WW - You disappoint me!

DaisyMaeMommy

This bride wants to know about downsizing her wedding party, and they hold MONTHLY meetings??!!

 http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/downsizing-bridal-party/061408065a982621.html?page=1 

 Too much stupid for today.

beethery

That is some straight-out-of-bridezillas shit. I love it! MONTHLY MEETINGS? lmaoooooo

Let's all have some champagne, shall we?

Cookie Pusher

KGold80

Why on earth can't she just ask the girls to order their own damn dresses instead of collecting money at monthly meetings? Especially when she's even considering postponing for a year anyway!

pinkcow13

Monthly meetings?!

Damn, the page is gone! This reminds me of the episode of Friends where Rachel and Phoebe tell Monica that Rach will be the MOH, and Monica gets all excited and starts talking about weekly meetings or something.

phira

pinkcow13 said:

Monthly meetings?!

Damn, the page is gone! This reminds me of the episode of Friends where Rachel and Phoebe tell Monica that Rach will be the MOH, and Monica gets all excited and starts talking about weekly meetings or something.

YES EXACTLY.

I actually like watching TV shows when characters are getting married, because it's fun to pick out the etiquette mistakes, as well as the non-traditional stuff. Like, Monica and Chandler? Non-religious ceremony (eventually :-p ), a friend officiated, both the groom and the bride were walked down the aisle by both parents (admittedly, a Jewish tradition but I'm not sure the writers meant it that way), uneven sides, and no flower girl/ring bearer. But oh my god, 6am regular meetings to plan the wedding with the MOH? No thanks.

jenna8984

@kgold80 Karen Walker is my all time favorite character!

@pinkcow13 Who/ What the hell is that swamp creature?!

@daisymaemommy Booo the post is removed, I really wanted some Monday back from vaca entertainment.

beethery

It's still there! You just have to dig around for it since the link isn't 100%

For your reading entertainment, ladies ;}:

http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/downsizing-bridal-party/061408065a982621.html

thisismynickname2

""downsizing" like you're BrideCorp International"  Hahahahaha love that comment. 

jenna8984

WTF adult has someone else hold their $45 per month? They can't put it in their own savings account until it's time to order the dress? Jesus Christ.

pinkcow13

jenna8984 - I have no idea who that swamp creature is - but I thought it was very appropriate for the ridiculousness of the post. Something tells me that she might be one of the Real Housewives?

DaisyMaeMommy

Some of these women that pop up... I wonder where in the world they come from!?

VulgarGirl

Apparently at the initial meeting everyone sat down to discuss their finances. I would've left at that point. I don't discuss my finances in groups. I'm a grown up. I got this shit. Privately ask me what my budget is for the dress, don't make me sit down and hash it out in a group.

My girls have until November 1st to get their dress cause that's the day of the wedding. And I figure since they're grown ups they can handle that without input from me.

beethery

@pinkcow13 @jenna8984 That is Mama Elsa, elusive psychic oldlady and mom of one of the Real Housewives of Miami. She is a bit loony, and a plastic surgeon really messed up her face a long time ago.

lyndausvi

jenna8984 said:

WTF adult has someone else hold their $45 per month? They can't put it in their own savings account until it's time to order the dress? Jesus Christ.

If anyone is collecting interest on my money it's ME.   Although I had to giggle at the fact there is some escrow account for bridesmaids dresses.  

I doubt very much everyone agreed to monthly meeting.  I bet it more like the agreed in the group setting as to not be the "problem child".  Then decided after how ridiculous that would be.

wandajune6

I sent the link to my sister (MOH) and FSIL (a BM) and told them that this was a great idea that I wanted to start.

Then I sat back and giggled. I love how Facebook allows me to see them typing (and editing/re-editing) their responses.

Then I apologized.

bouncertony

I kind of want to buy all her bridesmaids cocktails...or cupcakes...or cupcakes that are also cocktails (those things are good). 

I've been a groomsman 3 times, no one suggessted monthly meetings. At some point we were told "Black suits, some color of tie" or "We're renting tuxes from this place". I did have one crazy bride to deal with who was upset I was going to wear a black suit I already owned because I needed to buy a brand new black suit for her wedding so it'd be special. I just let the groom handle that. I'm not marrying her. That's not my problem. 

lyndausvi

bouncertony said:

I kind of want to buy all her bridesmaids cocktails...or cupcakes...or cupcakes that are also cocktails (those things are good). 

I've been a groomsman 3 times, no one suggessted monthly meetings. At some point we were told "Black suits, some color of tie" or "We're renting tuxes from this place". I did have one crazy bride to deal with who was upset I was going to wear a black suit I already owned because I needed to buy a brand new black suit for her wedding so it'd be special. I just let the groom handle that. I'm not marrying her. That's not my problem. 

*** STUCK IN BOX ***

Groomsmen often are immune to all the craziness that us bridesmaids often see.  Rarely are they asked to have a certain hair cut, or shoe.  No one seems to care if their watches match.   No one care they "match" the groom.  They are rarely asked (okay ordered) to help fold programs, make CP and all the other DIY crap some brides take on with the expectation that the BMs will "help" them.

GM's have it pretty easy compared to BMs in most weddings.

bouncertony

lyndausvi said:

bouncertony said:

I kind of want to buy all her bridesmaids cocktails...or cupcakes...or cupcakes that are also cocktails (those things are good). 

