, why should you stand on HER side?'

Her assumptions have landed her on your shit-list and that means, OH WELL, TOO FUCKING BAD, SORRY NOT SORRY, she doesn't get to be in the wedding.

beethery

Cookie Pusher said:

beethery said:

My aunt had my grandmother do one of her readings, is that within the realm of possibility for you?

I suggested that FI's brother (he's best man) could do the reading since we aren't having toasts at the wedding. Otherwise, there's not much in the way of close family that would be comfortable doing a reading (FFIL has hinted he'd prefer to do nothing other than enjoy the wedding, my mother's not comfortable with her accent, my sisters requested not to have to speak in front of the whole wedding, his grandparents are dead, my grandparents are in China, and his one living uncle doesn't like to speak in front of groups because of his accent). I've also suggested several of our close friends, and he keeps blowing me off or saying they won't take it seriously enough.

HisGirlFriday13 said:

Die on that hill. People who are rude do not deserve to have their behaviour rewarded with honours at weddings. Actions have consequences and if her action is to be a bitch, the consequence is she doesn't get involved in the wedding.

That's what I said! She's like 50% nice/50% bitchy to me. A lot of it stems from derision for people who don't make a ton of money since she's a "climber" (she'll climb right over you to get what she wants). There were lots of nasty comments when I quit my last job and freelanced for a few years. I had more than enough money in the bank to support myself AND FI while he was paying off his massive credit card debt, but we weren't about to run around telling the whole family what a financial shithole FI was in. His sister just assumed I was sponging off him and made comments about it at various family functions. So yea, totally willing to die on this hill. I think FI just feels bad she's the only sibling not participating in the wedding. Well, too fucking bad, she should stop being a cunt to me (and others).

Your FI needs to get with the fucking program. Unless he knows your friends better than you, he needs to loosen up the vise-grip and chill the fuck out. In addition to that, maybe inform him that the venue doesn't allow cunts to participate.

Cookie Pusher

HisGirlFriday13 said:

Too.Fucking.Bad. DH's crack-whore of a cunt-monkey sister flung a damn fit that she was the only sibling not involved in our wedding (his brother was a GM; my brother was an usher/musician).and tried to guilt-trip him into letting her be a BM.

He shut that shit down right quick. He straight-up told her, 'The BM's are HisGirl's decision, not mine, and if I don't want you standing on MY side, why should you stand on HER side?'

Her assumptions have landed her on your shit-list and that means, OH WELL, TOO FUCKING BAD, SORRY NOT SORRY, she doesn't get to be in the wedding.

See, that's how I feel about it. I do not want someone participating in my wedding that has outwardly been an asshole to me. If she kept her stupid mouth shut and kept whatever idiotic feelings to herself, this wouldn't have been an issue. I mean, I think she's a materialistic, hipster cunt but she would have no idea because I am sweet as pie to her. Always. Only FI, my best girlfriend, and you guys know how I really feel. FBIL is kind of a jackass, but he's never said anything shitty to me or anyone else that has gotten back to me so I have no problems with him being best man. FI just has serious issues standing his ground with his family.

beethery said:

Your FI needs to get with the fucking program. Unless he knows your friends better than you, he needs to loosen up the vise-grip and chill the fuck out. In addition to that, maybe inform him that the venue doesn't allow cunts to participate.

The friends I've suggested are our mutual friends so he knows them as well as I do. Not sure WTF his problem is, really. I told him that it's his damn wedding, so he needs to man up and decide what he wants to do before I take the decision out of his hands and choose the 2nd reader myself.

ETA: So... did you read this post and just *know* I was the one who posted it? Or have you been stalking my posts for a while? Because, quite frankly, this post has no identifying information in it. Neither do the other posts I made here. So either you're a CREEPER for stalking me or you're psychic. This post got buried fairly quickly within my post count (I made 25 more posts after this just on the same day), so you either saw it right away and instantly knew who I was, or you've been stalking me - not cool. And I stand behind my opinion. You can't spend this long treating me like crap, saying rude things to me and behind my back, and expect that I'm going to want you to stand up to support my marriage. I'm not sure what you can't reconcile about that.

phira

We've been trying to involve siblings in our wedding (much harder for me, as some people know). One things that J and I agreed on is that we're going to try to involve one of his sisters-in-law, but under no circumstances will we involve the other sister-in-law. She's unbelievably rude and cruel to me, and J is only outwardly polite to her for the sake of his relationship with his brother. We seriously doubt she'll care that she's not involved (and I have a feeling she'd be irritated if we asked her to participate in any way), but if she does care, I'm not going to lie to her: she hasn't really been very nice to me, her only comments about our wedding have been disparaging, and while I'm hoping to build a better relationship with her for the sake of the family, we're not comfortable involving her in a capacity beyond "guest."

SapphireCounselor

phira said:

Intellectually, I know it's the 19th. Like, I've written the date a million times already today. And I remember it being other dates this month, in between the 1st and today.

But emotionally, I am not sure how on earth it became May 19th. Wasn't yesterday mid-February?

So much this! I was supposed to accomplish so much this month and well, yeah...about that...

CamiSelene

WinstonsGirl said:

Yay end of May!!  6 more weeks till Summer vacation and no teaching for 2 months!!!  I love my job, but I love summer vacation more.  

Yay! Me too... only, the end of June/beginning of July will be SUPER busy for me with kindergarten grad, end of year trip, report cards, packing up my apartment/classroom, moving to my new community, setting up my new classroom (thank god I'm going from continuing contract to continuing contract!), oh yeah and of course my wedding is at the end of July!!! Bonus of being a teacher: at least I'm super organized and can keep my shit reasonably together.... hopefully! Hahaha

anjuli116

It's May 19th, which I just realized means our wedding is in 19 days. Whoa! (Not only am I excited, but I'm now appreciating the sort of symmetry.)