White on guests...

sofakingmad

I was at a wedding this weekend and the MOG was wearing all black and then a white jacket with some bling.

Normally, I'm bothered by anyone who wears white to a wedding, but for some reason this didn't bother me or even really phase me because the majority of her outfit was black.  

What does E think?

beethery

That combination sounds pretty snazzy. 

Personally, I wouldn't have any issue unless someone showed up wearing a floor-length white gown and a veil. Even then, I wouldn't say anything, I would just have a very hard time keeping a straight face and containing my lols. I would probably go up and do a standard "Hey girl, how are you doing? You look gorgeous!" And get pictures with what, in my head, I would be referring to as the junior bride. That shit would be hysterical.

sophhabobopha

I think her outfit sounds fine, as she couldn't be mistaken for the bride.

Just curios, LBD, or pantsuit?

manateehugger

I think unless someone shoes up in a white gown elaborate white dress or white gown, it's really stupid to get worked up over. 

And even then it's not really about the "bride's color," I just usually assume someone who wants to wear something that could pass as a wedding dress is usually trying to slight the bride somehow. 

A lot of cute summer/spring prints are white or ivory based. A summer dress with a white and blue floral print is clearly not trying to be a bridal dress. It's probably really cute though.

sofakingmad

It was a pantsuit.

I'm probably not describing it the best way, but she looked really nice and classy and while it was white, the whole ensemble didn't scream "I'm competing with the bride!"

But it was white, so I was just wondering if the bride could have been upset about it.

Also, the wedding was in South Beach and her outfit was very appropriate for the atmosphere and venue.

sofakingmad

shrekspeare said:

That wouldn't bother me. 

But MIL wore the absolute worst skirt to my wedding. Pink stretchy spandex that had that 90's light pink/dark pink swirly type of pattern on it, with sparkles. Wayy more distracting than someone wearing white.

That sounds horrible.

It also reminds me of a wedding I went to a couple years ago.  The MOB showed up in this skin tight mermaid dress that was super colorful and stood out so much.  She seems to be trying to stand out like whoa. 

beethery

The quality of this clip is horrific, but it still makes me laugh:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVPuzKDrfcY

sophhabobopha

DragonBlood13 said:

shrekspeare said:

That wouldn't bother me. 

But MIL wore the absolute worst skirt to my wedding. Pink stretchy spandex that had that 90's light pink/dark pink swirly type of pattern on it, with sparkles. Wayy more distracting than someone wearing white.

That sounds horrible.

It also reminds me of a wedding I went to a couple years ago.  The MOB showed up in this skin tight mermaid dress that was super colorful and stood out so much.  She seems to be trying to stand out like whoa. 

I hope MOB was in hella good shape.

phira

I'm in a weird boat because I'm not wearing white/off-white. A lot of people have asked if it's okay to wear navy blue to the wedding. Um, yeah?

I haven't explicitly asked people not to wear certain things. I hope that no one wears a floor length white gown, or a floor length navy blue gown. But our vendors know 1) who I am and 2) that I'm wearing a sparkly blue dress, and our guests will know I'm the person getting married (maybe the ceremony will clue them in otherwise?). So it just seems like something silly to bring up with guests.

sofakingmad

I just went and looked and she has no pictures of her mom and her from the wedding.

Me thinks that she might have been upset. LOL

OMG.  That wedding had a 6 hour gap on the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend.

UGH.  That was the worst.

sophhabobopha

Well she GAVE YOU the 6 hour gap so you could enjoy the local shops, DUHHH.

sofakingmad

sophhabobopha said:

Well she GAVE YOU the 6 hour gap so you could enjoy the local shops, DUHHH.

I honestly wouldn't have gone, but it was my XH's coworker and of course he had to go.  It was truly annoying to have 6 fucking hours to kill.

sophhabobopha

DragonBlood13 said:

sophhabobopha said:

Well she GAVE YOU the 6 hour gap so you could enjoy the local shops, DUHHH.

I honestly wouldn't have gone, but it was my XH's coworker and of course he had to go.  It was truly annoying to have 6 fucking hours to kill.

I don't even know what the hell I'd do with that much time. That's as long as some of my shifts at work!

beethery

shrekspeare said:

We should start a 'most ridiculous thing someone wore to your/another's wedding' thread. I feel like it would be so entertaining.

I need this. I have a doozy from a wedding I went to last year.

wrigleyville

DragonBlood13 said:

OMG.  That wedding had a 6 hour gap on the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend.

*SITB*

I would have been piiiiiiiiiiissssed. In fact, I probably would have declined altogether (if I weren't close to the couple).

annathy03

shrekspeare said:

That wouldn't bother me. 

But MIL wore the absolute worst skirt to my wedding. Pink stretchy spandex that had that 90's light pink/dark pink swirly type of pattern on it, with sparkles. Wayy more distracting than someone wearing white.

Did you marry my cousin?  My aunt wore a stretchy ugly skirt with animal print, a feather boa, and a light up tiara to her own daughter's wedding.

I was less than upset when I was informed she wouldn't be able to make it to ours.

As to the OPs question I would side-eye a completely white outfit, but a white/ivory dress with a floral print or a single white piece is NBD.

melbenso

I've worn a black and white dress to a wedding before. Actually, I've worn the same dress to two. It's not bridey at all. And the last time I wore it, one of the people who complimented me on it was the bride. So (obviously) I think that color combination is fine, as long as it's not a white dress with tiny accents of black.

