Politely Requesting to PUT YOUR DAMN PHONE AWAY

OwningAHome1981

kitty8403 said:

Thank you kitty8403. I was beginning to think that we and ours were alone in feeling like this. Luckily as I said, the important people in our life- the ones important enough to invite to our wedding- are great, respectful people. Without a reminder they might get overexcited in the moment and try and whip our their phone at an inappropriate time, but with an officiant saying "yeah folks, we'd appreciate no pictures during the ceremony".... They are all respectful enough to comply. Also thanks to our location, they've probably figured out by the time the ceremony starts that they won't be updating Facebook anytime soon- there's no reception within about 3 miles of our venue!

---just to be clear, I think the general issue you're running into here in the forum is that what you are asking sounds a little controlling. TK regs are not fans of anything that comes off like trying to control or micromanage guests. I'm not looking to control anybody or obsessing over perfect pictures. I'm just extremely uncomfortable when people literally start stalking me and shoving lenses in my face. Who needs that kind of stress? I'm relatively resigned that this will happen during the reception, but is it really too much to ask for 10-15 minutes of camera and phone downtime while we're trying to concentrate on getting through our vows? I don't see why that's unreasonable. And slightly different point, but I really would like to know what makes random people (who haven't been asked or hired to do so) think they have the right to follow and photograph the bride doing EVERYTHING on her wedding day--and laugh about it if she objects? The frick. Can't you annoy the parents? Or the groom? Or the wedding party? Or just hold off for a few minutes? Why is that such a bridezilla move, to ask for a little airspace?

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B/c it's your wedding and the attention is on you and if you can't handle it/don't want it, don't have a traditional wedding and elope or do a destination wedding instead. People are there for you and are excited and are going to want to take pictures. That's just how it goes.

Jen4948

The prospect of cameras going off all over the place at my wedding doesn't thrill me to bits either, but I'm letting it go for the following reasons:

1) There really isn't any polite way to make it stop
2) Some members of my family are "serious amateurs" - they are really into photography although they are not professional, and they take really good shots
3) There is one professional photographer in my family-doesn't do weddings, but would take great photos anyway

wrigleyville

moresmores said:

I'm sorry but I just don't get what the fuss is in asking people to put there phones away like I'm spending a shit ton of money for these people to be here at my wedding so I think the least you could do is pay attention to what I've done for you!!!!!! Weddings aren't cheap my friends and if I'm going to pay a thousands of dollars on someone to take pictures of my on my freaking wedding day I don't want any damn iPhones with your bright ass phone covers distracting from my moment!