How many groomsmen/ushers are too many?

hstid911

We are planning a wedding with 150 guests.  My Fiancé has three brothers and I have two. I would like both of my brothers IN the wedding.  His three are his best men and he also has two friends he would like as groomsmen.  We were thinking of having seven attendants each and then add the three other friends he wants involved as ushers. Does anyone think this is too large?  Two of the groomsmen are married to two of my attendants, and my sister in law is one of my attendants. 

I am debating if we should ask my brothers to be ushers instead of groomsmen since my 2 nephews will also be "junior ushers" or just ushers. 

This is causing me worry as I don't want anyone to feel left out and really the only difference is that the ushers aren't standing up by the groom in the ceremony. BUT I also don't want it to look a spectacle---but then again it's my wedding and I can have what I want, right?

Help!

Maggie0829

hstid911 said:

We are planning a wedding with 150 guests.  My Fiancé has three brothers and I have two. I would like both of my brothers IN the wedding.  His three are his best men and he also has two friends he would like as groomsmen.  We were thinking of having seven attendants each and then add the three other friends he wants involved as ushers. Does anyone think this is too large?  Two of the groomsmen are married to two of my attendants, and my sister in law is one of my attendants. 

I am debating if we should ask my brothers to be ushers instead of groomsmen since my 2 nephews will also be "junior ushers" or just ushers. 

This is causing me worry as I don't want anyone to feel left out and really the only difference is that the ushers aren't standing up by the groom in the ceremony. BUT I also don't want it to look a spectacle---but then again it's my wedding and I can have what I want, right?

Help!

First you pick your side and he picks his.  Amount does not matter.  And sides do not have to be even so putting a limit is kind of silly and restrictive if he really wants to include all of his friends.

Just ask who you want and let him ask who he wants.  And leave it at that.

I also think having ushers on top of having GMs is silly.  GMs can act as ushers.

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It's not too large but before you go and ask all of them to be in your wedding party, make sure having a wedding party that large fits into your budget. Remember for each wedding party member (jr ushers included), you need to provide them with a gift, flowers, another person at the rehersal dinner and if you are providing transportation, the larger the vehicle you need to accomodate your wedding party the more expensive the vehicle will be. I'm not saying don't do it, but it's crazy how fast those expenses can add up.

erinlin25

you pick your side, he picks his.  Sides do not have to be even.  He should not have to have your brothers on his side if they are not close.  Your brothers can be on your side if you would like.  Groomsman usually act as Ushers so while you can have separate ushers and groomsman it is also not necessary. 

Lauderdale Pink

I agree with the thought that you can have as many as you want, especially if you think there will be hurt feelings.  But pay close attention to the advice from Erikan73, because it adds up quickly.

STARMOON44

So, 150 guests. Of which 7 are bridesmaids, 7 groomsmen, 3 ushers, and 2 junior ushers. Counting you and fiancé in bridal party that's 21 people, or 14% of your total attendance. I think it's too much and will look like a spectacle.

How about you have on your side 2 brothers and 3 friends, he has 3 brothers and 2 friends, and that's it.

faithdevilsbee

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