I've been a groomsman 3 times, no one suggessted monthly meetings. At some point we were told "Black suits, some color of tie" or "We're renting tuxes from this place". I did have one crazy bride to deal with who was upset I was going to wear a black suit I already owned because I needed to buy a brand new black suit for her wedding so it'd be special. I just let the groom handle that. I'm not marrying her. That's not my problem. 

*** STUCK IN BOX ***

Groomsmen often are immune to all the craziness that us bridesmaids often see.  Rarely are they asked to have a certain hair cut, or shoe.  No one seems to care if their watches match.   No one care they "match" the groom.  They are rarely asked (okay ordered) to help fold programs, make CP and all the other DIY crap some brides take on with the expectation that the BMs will "help" them.

GM's have it pretty easy compared to BMs in most weddings.

I kind of like crafts. I never do anything on my own because I can never come up with anything or any reasons to do them, but I like doing crafts. So I've called up brides and offered to help and they always ask so confused. Or have told me "You're a groomsman! That's not your job!"...but it's your bridesmaid? Sexism is no bueno.

Also...everyone now deserve a cocktail cupcake.

jdluvr06

Ew. Just ew

lyndausvi

bouncertony said:

lyndausvi said:

bouncertony said:

I kind of want to buy all her bridesmaids cocktails...or cupcakes...or cupcakes that are also cocktails (those things are good). 

I've been a groomsman 3 times, no one suggessted monthly meetings. At some point we were told "Black suits, some color of tie" or "We're renting tuxes from this place". I did have one crazy bride to deal with who was upset I was going to wear a black suit I already owned because I needed to buy a brand new black suit for her wedding so it'd be special. I just let the groom handle that. I'm not marrying her. That's not my problem. 

*** STUCK IN BOX ***

Groomsmen often are immune to all the craziness that us bridesmaids often see.  Rarely are they asked to have a certain hair cut, or shoe.  No one seems to care if their watches match.   No one care they "match" the groom.  They are rarely asked (okay ordered) to help fold programs, make CP and all the other DIY crap some brides take on with the expectation that the BMs will "help" them.

GM's have it pretty easy compared to BMs in most weddings.

I kind of like crafts. I never do anything on my own because I can never come up with anything or any reasons to do them, but I like doing crafts. So I've called up brides and offered to help and they always ask so confused. Or have told me "You're a groomsman! That's not your job!"...but it's your bridesmaid? Sexism is no bueno.

Also...everyone now deserve a cocktail cupcake.

See.  Bridesmaid = slave in some bride's vocabulary.

My DH does crafts.   Actually he has done 70% of the DIY project for my dad's birthday.   We found out early on I do not have the skills and he does.   He likes my dad, bonus.

Cookie Pusher

bouncertony said:

I kind of like crafts. I never do anything on my own because I can never come up with anything or any reasons to do them, but I like doing crafts. So I've called up brides and offered to help and they always ask so confused. Or have told me "You're a groomsman! That's not your job!"...but it's your bridesmaid? Sexism is no bueno.

Also...everyone now deserve a cocktail cupcake.

Oh. Em. Gee. Will you come be my best friend? I will feed you mead and Irish Car Bomb cupcakes and we can craft things together. I'll even let you ride in FI's Typhoon because being able to accelerate stupidly fast in an SUV is awesome.

bouncertony

Cookie Pusher said:

bouncertony said:

I kind of like crafts. I never do anything on my own because I can never come up with anything or any reasons to do them, but I like doing crafts. So I've called up brides and offered to help and they always ask so confused. Or have told me "You're a groomsman! That's not your job!"...but it's your bridesmaid? Sexism is no bueno.

Also...everyone now deserve a cocktail cupcake.

Oh. Em. Gee. Will you come be my best friend? I will feed you mead and Irish Car Bomb cupcakes and we can craft things together. I'll even let you ride in FI's Typhoon because being able to accelerate stupidly fast in an SUV is awesome.

I'm gonna throw some stuff in a duffel bag and I'll be over.

Cookie Pusher

bouncertony said:

I'm gonna throw some stuff in a duffel bag and I'll be over.

If you hurry, you can make it for dinner. Hope you don't mind, tonight is homemade Chinese food.

DaisyMaeMommy

FSIL (my brother's fiance) has used the "bridesmaid slave" thing as a way to try and be a bridesmaid in our wedding. She has told me multiple times, "I'll wear whatever you want me to, get my hair and makeup professionally done, I'll throw you a kickass bachelorette!" etc etc etc...

It's the opposite of a bridezilla and it scares me.

penguin44

" mainly because 2-3 of them really don’t act like their not interested." ...So they are interested? Then why does she want to get rid of them?

PrincessOfHavoc

Kiss mah ass, I have WEEKLY meetings with my side.

Yes, seriously. Every Friday. At 11:30 - 3:30.

Wait, are we supposed to talk wedding?

Crap, knew I forgot something. We go to lunch, then get our nails pretty. Yes, weekly. Because we can. Because if I skip a week, my feet are terrifying because I'm in boots so much. Then my calluses cut people or I get them popping off which is gross. And if I have pretty toes, I need pretty fingernails.

I don't think we've even really discussed my wedding.