SammiNJonni

I would not side eye a white jacket. If the outfit looked bridal then I would side eye and silently judge.

shoebunnie

When my sister had her destination beach wedding her MIL wore a very short, tight, white crochet dress. Yeah...

NavyBlue143

Nipples you guys. At my wedding. Nipples. Do I win?

beethery

At a wedding I attended last year, a female guest wore something like this:

This is a smocked tube dress swimsuit cover up. I think the picture is one made of terry cloth. The one the guest was wearing was not terry cloth, I'm guessing just standard t-shirt material.

She wore it with a black bra (not strapless), a black thong (I know this because you could see through the fabric as we were in broad daylight and it is a fucking swimsuit cover up), and black platform flip flops. It was a good look.

ETA: I saw her outside of the ceremony venue, which was a church. That's right, boo thang wore this to a church wedding.

Peaseblossom55

I wouldn't be bothered by someone else wearing white, life is too short.  May be if they wore a veil too, my dress is very much ivory almost a yellowish ivory.... if that makes any sense.  I think people will know I'm the bride....

PrettyGirlLost

I think the ZOMG You Can't Wear White Rule is ridiculous and hypocritical if we tell brides that they cannot dictate guest attire. . . well that includes guests wearing white.

As long as they aren't wearing a ballgown and a tiara and veil, I'm pretty sure they aren't intending to compete with the bride nor will anyone mistake them for he bride.

Chipmunk415

At my wedding in march...Sil wore a blue black and white print dress, one FGs mom wore black and white print dress and one of my dad's nearly 70 year old friends wore a bright white eyelet sheath dress with a blue cardigan.

Amazingly, I still had a perfect wedding and everyone knew who the bride was

beethery

Chipmunk415 said:

At my wedding in march...Sil wore a blue black and white print dress, one FGs mom wore black and white print dress and one of my dad's nearly 70 year old friends wore a bright white eyelet sheath dress with a blue cardigan. Amazingly, I still had a perfect wedding and everyone knew who the bride was

Lmao how hard would you laugh if someone had gone up to the lady in the white eyelet and gone "OH MY GOD CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW MARRIAGE!!!!"

I would laugh so fucking hard! I mean, I would assume that person had cataracts or something if they did that, but that would be hilarious.

PrincessOfHavoc

Only saw pictures, but a cousin had a guest show up in shorter than Daisy Dukes shorts (apparently you could see in person she'd not done any weed whacking of the lady garden) and a white thin tube top with no bra. I'd rather see bra straps than nipples.

I wore a very tasteful spring lavender dress and shrug as per invite demanded dress code back in college days. Now, I wasn't broke but I didn't have enough to buy a dress and alter it, so figured I was safe in a nice church dress. A few days before, I'd been out on a search and rescue in swamp, so I had a number of scratches and bruises, mostly on my arms, thus the shrug. Bride corners me at the church after the ceremony and had a tantrum I didn't buy a new dress because "everyone" knew I had that dress and had seen it. And my bruises were a total embarrassment that would ruin pictures. Granted, I flunk etiquette then as I told her to fuck off, didn't leave the card with money, and left before reception. Saw her on FB the other day sniffling about how no one likes her. Gee, I wonder why.

Orange bridesmaid dress. Chernobyl flower print. In satin. With sparkly satin 3D Chernobyl flowers that were held on by a string to our butts. 8 of 11 of us maids lost the flowers walking up the aisle. Her MOH trio had same mess but in lime vs orange. Klassee.

jenna8984

Is this a super no-no? I have a wedding this weekend that I was debating wearing this with a hot pink blazer over it. Everything else I own is LBD which is very wintery and a little fancy for a barn wedding. But I will absolutely not wear this is y'all deem it a negative. Thanks!!

kitty8403

I am one of those people who will side-eye all white, all black, or all fire engine red at a wedding. Hard. But if you add a jacket in a contrasting color, a colorful belt, or interesting shoes and bag? No problemo.
That pantsuit/jacket sounds very nice.

Maggie0829

@jenna8984 - I would say that dress is a no-no.  I have worn dresses with white in them to weddings but white was not the main color, just an accent.  But I would never wear an all white dress, regardless of length, even if I was pairing it with a colored jacket or sweater or what not.

PrettyGirlLost

jenna8984 said:

Is this a super no-no? I have a wedding this weekend that I was debating wearing this with a hot pink blazer over it. Everything else I own is LBD which is very wintery and a little fancy for a barn wedding. But I will absolutely not wear this is y'all deem it a negative. Thanks!!

I think with a blazer it's fine.

But you are going to get ppl here that tell you not to wear it, why I don't know.

It doesn't look bridal to me at all.

kitty8403

jenna8984 said:

Is this a super no-no? I have a wedding this weekend that I was debating wearing this with a hot pink blazer over it. Everything else I own is LBD which is very wintery and a little fancy for a barn wedding. But I will absolutely not wear this is y'all deem it a negative. Thanks!!

@jenna8984‌ just my personal opinion: the length helps. Some people might object to the neckline but since it's knee length I think you're ok. For a wedding where you are not in the WP, I would add some contrasting color or metallics to break up the white--a wrap, a bag, shoes, maybe a belt or a bright piece of jewelry. Your blazer sounds perfect!