Just wanted to give a shout-out to those of you wonderful Knotties who shared this fabulous word with me via these forums: "volun-told." It really came in handy for my MOH...
One of my BM is expecting a baby in a few months; her twin sister (my MOH) is hosting a baby shower in our area for family and friends (the expectant mommy lives about 2 hours away in a major metropolitan city). Almost-mommy is also having a baby shower thrown for her friends in her city by another friend; Almost-mommy also said that her twin sister would help the hostess out.
When my MOH gets the email with a HUGE list of responsibilities, she's shocked. I gave her some ideas on how to reply-telling her that she doesn't need to make any excuses, just that she has X max budget and she would prefer to bake some scones and get the prizes for the games. Long story short, she took my advice and got a nice response back.
The moral of the story? Friends don't let friends get Volun-told.
ETA: Paragraphs...wth?!