Different Necklines- Same Necklace

birdybride2014

Hi Girls,

I'm having a dilemma! Our wedding colors are navy blue and gold. The girls bridesmaid dresses are all the same navy blue color and the bouquets they will be carrying will be containing a gold baby's breath that I found with cream flowers, and maybe some green caspia. Anyways, all of the dresses are kneelength, but with different necklines. Because our colors are navy blue and gold, I really want to excentuate the gold with more of a bigger, statement necklace. However, since they have different necklines I am concerned. Three girls are are strapless and two girls have more around the neck straps. Could I just be confident and have them all wear the same necklace, since I am wanting it to be a statemeant? Or will that just look stupid in the end? I really don't want to get them matching braclets because I feel like that would get lost in the gold bouquet. I've also considered getting 3 of the same necklaces for the strappless girls and 2 necklaces for the higher neckline girls- but what if they don't end up meshing well together?

Help

I've attached the necklace that I would like to get for them.

beachyone15

What about shoes? Instead of the necklace, could you tell them to just wear gold shoes to tie in your colors?

birdybride2014

I'm letting them pick between gold and nude, because i feel like they are more likely to either already have nude shoes, or not really be interested in buying gold ones unless they think they will wear them again.

MW5280

I think you have a few options:

- Get 5 different necklaces and let them choose. All bold, big, your style, whatever.

- Get 5 earrings/necklaces and let them decide if they'll wear big earrings or big necklace.

- Tell them to choose something gold that they think will look great with the dress.

The gold is going to stand out against the blue no matter what, so stressing about the accessories isn't worth your sanity.

Your wedding will be a beautiful day. With or without necklaces.

manateehugger

MW5280 said:

I think you have a few options:

- Get 5 different necklaces and let them choose. All bold, big, your style, whatever.

- Get 5 earrings/necklaces and let them decide if they'll wear big earrings or big necklace.

- Tell them to choose something gold that they think will look great with the dress.

The gold is going to stand out against the blue no matter what, so stressing about the accessories isn't worth your sanity.

Your wedding will be a beautiful day. With or without necklaces.

Yup.

And personally, I'd be going with option 3. No one will really care about bridesmaid jewelry.

birdybride2014

Thanks for the help! I like the 2nd idea- 5 earrings/necklaces- that way if they think the necklace looks dumb they can just go for the earrings. I guess I forgot to include that part of their gift is going to be their jewelry, which, I guess, is why I care more than I would normally haha.

theartistformerlyknownas

ccollins91 said:

Thanks for the help! I like the 2nd idea- 5 earrings/necklaces- that way if they think the necklace looks dumb they can just go for the earrings. I guess I forgot to include that part of their gift is going to be their jewelry, which, I guess, is why I care more than I would normally haha.

This is what I did. I bought them each a necklace and earrings before we even bought the dresses, and said they could wear whichever they preferred, or both.

I would caution against doing this as their gift though... gifts shouldn't be part of a requirement for the day. If it's something that contributes to the way you want them to look for your day, it's for you, not for them. 

MW5280

lolo883 said:

ccollins91 said:

Thanks for the help! I like the 2nd idea- 5 earrings/necklaces- that way if they think the necklace looks dumb they can just go for the earrings. I guess I forgot to include that part of their gift is going to be their jewelry, which, I guess, is why I care more than I would normally haha.

This is what I did. I bought them each a necklace and earrings before we even bought the dresses, and said they could wear whichever they preferred, or both.

I would caution against doing this as their gift though... gifts shouldn't be part of a requirement for the day. If it's something that contributes to the way you want them to look for your day, it's for you, not for them. 

This.

@lolo883 is saying it much better than I could. It's like giving a kid school supplies for a birthday gift - they have to have them, but they don't necessarily want them. 

Give your bridesmaids something they'll actually like. A massage. Wine. Gift Card to a movie theater. Something that is actually a gift, not something that they will wear once and then collect dust in their closet. 

JennyColada

I think that you are stressing about this way more than necessary.

Whatever they wear will be fine, whether it's a necklace or earrings or nothing.

Personally, with a higher neckline, I'd prefer earrings or a bracelet myself. I think allowing the girls to wear their own gold jewelry is a great way to take some stress off of you (and save yourself some money, since that way you won't have to buy them any jewelry!) and allow them to be comfortable during your big day!

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I think the ones with the high necklines would look great with statement earrings. They picked out great dresses by the way